My addiction (i need help)

Hey, so I can't speak from expert experience, but I think there are a lot of folks in the success stories forum that would be happy to share their journey with you. I'm twenty six and I can say that I've been, for the first time in a good half decade or so, weaning off of drink drugs and porn in a tangible way, for the last few months now. I used to obsess over making radical changes in my life and I'd make all sorts of schemes and strategies to outsmart myself and pull up on the ole bootstraps kind of thing, and things had to get really really shitty for me to realize I wasn't going to be the one to save me, not alone anyway.

Between sharing with a buttload of friends and family about this part of me that was quite sick, opening up that extremely private part of my life, and participating in some group counseling and therapy type things, I've been running along a more conscious track or structure to my life, rather than the unconscious one that was running the show for me, dragging me from one shit habit to another to survive the day, for pert near a decade now. I would guess that if you knew how to see your way out of some bad habits you would have done it by now, and you've taken a great first step by participating on here. Now you just have to decide how you are going to let the world in and let others help you let go of the crap you don't want in your life. Maybe finding an accountability partner and learning from those that have taken the journey before you on here is enough. Maybe it'll take a seriously uncomfortable conversation with a family member or friend, or putting in the work to find professional help through a therapist or group in your area.

I would say a healthy suspicion of your own advice, and expressing your worries to someone external to help you think through the thing rationally and make a tangible plan to implement not next week or tomorrow but RIGHT NOW seems to work for most people when it comes to private addictions. Shit can get extremely uncomfortable, but I'm tellin ya I've been able to breathe and talk and look myself in the mirror in such a satisfying way... I had to give up a lot of the daily thrill and excitement of finding a high, and I wouldn't say I'm happy-go-lucky over here, but I do feel fulfilled, which is really damn nice and so worth the sacrifice of giddy happiness when you haven't felt good about yourself for a long time lol... All the unspeakably godawful things I thought would transpire from opening up and asking for help haven't, and things are making sense inside my bones for the first time in a long time.

Edward Snowden was on Joe Rogan's podcast yesterday, he said something to the effect of "Don't stay safe, stay free"... He was referring to a different subject of course, but I think it applies well to those of us trapped by an impulse or addiction as well... Anyway, best of luck to ya, you're never too old to take baby steps mate!

 

"Dont stay safe, stay free" great quote. Did you notice how insane his video and audio quality was in that podcast, he was in higher resolution than joe was

 

I just wrote long post on this here - Help me out of this evil!

Short version is you have to change your routine.
People get absorbed by their activities, they have no time for anything because they are doing "something else".
So one day when you get some and about to start doing your "something else" sit down and listen to the clock tick.
Think hard about what you want and what you should be doing. What would make you say - I did this today, and I am proud.

People order food because they do not have the time to prepare their own food, in vast majority of cases they do not have time because they are doing something that is not really more important than preparing food.
They get absorbed in this "I am doing something" and never actually get anything done. If they are isolated they get depressed and further unmotivated and all self esteem falls apart, they slide in to abuse.

Stopping abuse is killing your current schedule and building new one. You did not have time for other than sitting at your computer all day, so your room or your home is a mess?
How do you think you can stop abuse?

 

@47Vision Thank you for this. Oh how much I can relate. Story of my internal, intrapersonal, thought-based, super-rational life. Thank you!
@Person whatsoever Thank you for your post. Thank you for your honesty. One great man said "If you want something different, you must be someone different." I would only add: If you are to be someone different, you must completely leap from who you think you, find trustworthy outlets and open to radical change. This is much different than you, yourself trying to think your way into someone radically different.

 

Hi...
I have been doing nofap since last 24th of October 2018..
With one relapse on 304th day..
So I can give you complete Idea how you can get out of this cycle..
First of all educate yourself....
How porn is reining your life and how it could do it....
Admit that you are addicted of PMO...
Otherwise you won't get out of PMO.
Now right down all of PMO effects..
Read it every 1-3 hrs of Span..
Do it for 21 days constantly..
And...
Make your life goals is nofap rather than anthiany else it would be your prompri goal...
Through this Goal of nofap you can achieve all of your goals...