I'm starting to become ashamed of this community

The thing is, I did pick my words wisely. What I said wasn't even offensive at all. It was very mild. And the response was outrageous. Some people just can't handle a woman speaking their mind, unless they agree with them. I'm completely fine with disagreeing. I'm very good at disagreeing with people and still being willing to converse and respect each others difference of opinions. But that doesn't apply to sexism, racism, or the like. Those "opinions" are not respectable.

I'm not sure I agree with that, when it comes to this kind of thing. I mean, imagine there were a ton of people on these forums who constantly said stuff about whites being the superior race and how black people are inferior and don't know anything and shouldn't be listened to or taken seriously, etc. I can barely even type those words as a hypothetical example, because it's so disgusting, and I've heard even WORSE things about women that I literally don't even want to type because they're so appalling. And imagine if those posts were consistently reported and never taken down and the posters are still roaming free, in this very thread. Now imagine you're a black person. Would you want to just ignore it and use the community to benefit yourself, and not worry about the bad parts? I certainly wouldnt. I wouldn't want to be a part of a community whose leaders allow that crap. I wouldn't want to support it in any way. And that's how I feel about this.

We aren't talking about like people disagreeing on politics or something. And it's not just about "some members." It's the people running the site. If it were just some members, it wouldn't be a problem, because if the people running the site were actually intolerant of this kind of crap, then those few people spreading toxicity would be banned. Or at the very least, their posts would be removed. But more often than not, that doesn't happen.

No worries at all! I think you articulated yourself just fine. But I understand not wanting to say more, because it's a difficult subject and you don't want to be misunderstood. No problem. And you have a nice day as well.

 

I totally understand your anger but I really think that you need to relax and maybe take some time away from the forum and then rethink about the situation when you rage ia gone
Your point is valid I'm not saying anything, but try not to act on your emotions, leaving the forum is letting the negative voices take over
Do you think the guys you mentioned represent the community?no one does! We are all a bunch of different people having the same main problems combined in one place, there's some immature people, learn to ignore them, you shouldn't even argue with them because it's pointless
Don't try to change them, ignore them and focus on the ones who deal with you respectfully
It isn't ideal by any means, but it's better than leaving the forum
I hope your voice will be heard, this forum is for all people without exceptions

 

That's true, but blocking people and ignoring controversial posts doesn't change the problem that exists here that I'm not okay with. I don't want to support a community that allows that kind of stuff. So honestly, I probably am going to leave.

 

You're completely missing the point. Yea, someone does represent this community. And that someone is Alexander, and the rest of the leadership here. Those are the people I have a problem with. And I really don't appreciate being told to basically calm down, when I'm trying to address a very serious issue that's important. I'm not going to just continue to ignore it, which is what it sounds like a lot of you want. Sorry, no. I've ignored it long enough.

 

Hi everyone,

@Castielle , thanks for bring our attention to this. We are concerned to hear that something like this maybe going on in the forums. We do take our goal of making these forums a safe place for everyone to come and recover seriously. The misogyny we have seen on the forums we have taken down in accordance with our rules. We are a small team though, and we rely a lot of user reports. You could all help us by reporting any misogynist content you may see. We'll try to get to your report as soon as possible. Please be patient, it can often take a few days for reports to be resolved due to backlog.

 

I understand what you mean, but the point is the leadership, as I've said multiple times. It's not about the few people (and it's more than just a few people, honestly, but let's pretend). It's about those few people having no repercussions that actually stop them from hurting people in the future.

Anyway, I'm probably not going to keep responding here. The mod above reached out to my privately, and I appreciate that. I'd rather discuss these issues there and see how things go.

But to be clear, I'm not saying the entire community is bad. Quite the opposite, actually. If I thought this whole community was bad, I would just leave without saying anything. I wouldn't have any interest in trying to point out a way they could make things better, because what would be the point? This community, as a whole, has a lot of good people and good aspects. But it also has some flaws, which I wanted to draw attention to. That's all I wanted to do.

I do apologize if my anger made for some hyperbolic statements. But honestly, if you have an entire thread full of people ganging up on you and saying all kinds of misogynistic crap, and have to report it several times and kick up a huge fuss for it to be taken seriously, you'd probably be kind of angry and fed up too.

 

I’d be all for a female only place, because they can’t and couldn’t possibly understand since they’re not women. In my honest opinion it would be more relatable, and I would probably have a better time than on here, though I’d miss some blokes from here for sure. Having more options is always a good thing, especially when you’re in something male dominated, so nothing bad towards the guys here in general it can just be a little too overwhelming and awkward.

 

Nobody stops you from leaving. Why are you and your anger here?
Personally I love women as much as I love music, life and everything else I love lol. Seriously, I don't treat women like shit or at least don't mean to. What I treat bad is bad actions, bad attitude. You whine about a lots of things and make us look like some goddamn maniacs or something. Just the fact you block someone who disagrees with you is telling a lot about you.
You can be a sweet lady, normal, nice human being, but you have chosen to be mad about everything and just set our asses on fire with just not being okay with everything we say. You radiate feminists vibe. And I mean this mean, mad feminist with no point. You just get mad over small things or just whine too much. Cmon, lady. We can love you as much as everyone else, and we want to, but you just push us away and also spit on us with your anger.

Attitude causes attitude or whatever they say

 

And it once again seems just crazy how you don't want to accept difference between me and you and next guy from you and first guy from you and another one and another one and blah blah blah. WE ALL ARE DIFFERENT! It's not idiotic! It's not crazy! It's just different! For you it may seem so, but it's not, sweet lady!
Look at things this way. Some guy's name is for example Sheik Yerbuti Onmafes. You may laugh about it or call it idiotic, but in that culture that may mean something really saint and beautiful, divine. And you laugh, cause for you it seems to be bullshit. If that's the way you look at life, then don't wonder why you can't accept a lots of things in forum.

Rainbow has a lots of colors and it's beautiful because of it. For me it seems you hate rainbows. You just like one color in the rainbow and that's it.

 

I also have a vibe about you that just yells "She has no point" I'm not saying you don't have one, but I just feel like you're using all these smart sounding words just to seem to be right, when in really simple speech you wouldn't sound so right/confident. Just being able to give your point with just throwing out couple of words already means you know wtf you're on and up to, but you just write fucking books in each of your comments, and that makes me laugh about the stuff you write here. It's just empty with fat look, if you get what I mean.

 

Well, I honestly hope you stay but I know that’s ultimately up to you. You’re certainly valuable to folks here especially with women than you probably realise, so hopefully you reconsider and realise these users here aren’t the majority.