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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Ramble On, Sep 5, 2019.

  1. I have a 20 year porn chat room addiction. I changed jobs to a company where I can't at work anymore but I'm finding I get up early to get to chat rooms and then come in late. It's still destroying me.
    Then I put a few hours in at night with chat rooms.
    I've got to be spending at least 20 hours a day with it.
    I want that time back. I want focus at work back.
     
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  2. Have you ever looked into accountability software? It has been a big help to me over the years.
     
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  3. I've tried it. Unfortunately there is no software that I can't get through quickly when I want to.
    I'm getting to a point in life where soon I will be addicted to porn for more tests than I wasn't. It's scary. I want to get back to being myself but soon, this will be who I was mostly
     
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  4. It's more the accountability than the software that I have found helpful. Who are your APs? Who do you check in with every day? It is difficult to go alone -- we do far better in recovery when we travel together!
     
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  5. Right now.. No one
     
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  6. That may be part of the issue. This site is a great place to find support and APs. And IRL support meetings are also very helpful. I have done much of both.

    We truly are in this fight together, but it's up to each of us to reach out for help when we need it.
     
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  7. I'm going to post in the AP section. I did it on another site once. Maybe 8 years ago but the guy just wanted to talk about porn. He didn't want to stop.
     
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  8. Hello and welcome! :)

    We are glad to have you as a part of our community. Here are some quick links to get you started.

    Getting Started Guide | How to Use the NoFap Forums | Panic Button | Day Counter | Rebooting Resources | Forum Rules | Glossary

    If you wish to keep a journal of your progress you can do so in the appropriate section found here

    You can also take part in one of the many challenges available. It can be a tremendous help. Challenges

    Also, there are groups you can also join if you wish to do so. You can browse through them here. Groups

    There are plenty of wonderful, friendly and knowledgeable people here to help you along on your journey to a life free of PMO. I wish you nothing but the best!
     
  9. If you don't have any takers after a few days, please reach out to me. I would be happy to add you to my team.
     
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  10. Heyyy welcome to the NoFap forum : ) It's nice to see you here fighting the good fight alongside us!

    Here is just some advice:

    First and foremost please take a look at each section in the forum, there might be something(s) you may find of big help to you. Feel free to post there :+)

    Then secondly I just strongly advise you to be active on your profile(as there quite a few active people in the profile section). Please start by choosing an avatar and then make daily status posts to show you're active and needing support/encouragement. They've also got a neat little feature that shows freshly posted statuses for all users to see. People will find your profile and give you encouragement/support.

    People (are beginning to) love communicating in the profilesection..(it should be and is )mostly spportive talk but it doesn't hurt to deviate from supportive talk. It would be great to have you join in and support others in the threads, profiles, and journal, we could always use your help and in return you shall receive some as well!

    Thirdly, You should also highly consider creating a public journal and write about your days in more depth for us members to follow along your journey and offer support to you by way of posting in your journal.

    Last but not least: Good luck on your journey here, make sure to really give it a try with all your heart!
     
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  11. Thanks everyone. I disappeared down a hole for a few days. I probably spent 10 of my waking hours with chatrooms this weekend. And then again this morning about 1.5 hours. I'm back though.
     
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  12. Hey there - my addiction was/is to edging while in chat sites. The thrill of looking for a person with similar enthusiasms or appetites. This was followed by the rush of edging while chatting. It is a very tough addiction to break. I took some wrong steps after I first got here, but I feel like I am on track now.

    I am sorry you ran into a person who wanted to talk pron. I had that happen too and fell into a bad pattern.

    Let me know if you want to converse.

    You can do this!!

    J.
     
  13. I've gone 11 days. Don't know how I did it. Sometimes I think I'll go in the computer to a chat room but I think better if it and don't.
     
  14. Way to go! Keep it up!
     
  15. 12 days. I feel like it's getting easier to avoid chatrooms. I'm really not thinking of it. It doesn't appeal to me.
    Trying to not think about not thinking about it if that makes sense.
    Trying not to think about the 12 days and just live normally.
     
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  16. One day at a time is the only way we get through this.
     
  17. I love not thinking about porn.
     
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  18. 13 days and I feel better than ever. Just feel a sense of well being.
     
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