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Autumn Challenge [30 DAYS]

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Deleted Account, Oct 1, 2019.

  1. Wet dreams don't really count as relapses if you ask me? I don't think you can control them really, you might be in the clear
     
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  3. Day 5 has passed, and our power came back on!! When I drove home, all the lights were on and it was magical - I've never been so excited to take showers and turn on lights and flush toilets
    Back to the topic at hand, I've adopted an interesting strategy - when I get the urge to fantasize about sex, I go ahead and do it, but I imagine the other person being absolutely miserable. She isn't having a good time, it doesn't feel good, she's just depressed and angry and wants to get it over with. So far it's worked wonders - it's not at all desirable to me if she isn't enjoying herself. I used to just push these things to the back of my mind, where they would fester and grow and strike again even harder, but now I expose porn for what it really is - soulless, loveless, a degrading act that leaves both parties feeling worthless. I'm very thankful for whoever suggested this 5 days ago! It seems counter-intuitive, but it really works for me!
    This video is excellent and gets my idea across much better than I could -
     
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  4. Rex salazar

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    Day 2✓ I'm reaching the state when it all started
     
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  5. Deadpool98

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  6. Day 6!
    Urges were strong today, I narrowly scraped by (I believe this is the infamous chaser effect). The strategy I mentioned in my last post wasn't as effective this time - I'm thinking about combining it with something stimulating (a jog or cold shower or eating or what have you). Perhaps remaining inactive while you do it doesn't work as well.
    I'm also trying to get used to cold showers - the warm water was so nice I didn't want to give it up, so I did a fun thing where I'd make it cold if I got an urge, then heat it back up again when it died down
    Links!
    https://reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/2jsldz/she_is_lucky_to_have_you_as_her_boyfriend/ (this might be a bit triggering if you're single like me, but I found it helpful)
    http://i.imgur.com/ZCcHZIZ.jpg
    https://imgur.com/GazWaSf
    https://overdueadventure.files.word...s-the-first-day-of-the-rest-of-your-life2.jpg
     
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  7. Deadpool98

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    When i get an urge what i usually do is get away from the spur of the moment and go outside it helps me to remind myself why i started my journey.

    For the cold shower i have a trick, i start with lukewarm or the temperature i'm comfortable with and as i shower i decrease the hot water little by little and by the end it is fully cold and my body is able to take it. I hope this might help you.

    Do you still play tf2? The only class i was good at was pyro and everybody hated it lol.
     
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  9. Rex salazar

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    Relapsed sorry didn't mean to but the temptations were beyond control
     
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  11. Those are great ideas! I've used to be in the habit of going for a walk every day, gotta get back into that - I'm glad it helps you as well!
    And I will definitely try that next time - I hear it's quite refreshing once you get used to it

    Haha there's no shame in being good at Pyro, people just don't like to take responsibility for dying and blame it on your class or weapon or what have you
    I main Soldier, which I actually think takes less skill to play well - as a Pyro you have to ambush people and outsmart them to get in close, and as a Soldier you just shoot their feet
     
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  12. Day 7!! I made it to a week for the first time in a long time and I feel FABULOUS~

    The urges haven't gone away, but I can feel them getting weaker! Can't let my guard down - I've made the mistake of underestimating an urge before, not doing that again - but as I've said so many times that you're probably sick of it by now, I'm very optimistic about what the future holds:)

    Today's link is probably my favorite so far-
    https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/37jnrh/dear_future_me/
     
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  13. Deadpool98

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    Day 0 :emoji_ballot_box_with_check:
    I gave into my temptation. This time i will be more cautious and avoid it at all costs.
     
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  14. Rex salazar

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  15. WHOA I've been neglecting these updates, shame on me
    Day 8 went wonderfully well! After putting on a lovely closing night at my community theater, I realized that my ex was in the audience - that shook me up at first, but to my surprise, she approached me for the first time in 8 months! We apologized to each other, and had a really nice conversation - it felt like we were friends again, and it was wonderful
    I've been waiting for that moment for a long time now, and it may have never happened if I hadn't gone on this journey. I'm already becoming more approachable, and I'm so thankful for my God and the countless resources that have helped me along the way. I pray this will encourage you if loneliness is trying to tempt you off-course - it's always darkest before the dawn
    Day 9 came with a few challenges, but it's become easier to resist now that my former sweetheart and I are reforming our relationship (maybe not romantically, I've heard the horror stories of people getting back with their ex, but she's a good person and would never hurt me intentionally - basically I'm not sure where this is going but it makes us happy so whatever haha). Having someone to fight for is a huge help, and it doesn't have to be a romantic partner (or a former one) - think about the person you love the most (platonically or otherwise) - text them if you can, but if not, think about them laughing after a joke you told them or sharing a meaningful conversation with you. Ask yourself whether you really want to choose PMO over moments like that.
    Now it's Day 10! We're in the double digits now! And boy, did I dodge a bullet - some bad dreams (no sex, but still very suggestive) coupled with a few pretty faces in town, and I nearly drove myself off the cliff again; I was only really able to stop before it got bad because of a slow internet connection combined with me feeling slightly ill and weak. Thinking about how I would feel after doing it was helpful - in fact, I felt nauseous just thinking about it, which is a good sign. Still, it was way too close for comfort - perhaps I let my guard down after day 8. I'm thinking about moving my laptop to another room, which will come with the added bonus of helping me sleep better (they say your bedroom should only be used for sleeping, it'll help your brain wind down)

    Success stories, words of wisdom, and even some workout routines (a bit unorthodox, but it helps):
    https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/dqwuat/benefits_after_50_days_of_semen_retention/
    https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/316dwb/be_a_man_of_high_quality/
    http://cdn.motivationgrid.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/02/15.jpg
    http://i.imgur.com/JBJHNWW.jpg
     
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  16. Rex salazar

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    You're quite lucky and you are also a very sweet person as it seems but can anyone here help me?
     
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  17. Deadpool98

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    What you want help with?
     
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  18. Rex salazar

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    Intrusive thoughts and flashbacks and p scenario imaginations visions and comparison
     
  19. Deadpool98

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    It happens when you don't watch p for awhile when you've been watching it on a regular basis. Ik it's tough but remember each time you control yourself from watching it the more your mind becomes accustomed to discarding porn from your thoughts. I've never been able to control myself for a long time so i can't tell you any methods for controlling it. Try opening a thread ppl might help you with some suggestions.
     
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