1. Welcome to NoFap! We have disabled new forum accounts from being registered for the time being. In the meantime, you can join our weekly accountability groups.
    Dismiss Notice

Good porn blockers?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by lolos, Nov 4, 2019.

  1. Since the "Big Dick Jones" sells all kind of pills on his program does he offer a safe and anti-spy porn blocker? :D
     
  2. manwiththeplan

    manwiththeplan Fapstronaut

    23
    88
    13
    It definitely comes off as a personal attack when you are struggling, asking for advice and the people on Nofap just want to bash your willpower instead of help you.
     
    Forty6 and II and lolos like this.
  3. Same. Not sure why. Guess I just got sick of the shame and guilt.
    Same. This is the most difficult part because I have a vivid imagination. Plus once you learn how to
    fuck a pillow you don't really un-learn that.
     
    CTRL + DEL likes this.
  4. No but if you haven't tried one of my water filters you're missing out. We just released a new line of improved and modular filters that can fit in any under-the-sink fixture. Go to infowarsstore.com now for a one-time 30% discount. And while you're at it, stock up on some Brain Force and Super Male vitality and be sure to check our other fantastic natural remedies!

    IF YOU ARE RECEIVING THIS TRANSMISSION - YOU ARE THE RESISTANCE!

    Mods, this is a joke, I'm not advertising anything
     
    Deleted Account likes this.
  5. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

    1,607
    30,784
    143
    I don't fuck any pillows, but I do have some bad habits of my own. I haven't engaged in any for a long time, but the thoughts do return.
    Auto-fellatio. Don't know why this keeps bugging at me still, especially since it never really felt right (i'm straight).
     
  6. Goals.
     
  7. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

    1,607
    30,784
    143
    Aye. Good luck on your journey man.
     
  8. I can touch my forehead to my knees but I don't have the spinal flexibility. I should probably stop talking about this because ban.
     
  9. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

    1,607
    30,784
    143
    Please don't try it again. Ever. Once you manage to do it the first time, the whole taboo barrier is breached. After that, it's just an extension of your addiction. It really messed me up in the past, because it's disgusting asf. They say every guy's tried to see if they can do it once, but for those who've succeeded (lol), it's not worth it at all. At all.

    Yeah. I'm closing off this topic now. Stay strong man.
     
    FellatiousD likes this.
  10. DerSchütze

    DerSchütze Fapstronaut

    OpenDNS
    Qustudio
    The hosts file on windows
    App lockers on mobile
     
  11. lolos

    lolos Fapstronaut

    You say its easy but then you say relapse every now and then. Your streaks at one day now. I think you are rationalising your addiction brother.
     
  12. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

    1,607
    30,784
    143
    The last time I relapsed with porn was around 2 months ago. My relapses are almost always MO. I'm pretty sure I mentioned this already.

    I'm not saying it's easy beating PMO; just the P bit.
     
  13. I like this quote very much.
    Then you probably were never addicted. You were curious and looked at "probably every kind of porn out there". But it didn't grew into a full-blown addiction. Good for you.
    You're right. As an addict (and I'm one myself) you can't just stop the habit. You need to admit your powerlessness first (first step in Twelve-step programs). Then you can do a lot of indirect actions to get your life in order and adress your addiction. But at some point you need to say no. You can't forever repose on the believe that you're an addict.
    I have thought about this for a while. And for me it's seems like a paradox. I think we need to do all the work (without getting addicted to recovery or get lost in details), we have to feel the pain, accept powerlessness and the losses, use willpower again, behave like a sane person. At some point we will push through!
     
    CTRL + DEL likes this.
  14. CTRL + DEL

    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

    1,607
    30,784
    143
    Lol this describes it exactly. Those were some really... interesting... hours on the deep web.
    For a bit, I must admit it did. Normal porn, that is. As a young teen, while I was 14 and 15, porn accompanied every relapse.

    Honestly, my first reason for quitting porn was the sh!t acting. Once I found better videos which could convince me that the sh!t wasn't scripted, my next reason was that P would make me nut too fast because the scenes were good XD Quite funny tbh.

