I need a piece of advice

Brother, my advice for you would be just keep going since i'm in a not so different boat here. Believe me or not but attracting girls was never a problem for me ever in my life, even when I was fapping everyday. Girls rate me 10/10 all the time and I get stared at very often But my problem in life has been my massive social anxiety(I just couldn't talk to girls at all). I've had 2 girlfriends in life but even being with them gave me anxiety even though they were my girlfriends.

Lets cut to the chase now. Its been 1 1/2 years since I started nofap (monkmode) it was obviously on/off but my biggest streak is the current one(50 something days now). Things are quite better now as in my confidence is way better ie. I can talk to girls now though still can't flirt so gonna have to work on that. And the getting stared at part, that is straight out of control I can guarantee its 10 folds, even I find straight men staring at me and people being extra nice towards me is just normal now.

Coming to the confidence thing now which is most important to me. I've read many stories on this forum by dudes saying how their dating game was absolutely toss before nofap since they had massive social anxieties as well but after 300-500 days of monkmode their social anxiety is just gone, they can flirt with any girl they want no matter how hot she is and stuff.

So I'm just hanging on and hoping for the best to achieve that sort of confidence in my life. As of coming to getting laid, I'm 24 and have only had sex 3 times in my life (Once with one of my girlfriends and twice I got lucky in the clubs since drinking takes my confidence to another level). So just hold on keep days passing and remember that there's a bright light at the end of this tunnel.

 

The Rational Male is an informative book but I think it's the only book from "The Red Pill" community that you should read. Take what you find valuable and use it as a tool - not as a bible as some people do.
This is not a way to go - communities like pick-up artists and MGTOW are the fringes of society and they tend to get very one-track minded.

The way to go is not to spend your days on forums full of guys talking about girls or reading another book. If you want to get better with girls - start going out on dates. You will know how a bad date looks like, what different types of girls are there, what do you look for in a girl.
If you think you really need more advice I recommend the Based Zeus YT channel. It's light-hearted and funny, but it's solid and practical advice.

 

I cannot give advice to the man who sold Whiterun to the Empire. Vignar Gray-Mane for Jarl.

 

I remember when I was 21 (an entire decade ago) and my situation was very similar to yours. I was a collegiate student-athlete who desperately sought the attention and approval of women, even the moderately (or below average) looking ones since I was very needy and didn't think I deserved any better. Simultaneously, I was very nervous around most of them as I had suffered from social anxiety since my early teenage-years which were caused by some traumatic events.
Thus, my confidence was very low and didn't become better from hearing my team-mates bragging about all of their hookups and conquests.
Looking back at it, I realized that most of my issues back then were PMO-related (hence the anxiety, panic-attacks, lust-addiction and irritability) combined with having a poor father-figure in my home and not having the longer life-experience needed for discovering better and healthier paths in life.

There are two things I strongly recommend all younger men to do (or at least consider) who are in your situation who are struggling with women and many other life-related issues at the moment. The keywords I am mentioning here are the four P's (patience, purpose, progress and perseverance). I might sound a bit blunt but what these simple advice will put you on the right track towards becoming the top 5% of men out there:

-Analyze what your interest are and set up some worthwhile and meaningful goals in life (especially with regards to your occupation, health, family and friends). Then have a burning desire to achieve these goals and focus on them daily. By slowly moving closer towards your goals day by day, you will feel a great sense of purpose and achievement in life and that feeling alone will quench any underlying feelings of neediness you might have at the moment. By staying healthy and doing just fine in life and enjoying the journey (without a woman at your side), your lack of neediness will draw more women to you because in the moment you don't care about women's approval and whether they are in your life or not, they will be drawn to you and that easy-going vibe.
Also, as you start killing it in life you will get in touch with and introduced to more (and better) people which will become great practice for improving social skills.

-Keep in mind that women's SMV (Sexual Market-place Value) generally is peaking between the ages of 18-25 whereas for men it tends to peak between the ages of 35-45. Thus, it mostly sucks being a young male since you haven't started to make any big money yet, haven't lived for very long and have T-levels that are at an all-time high while most women won't even look your way. Just remember that time is on your side and you will have plenty of great things to look forward to in your 30's and 40's if you play your cards right in your 20's. There is some truth to the statement that women age like milk and men like a fine wine.
So, I suggest you read a lot of books about self-improvement and study what successful people do in general. This will give you some great inspiration and tips for your own journey. It is ridiculous how few books (if any) that most men read today and hence one of the reasons for why they are poor and living in scarcity.
By just doing what the other 95% of men are doing which usually is: working a mundane job they hate for years, settling for low-quality of women (because of comfort and poor self-image) and never have any worthwhile goals, purposes and ambitions in life, you will be bound for mediocrity and misery, guaranteed!!

So, keep on focusing on self-improvement first and foremost instead of chasing women and their approval. You can have plenty of sweet attractive women later on if you focus and act on becoming your best version first and foremost.

 

After 3 weeks of nofap I found myself not talking to girls using my mind but my heart or something. It was just automatic. It was reaaly magic.
Also - don't be needy.