I cant stand watching porn

Hi Hasan,

Most people here can relate to watching porn but hating it. The woman are treated horribly... like pieces of meat.

When do you look at porn? On a computer? Your phone? What hobbies to you have? Tell us a bit more about yourself. You don't have to worry because you don't have to reveal you name or location. This is all in private.

Cheers, HF

 

Catch the thought instantly as soon as it occurs, then stop it before you end up pmo'ing, tell yourself it's totally unacceptable to watch porn anymore from this moment forwards, you no longer do this, full stop, it's time to become the full new you that you want to be.

Stay on this website, read the long threads full of great advice, watch the positive videos made by people that support your new behaviours. Be strong and forgiving to yourself.

Good luck

 

Hello Hasan,

Each man is trying to conquer pornography here, thus you are just one of them who is going to reveal his own pattern to cope with every stage of pornographic based behaviours.

Yes, taking a baby step is what you need to do here at first, when you are wholly aware of yourself, what causes you to turn back to repeated relapses, then you are likely to be more envisioned for the next probable slips and find ways to hinder them. I always say, not because I want to manipulate my own addiction pornography leaves incomplete in so many ways, mentally, spiritually etc. There is no way to make it rational, sometimes some of us may think that we are exaggerating our state of mind, mood changes, and we are just tying all the negative conditions to this addiction. But truly, an addict, can always be overwhelmed in so many cases just because of his addiction.

Man, in pornographic scenes you just see men tormenting, assaulting women sexually, by words, by actions. It gives you the thought that women out there are all the same, wanting wildly to have sex every man they meet. No way, this is so far away from the reality, it puts blockade on your way in understanding and living your certain indentity. It leaves the impression of women on men very wrongly. So I certainly believe that it gives way to a mind to be harsh, wild, rude towards woman. It changes the inner world the way we look inside people.

In terms of self esteem and self confidence, self restraint. It seems just like a poisonous thing, because it causes an obvious inbalance in hormonal stream. So if you really want to change yourself, take it one day at a time and don't put a 90 days goal lying ahead, because the progression comes with every simple day pushing. Yes, one day at a time.

You'll do that. Best of luck.