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Girlfriend on nofap??

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by HardWorkOnly, Nov 12, 2019.

  1. HardWorkOnly

    HardWorkOnly Fapstronaut

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    hello guys i want to know if it is ok for me to have a girlfriend during nofap??, i'm single now but you never know how things will come
     
  2. CTRL + DEL

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    It's not an issue for many. Most people here will encourage it, even.

    Thing is, this depends entirely on what you're using nofap for. If you're using it to quit P, then i would agree- go ahead and get laid irl instead of jacking off to some woman.

    However, if you're using it to quit M or O, things get a bit complicated. If you're gonna end up using her vagina as a substitute for a M addiction, it's not really an improvement. Contrary to what many people here may say, the point of having a gf isn't mainly to satisfy your sexual needs. If you believe you can handle and protect her, even outside of your sex life, then I encourage you to give it a try.

    On the other hand, if you feel you're in a position where you can't even manage your own life (not just addiction wise), it's best you refrain from courtship until a time where you feel you've matured enough.

    You're 18, so I'm giving you sincere advice here.
     
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  3. HardWorkOnly

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    thanks for your reply , im 19 years old virgin ,i would like to have a girlfriend not only for sex but i just want to love someone and take that love back,but i've heard others that said if you have a girlfriend you may mess up your brain because you are i a rebooting situation,and that i will be in a long time flatline,plus i want to quit porn and to minimize masturbation,i was masturbating almost 5 times a day average,so if i make as a goal to just only have sex i would have sex the most 1 a day so i think it is an improvement of just masturbating 5 times a day,so you think i could try to have a girlfriend??, sorry for my bad english i hope you understand what i want to say,
     
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    I think that this statement alone gives me a poor impression of what you're expecting out of a girlfriend.

    Were I in your situation, no, I would most definitely not get a gf, for many, many reasons. That's not to say you shouldn't, but I'm only giving you my opinion here. Having sex once everyday is quite beyond what most girls will be willing to do, regardless of however amazing you think you are in bed. The sex drive of most females is less than that of males, so it's likely to me that you shifting out of a M addiction towards sex will cause you to seek it out a lot more than she would (likely) be able to accommodate for you, leading to some definite awkwardness.

    And I haven't begun addressing the fact that you're still a M addict (if you use porn, that's worse). Sure, lots of guys here have gf's, but one quick trip to the Significant Others section of the forum can show you just how impactful this addiction can be on the women we love. Don't let your girl suffer because of your weakness.

    Become a man she can count on. Beat the addiction (at least weaken it to one M a week of 7 days imo) and then explore this venture. You have a long life ahead of you, and you can only lose your virginity once. Make it an epic moment.
     
  5. HardWorkOnly

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    I have 45 days since the last time i pmo, and i dont mean that i want sex every day ,im more into love than into sex,but you said befere that if i want to beat the masturbation addiction would not be a good idea to find a girlfriend,but i think is not the same i would have sex several times a week,that i think would not keep me back with my masturbation recovery,so i want to know if the brean will mess up if i will have sex during the nofap
     
  6. Have a girlfriend (or two)! Have sex! It's great to ejaculate inside a vagina instead of on a napkin or tissue. I always say men are good at two things: fighting and fucking. It's HEALTHY for a man to want to be strong, have sex, and want to make babies. Women are attracted to men who can fight and who can fuck. Don't be shy about being manly and strong. It's only natural. What ISN'T natural is porn! Porn takes advantage of our natural tendencies and makes us addicted to something that's fake. I said in another post somewhere, "Candy is good, but fruit is better."
     
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    CTRL + DEL Fapstronaut

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    If you're so confident in yourself, have a go at it ^^ I see no reason to demotivate you.
    Go out there and find yourself a mistress and see how it works out for the both of you ;)
     
  8. Demodectic

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    Since we dont know when the next girlfriend opportunity will arrive I think you should seize the opportunity. I mean to go on a few dates. But certainly dont say the word "girlfriend" to her because alot of girls will get scared off. Let her say it when its time.

    But if you are 18 I would not even drop anchor with a single girl, date as many as you can
     
  9. When I broke up with my first girlfriend, I told her that I only was interested in her for sex. I was incapable of loving her because of what I had done to myself with porn. Personally, I believe I need a break from O entirely in order to restructure my priorities back into the right order. You have to evaluate yourself and determine what's best.
     
  10. HardWorkOnly

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    So you guys think that there will be no problem in my reboot to be with a girl?? What about the flatline that other say,they say that i will get in a long flatline because of having sex in reboot
     

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