Marriage and kids is overrated

I prefer pets and free union

 

Marriage and kids best thi.g that ever happened to me and I'm fighting for everything I have to be what they deserve

 

This

 

I would like to get married one day.

 

no u

 

When I was deep into my addiction I felt that way. I went from being a teen that wanting a wife and four kids to a middle aged man that loved porn and wanted nothing to do with real women or kids.

As I’ve been moving away from a life of constant PMO my thoughts and desires have changed back. Now I very much want to share my life with a good woman in marriage.

I love children but at age 52 I don’t think it’s going to happen and that’s something I regret. Children can be wonderful and can help a person mature as one learns to live unselfishly.

You are right in that one shouldn’t feel forced to marry and/or have kids. But those things are not evil. I will also go out on a limb and say that they aren’t overrated if done in a mature way.

I think we look at those two things as overrated when we see couples where things didn’t go well for one reason or another and the people involved are living unhappily.

There are plenty of people out there that have good marital relationships and are raising children that will soon be contributing members in society. We should focus on the positives and let the negatives teach us what to avoid.

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I will throw in that I don’t think my experience is going to be the same with all who move away from the PMO lifestyle. Some just don’t want marriage and/or kids and no one should try and force those individuals to do so.

 

These collective responses ought to be interesting...

Personally I don't think it is overrated. I like the idea of getting married and having a kid, but the reality of it freaks me out...maybe if I ever meet someone worthwhile those thoughts will change. I also don't want to subject any good woman to go through the struggles of porn addiction. If you ever read the SO threads on here, it is so depressing.

I'm not even sure if society pushes the idea of marriage and children on people as much anymore. Some people and cultures do, but in reality, marriage rates are going down among the millennial generation (at least in the US). So, perhaps it is not as overrated as one may think.

 

Go MGTOW-light.

 

also read "The Rational Male" and unplug yourself from the Matrix!

 

I'm almost 31, and I don't mind the idea of getting married, however I don't believe in the whole soul mate idea. I'm a 6 time uncle, so I don't know if I even want kids

 

Hey, Marriage and kids might not be the path for everyone. You'd still live a fantastic life if you settle down with some pets, or maybe even just living with a friend or family member.

 

I'm 29 and I just want to get married ASAP lol. I just started going to a new Church so hopefully I'll get a girlfriend after getting settled in a bit.

 

Got my first gf back when I was 19 to turn 20 (now 26) and she wanted us to marry from day one... the ironic part of the story - she was a pathological nymph! Been absolutelly scared by the idea of getting married ever since, even though I formerly was willing to and even have children somewhen.

 

I'm 20 and I can't wait to get married and have kids. I think it'll be a blast.

 

I’m going to get married one day when the time is right, but I do agree the whole having kids thing is pushed onto people too much. I have no interest in not only ruining my body, but having kids in general, yet it’s looked at as a “bad thing” you’re not populating the Earth even though families are having like 3 to 5 bloody kids nowadays... I want a more peaceful life, not stressed out and dedicating a ridiculous amount of years as well as money towards raising a child.

 

There is no one size fits all. I personally can’t imagine not having gone through life without my beautiful, smart and funny partner and unbelievable children, now grown and still the center of my life. Whether I die tomorrow or 40 years from now it will be with a smile on my face. But I have seen so many unhappy people who married wrong and it simply ruined them. Many sad lives. Or who really weren’t candidates for marriage but did it because it’s what was expected of them. Of the ones who stayed single it seems that while they usually claim to regret not having had children, they DON’T regret not having been married and having their lives hijacked to the needs of someone else. It simply wasn’t for them. It is not necessarily a “natural” state. Probably a good option for them would have been to have close nieces or nephews, or to volunteer with children. But don’t get married just because your friends all did or your Mom is on your back about it.

 

Marriage and kids are not for everyone. I wouldn't say they are overrated though, as they are both incredible, life changing experiences. But that doesn't mean everyone has to have those experiences.

I'm not sure if I'll have kids or not. Up until very recently, I was not interested AT ALL. Now it's more a matter of having no idea how I could possibly raise kids on the income we have, when we both have to work all the time just to pay for ourselves. It's incredibly difficult. So we're trying to figure that out.

 

Great response. One thing that really bugs me is people who continue having kids but cannot financially support them in the way they need to be supported, along with people in unstable relationships who keep having kids...but that’s a whole different case. I always feel bad for those kids because they end up suffering through no fault of their own. The parents may love children and want a big family, but at the same time, people must think it through. So thank you for being responsible about making the decision and not taking it lightly.