    Once I analyzed porn objectivity, it was really easy seeing past the lies. I literally became (and proudly still am) incapable of relapsing to P. Unless I have the natural urge to MO, P itself cannot stimulate me on its own. I just keep thinking about the cameraman every single time and it wierds me the hell out how close he's jamming the camera into the actors'... parts. Nasty and wierd asf.
    Thank you ^^
     
    icebreaker polarstern likes this.
  15. lolos

    lolos Fapstronaut

    Bruh pretty sure the 12 step has a higher relapse rate then no treatment at all, its bullshit. Fuck accepting powerlessness, I'm going to do everything I can to stop myself from relapsing, including accepting my shortcomings, ie sometimes, no matter how much I don't want to relapse I will feel like watching porn and give into my temptations, so I should use a porn blocker.
     
    Deleted Account and Demodectic like this.
  16. Koloz

    Koloz Fapstronaut

    36
    25
    18
  17. Forty6 and II

    Forty6 and II Fapstronaut

    12
    3
    3
    I posted just yesterday about porn blockers as id love a replacement for K9 on my laptop. I honestly get sick of hearing people claim your own 'willpower' is the porn blocker. If anyones ever read a book on addiction of any sort they would know environmental changes are drastically going to increase your chances for success and you cannot rely on willpower alone. Willpower is great and useful, but like a muscle it wears down throughout the day with use, and like a muscle it gets stronger over time with use (overtime). But theres times when we just need to distance ourselves from the vice, especially when you just cant stop. Porn blockers do that.
    Just as someone who is trying to give up cigarettes wouldn't leave a pack on their bedside table, or in their house, why should porn addicts be told they dont have to remove porn from their house, at least in the short term or at critical moments? and its especially rich when someone who 'knowingly' suggests rely on yourself is someone who found 'quitting porn quite easy'. Maybe they should spend more time listening to other peoples battles and learning more about how the addiction effects people differently rather then assuming their case fits all.
     
    Last edited: Nov 9, 2019
    lolos likes this.
  18. Forty6 and II

    Forty6 and II Fapstronaut

    12
    3
    3
    On the 'powerlessness' topic, i actually respect this concept. Its not to say we cant overcome the addiction, its to say if we sit back and change nothing about our lives and make no real effort, we are powerless to change. Its by building our knowledge bases, making environmental changes, using blockers, improving our lifestyle, day to day whatever it is that helps, we can then empower ourselves to bring about change. you have all the power at your disposal if you use it, but without changing anything an addict will be powerless.
     
    icebreaker polarstern likes this.
  19. lolos

    lolos Fapstronaut

    I completely agree with your previous post, you said it perfectly.

    I think the point that guy was trying to make about powerlessness is accepting that we cannot control our urges and ultimately they have the final say in how we act. I think part of the 12 step program is even accepting that you will eventually relapse. Fuck that kind of powerlessness, as you said in your previous post it is better to understand the limitations of our own willpower and put ourselves in a situation where we don't have to rely on our willpower.
     
  20. Every sane program of addiction treatment teaches tools to deal with urges. Otherwise it would in fact be total "bullshit".
    I don't know the 12-step program from inside but I have much respect for it.

    Just one word on "accepting powerlessness". It may be only of great importance for those who are totally consumed by their addiction. If every thing you do plays in the hand of your addiction then all the power you can mobilize will just add to your selfdestruction.

    However, now I wonder why I wrote this
    "You need to admit your powerlessness first ... THEN you can ..."
    Does this really makes sense? Is it helpful?

    When I started my recovery it wasn't excactly these words. But it was an admission: I said I am an addict. And it wasn't just a label it wasn't an excuse or a self-fulfilling prophecy but it was simply true.
    In retrospective I don't think it took power from me. On the contrary!

    At first I saw that I've got a serious problem (with porn) then I found nofap which told me about porn addiction and a way out, then I admitted defeat and started my Journey.

    But for me "I am an addict" didn't just mean to diagnose a condition that I suffer from. It meant (after some progress) to see and accept the whole bancrupty of my life! What I had did so far (from early adulthood on) hadn't workd AND it had led me into addiction(s).

    Ok, maybe it's better to say:
    admit your defeat to this point, forgive yourself and move on (or something like this).

    The rest is up to you :p
    As much as I like to have these discussion, it won't give me anymore power to let the addiction behind me. I already have the tools. I know what it takes. But I can prove only by action that I have what it takes.

    Still, I hope I could be of help!
    Get help and help others. Move on.
     
    Forty6 and II likes this.

Share This Page