It worries me how quickly I like porn again?

The substitution theory as well as the taper off theory seems to be working the best for me.

I’ve been filling my life with healthy activities which I desire to do more than porn. My desires to do the healthy activities are out weighing the desires to look at porn.

Then there’s the taper off theory. There’s different ways to look at this one and it’s controversial to some. Basically I look at it like this: I not going to beat myself up if I slip but I am going to make a concentrated effort to not do it as much and eventually stop it all together. I used to P hours everyday and M at least twice a day. And the PMO was a scheduled part of the day, right before work, right after work, and often times during work.

Now it’s quite infrequent. M about 4-5 times a month and that always happens when I get bored or emotionally bothered by something and give into browsing P. After the deed I quit looking. It’s not hours long binging like it used to be. I’m working on eliminating that too. I want it out of my life complete. I need to do better when bored or upset.

But I say first start finding activities you enjoy that you can throw yourself into. I love indoor wall climbing and it’s becoming a bigger part of my life. Desire for PMO is decreasing rapidly in my life.

Best wishes to you!

 

It reminds me of alcoholics, if they're sober for some time then drink again, they're right back where they started in terms of recovery.

 

What you described is a perfect example of how addictive porn is and why it is a global epidemic. The people that run the porn industry will soon realize how much control and influence they have over peoples everyday lives, if they don't already.

 

I don’t think this has to be the case with PMO. Being right back where we started isn’t necessarily the case.

One thing my counselor taught me was the idea of “Falling Forward”.

That means if we stumble in our attempts we learn from our mistakes and take steps to do better next time.

Also with addiction there is the tendency to beat up ourselves more than we deserve.

If you stumble take a realistic analysis. If you are really trying there will be changes. Acknowledge them and then make plans to avoid what made you stumble.

Be firm in the fight but also don’t be too hard on yourself. Look back at the past to see how you’ve progressed and what you can avoid to do better. Look forward to gain inspiration and believe that you can obtain those realistic goals that you’ve set for yourself.

 

I think that level of commitment necessary to actually stop abuse is much higher than vast majority of people trying to stop put forth.
People say - I want to stop, anonymously to an audience on the internet, they say I want to stop quietly in their mind. They are not prepared in the least to face that demon and look it in the eyes.
This configuration of thought reminds me of oppressed people in general.
Someone comes and takes what is theirs - they do nothing to stop it.
It returns and takes something else - they cry out - not fair but do - nothing
Day after day, parts of them are taken, things they love and cherish, they begin to get angry.
They imagine what they will do - I will kill "it" I will make "it" suffer!
But it comes again and takes something else and that person as angry as he has become - does little but argue.
One day he has nothing left, or something so dear to his heart is taken that he breaks, stands up, with his knees shaking, looks "it" in the eyes and says - No More! He makes no threats he just begins to take back what is his.