[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Day 2 finished 2.22% done already

 

well, the mindset is already a little over the edge bro. you don´t "need" anything or anything "fast", that´s the impulsiveness talking again. you just need to stay this day pmo clean. big changes are made with small steps. one day at a time.

your strategy should be based not on "becoming anything" because the mind will create the perfect life = high standarts = hard to achieve = frustration = relapse.

you´ll get the life that you dream of yes, not by forcing it, but to enjoying it step by step. enjoy this day to the maximum bro without using pmo. that´s it. just develop a strategy to not screw up today. then tomorrow, and so on. soon you´ll achieve 5 days, then 10, then 15 and so on....

when you gonna build a castle you don´t think on the size of the task, you´ll be unmotivated just to think how hard will it be to achieve. no, when you build a castle you think on the brick, just the brick, today. soon you´ll have a wall and so on....

 

the wrong direction?

 

well, that´s a fine example how things escalade. it happened to me many times also brother. lesson nº 1: never peak, especially the curiosity peak, never do that. once you peak, the images will start drilling in the brain until you peak again... and again... and again. the obsession it will not stop. it will put you on your knees begging for more and it will stop when you relapse.

so try to see where you allowed yourself that first glance, what was happening? boredom? stress? hurt? manage that feelings in constructives way brother, it´s crucial that you develop those coping skills. let´s go!!!!

 

well, unless your a fan of fasting i don´t see any benefits in punishing your body over the relapse. plus if you don´t succeed in the task, you´ll be even more frustrated and the tendency to relapse again will arise.

why not change the consequence? lot´s of brothers do "money consequences", it means if you relapse you´ll donate some money to something, maybe it´s better, it will hurt the same, but only your wallet

 

58 days my brothers, today major urge caught me out of balance, almost peaked. but i refrain myself and read my mobile memo instead, especially the last part hit me "(...) any pmo will only delay my recovery". then i clearly saw that peaking was pointless and dangerous. pfiiiiuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

Let´s go!!!!

 

I had never heard that before. Love it! Really useful, thanks!

 

Hey team! Hope everyone is doing well
6th day done. Stupid early start was tough, but made it through the day. Lay in tomorrow for sure! Must be vigilant when in that mode though. Lots I want to do tomorrow, so looking forward to getting up, but seriously need a big sleep catch up!

 

Day29.
Yesterday i was redirected suddenly to nudes page. Which was highly unexpected. Immediately i closed the page. Today i feel a bit off mood. I feel lazy too. Lol.

 

1/90

 

well , i have done this money thing in the past and it doesnt made any difference , to me , so money is not the motivating factor for me , i think this time i should punish myself with this thing otherwise if you have any better punishments then please suggest me , i literally fed up of this addiction , even smokers can quit their smoking within some years but why cant we quit this PMO .

 

Day 39 of 90 No PMO 15-11-2019
51 to go 43,33% reached
+10 days no PO

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Day 2!

 

11 days

 

Day 8!

 

Daily check-in, on day 20.

 

Masturbation is like shopping, we spend our health in exchange for fleeting moments of pleasure. Many people due to their greed of indulgence have become impotent, due to their ignorance in medicine. I hope these words is able to strike a note with the reader.

 

Day 44/90!

 

The 10 stages of rebooting.

Stage 1: This is when we realize that masturbation is affecting our healthy negatively and we have a thought about quitting. However, after reading about the harmlessness theories of masturbation we are not so determined anymore, we think that masturbation in moderation should do us no harm. This is the very initial stage of rebooting which is characterized by ignorance and naivety. The result: failure!

Stage 2: We gain a small understanding of the harmful effects of masturbation, but not a thorough understanding. The result: failure!



Stage 3: We begin to study other peoples’ experience of rebooting and we try to break our rebooting record. Although we have managed to set a new record on the number of rebooting days we are still unable to break out of the vicious cycle. The result: failure!


Stage 4: This is the confusion stage, after numerous failures, we start to doubt ourselves. At this stage, we are not putting in enough of a fight, no fight no victory! The result: failure.


Stage 5: Our body gives out signals once again and it’s clear that our health has deteriorated. Once again we make up our minds to quit and rely helplessly on the brute force method without learning about the correct methods. The result: failure.


Stage 6: We begin to see the harmlessness theory for what it is, that it only works to trick the “children”. This is when we experience a breakthrough in our way of thinking but we still fail to understand why we are unable to quit masturbation. The result: failure.


Stage 7: This is the stage of understanding, gained from reading vast amounts of rebooting articles, we begin to acknowledge spiritual teachings (such as Buddhism) which helps to increase our determination tremendously, we break the 100-day streak. The result: still failure.


Stage 8: The thorough cleansing stage, we are starting to cleanse ourselves both consciously and unconsciously. Once this idea has entered our subconscious we easily break the 200-day barrier. There may come one day when we are browsing the internet and have our guard down or we have been slack in our rebooting studies, we therefore stumble near the finishing line. The result: still failure.


Stage 9: We are almost there now and have become even more careful, our understanding takes on another level. We are no longer affected by dirty thoughts, what we see do not enter our intentions, what other people sees and like we react with caution. We are steady in our heart even amidst rough winds of thoughts. We have discarded the habit of masturbation altogether.

Stage 10: “Nothing to begin with, how can nothing stir the dust”. We have come to the highest stage where all things returns to simplicity, just as the “sweeping monk” from Jin Yong’s martial art novels. Great skill is hidden in plain site, this is only achieved by the Master. Tips: Everyone should be able to find their current stage in rebooting, just like in video games we have our levels, once we have reached that level success will come. If our level of understanding is not there we will have a hard time to quit masturbation, for a master there is no difficulty, while mastery is difficult to achieve for a layman. Hopefully, everyone will continue to study rebooting articles, the day when we find our “aha” moment is the day when we can walk away from masturbation for good. For the few bright people with keen minds, they are able to skip over stages just as a bright student is able to skip grades and the poor student will need to remain in the same grade.

 

day 16!