Has anyone described their problem to people outside the forum?

I attend 12 step meetings
I have a local sp ok nair as well as APs
One of which is my fraternity brother that knows everything about me.

Also my wife's family knows as well as my mother

 

I have. I realized it really isn't anyone else's business let alone responsibility to know about the details of this and deal with it.

I mean seek help and share your struggle by all means but honestly let's understand no one can change us except the person in the mirror.

I do recommend spending more time with others but not in the sense of sitting around talking about urges.

Edit: I went to self-help programs locally and was completely unimpressed yet there's one not related to sex addiction but all addictions that isn't so bad on Tuesdays I might start going to again just to remind myself how big of a raging polyaddict I really am.

Porn is the least harmful of my addictions and I don't even view much hardcore material.

 

First off good for you your 36 days is amazing ...see you at 90. And YES I have talked to my friend as well about it she was very positive and supportive.

It felt amazing. For people thinking to do it 2 tips. 1 wait till you build up at least a month of PMO free this will build your confidence.

2. Be VERY careful who you tell. This one kind of goes without saying . You'll know who you can tell.

 

Sounds like you've had a bad experience? I've told several people and not had any positive experiences - the best I've managed is to either not get taken seriously and laughed at briefly, or to get the person in question to at least keep it to themselves.

 

No. Never had a bad experience actually all very supportive. Its unfortunate this happen to you I'm sorry to hear. How is your journey going now?

 

I told my younger brother because he is single father raising his daughter alone. I just wanted him to be aware of how PMO can sneak up on you. I am unashamed of my addiction, and by admitting it, demystifies it. My
brother said he would re-examine his own behaviour as well.

 

Yes, and i got the worse response. They don't see an issue with watching P, they think it's healthy.So i just stopped telling them about my problem.

 

I told my mum last night lmao. Not even kidding.

 

She was cool with it, I used sensitive and appropriate language like "material" instead of P and "gratification" instead of MO.

 

No. Not like I have a problem with PMO, but still I wouldn't tell anyone I'm on this site. Any kind of talk about anything related to sexual behavior makes me extremely unconfortable, and I'm 22. I think that is a worse problem.

 

Ha, where do I begin? My problem is that I'm looking for someone to be an accountability partner for use with accountability software, so I am trying to find someone I know who can do this - and I don't seem to have anyone in my life at all who is capable of doing it.

I suspect one friend of mine has worse P problems than me on the emotional and purely sexual levels, but I'm more affected in terms of my health. Either way, he is a non-starter, even though we are close friends - he's just in massive denial, and struggles with any topic that seems controversial - and this is that! I've talked briefly to him about it years ago, and he was very prickly about it to say the least, and I knew that if I'd pushed things it would have just ended up in a big argument, so we've never discussed it since, and I don't intend to bring it up.

Another guy was just an acquiantance, but get this - he is a G.P., so you'd hope for better really. He was super-dismissive, and just thought it was a joke.

Another guy, a close friend who I've not seen so much of in recent years, wasn't necessarily hostile, but seemed quite put out that I'd brought the subject up in the first place. He was understanding up to a point, but seemed freaked out, and didn't really want to know. Now things are really embarrassing when I do see him.

After these experiences I'm really reluctant to bring it up with anyone, even though I kind of need to. It feels like I need to be prepared to loose a given friendship and potentially face ridicule if I even mention P / Nofap etc. I've spent much of this year trying to think of someone that I can get on side with this so I can use accountability software properly, but struck out so far. It really seems to be a massive taboo, and it's making my journey through all of this much harder.

And as for the point about alcoholism, I think a lot of people I know are pretty hostile about that as well, seeing it as weakness of character. Which doesn't say much about my social circle. I wish I was addicted to drugs, really.

 

Actually, many people masturbate globally, people barely consider quitting it, just like quitting cigarettes. It is brave of people to quit something. So believe yourselves, it is the right thing to do. People who hear that you are struggling with this should admire your courage.

 

Yep, I'm in my late 40's, and I was thinking that there is a generational difference here, in that most people in this community are a lot younger, and maybe have a different experience. Even people I know who like to think of themselves as progressive and open minded calm up about porn.

 

So nofap forum is a good social sphere for you guys