New, need advice

Hey guys. I'm new around here, still not familiar with all the forum functionalities. I am not sure if it's the right place to seek help as I already looked for similar nofap groups on facebook, but it wasn't really for me lol as most of those groups are religious motivated. I'm trying this platform as it says 'secular and sex-positive'.
I don't personally think fapping or porn is bad in of itself, I just think I fap a little too much (lol), and that affects my quality of life. I want to gain some control over my body and reduce my masturbation frequency, cause it is wasting a lot of my time which I desperately need to perform better academically.
My problem started a year ago since I moved to college dorm, and found myself spending my free time alone in my room, I started using masturbation as a coping mechanism for school stress.
I'm motivated to make a change. I'm spending my free time working out and socialising. And I downloaded grindr to start having real sex (I'm a horny 19 year old gay virgin xD).
I want to regain control of my time by reducing my masturbation frequency to a reasonable twice a week thing and for that challenge I need some help from guys who have similar goals (please those of you who are aiming to abstain from orgasming for your eternal life don't make me feel like a weak piece of shit xD).
Any help and advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
Ps: hope my english is fine as it's just my fourth language.

 

Thanks man