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Prostitutes over porn - does it help? My experience.

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by hunter101, Sep 27, 2019.

  1. Homelander

    Homelander Fapstronaut

    Thanks! I did not know that but I will google on it whilst avoiding clicking on nasty porn sites. Hahaha.
    I hope I can try it in a few days, but I still have the difficult task to inform my date that I have PIED issues.
     
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  2. I feel you can cure PIED with regular and intense excercise + intimacy with partner

    Curing pied needs a lifestyle change...a change where blood and energy is freely flowing through your body and mind

    Therefore i recommend high adrenaline activites alongside nofap. Becareful about your diet as well...quit smoking and drinking if you do

    My PIED got cured that way
     
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  3. Thank you for your response mate...sorry it took me a while to respond

    I fully agree with you that for a large part the media and movies are contributing to this rampant sex obsessed society we live in.

    In my opinion, any sex without love and a heartfelt connection is dysfuntional. This can be in the form of prostitutes, pmo, overindulgence in sex. A large proportion of society is a victim foof some form of sexual dysfunction.

    I believe only introspection and awareness can help us overcome

    I will be setting up a challenge for us shortly....

    Till then stay strong, i am sure you will overcome this...the seed has been planted
     
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  4. Hell yes. I am determined to. It’s doable. Beating porn has taught me that.
     
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  5. That was rude and unhelpful.
     
  6. pump20

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    Thou shall not commit adultery. Flee from fornication. To me, prostitutes are porn subs. You must quit all of that.
     
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  7. StonePlacidity

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    Prostitute is porn. You get high for a while but then it won't really improve you. Maybe you say going to prostitutes helps with your social skills? Ha

    Also you're spending more money and time if you're going to prostitutes, and you're just seeking for physical enjoyment.
     
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  8. Have you ever seen a prostitute? I have so I can say from experience here that I've had great experiences with prostitution. It improved my life a lot. It improved my social anxiety and depression. If you are just going to shame and guilt me for that then you are being rude and unhelpful.
     
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  9. StonePlacidity

    StonePlacidity Fapstronaut

    I guess each person has their on perspectives and lives. I can't change your life. I'm just giving my own opinion on something. If you find it unhelpful and rude, then sorry its just my way of thinking. o_O We have different values and thats fine.
     
  10. clapas

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    Take the red pill. Women don't love you, they love what you can do for them.

    Women employ the dual dating strategy: when they are young and pretty they will f**k the top 10% by the hundreds for free, and will reject the nice guys that make up the rest of the pool. As their beauty withers, they will look for a nice guy to settle down with and extract his resources from.

    Civilian women have nowadays similar body counts to prostitutes. And they are worse than prostitutes regarding STDs.

    Yes, I believe the bible is correct, but sometimes prostitutes play a therapeutic role in our society, as they avoid all the repressed manly sexual energy from blowing up in the form of aggression and other destructive habits. Nowadays you cannot expect to marry a young virgin, as is also part of the bible narrative, and expect loyalty from her. She will rape-divorce you at the first good opportunity, she will have dozens of substitutes to cheat on you by, she'll be secretly on Tinder while she is in a LTR with you. "She is not yours, it's just your turn."
     
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  11. clapas

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    I'm sorry, but you are very delusional. Girls are encouraged to sleep around since their teens, and they are more than happy to abide.
     
  12. clapas

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    Maybe it is different in China. I don’t know. I doubt it because AWALT.

    I don’t understand what you mean here.
     
  13. You propably won't need prostitutes on Nofap, they may just seem like easy way out of porn, but they are in the same category.
    Also in China they also have huge amount of PMO problems related things, since country is running out of females since female gender in China has really low value and thus people kill female babies on countryside in China. If you don't believe me just google the web, also Chinese people don't have any morals they are free of those thoughts.
     
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  14. clapas

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    Are you suggesting that sexual experience has the same implications on men and women? I disagree.

    Women only need to be present in order to find a sexual mate. Men need to work hard for it.

    Women need discipline to stay virgin. Men need effort to get laid.

    A virgin woman is valued the most. A virgin man, without experience, is valued the least, and will surely turn off any female.

    Women are the gatekeepers. Men are willing to spread their seed without hesitation.

    I could go on and on, but you see the point. Men and women are not the same.

    I'm sorry but your point of view is very naive. If you don't wake up, someone will wake you up.
     
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  15. fredisthebes

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    I am talking from the perspective of a porn/masturbation addict (as this is what this website is about). If you are able to stop for a while, and are able the stick to a limit of one a month, then you do not have an addiction. Similarly, I would not tell someone who views porn once a month, or even once a week, a serious addict, because it clearly doesn't have a significant control over their lives.

    Many people here are unable to stick to these limits. Many people here struggle with escalation, compulsive behaviour, the chaser effect, etc.

    I think the most crucial point here - leaving aside all ethical or health concerns - is that regular prostitution use will not help someone to overcome their porn addiction. It will either have no effect, or replace one addiction with another (potentially worse, certainly pricier) addiction.
     
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  16. mk.brb.ddshvc

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    I have quite same experience with escorts. They are fun when you are horny, but if you don't have great sex with them, like you would have with a girl you hooked up with, you will feel real low. You will feel disgusted. It's quite similar with PMO

    And it's addictive for sure. Even more addictive if you have financial problems. Yeah, shit sucks.

    I kind of met one escort girl that I really fancied. You would feel bad to see such a pretty girl doing escort work lol. I decided to change myself, stopped visiting escorts all together and etc.
    But at the end of the day it's all white knight bullshit. I tried to fuel myself with the desire to be a guy she would fuck with outside of work. And I didn't succeed in it. I still relapsed big time and started visiting escorts/browsing escort sites after abstaining for more than 6 months. And I felt like shit. I visited two escorts during last month and yesterday I tried to visit another. It's bullshit. Stinky pile of shit.

    It feels like I am visiting escorts for not as much as sex, but for escape, for some excitement. Just same as porn. And the worst thing is that I don't know anymore what it feels like to be normal. I can't even clearly say what is wrong with my activity as I don't know anymore what is wrong. It's a release of negative emotions, escape from it. Like if paid sex could change anything in my life.

    And it ruins sex as well. When I visit escorts I am at my lowest and view sex for more than it is, like it's a holy grail that will save me from myself and boredom. And it ruins sex because sex is just sex. And I am not in the moment of it if my partner isn't extremely sexy and the lights are on and I can't see her pretty face. Sometimes I even make out with open eyes. Yeah, it's that bad :(

    Anyways, I would recommend against visiting escorts. The sex quality is mostly low and when you get addicted to this behavior, you will expect good sex every time you visit escort and when you don't get it, you will feel really low and it will further reinforce this addiction. If you don't get the sex you were looking for, what is there else left but to visit another one? And when you look at your bank account you will feel bad.
     
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  17. FormerFapaholic

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    Interesting to read and see your perspective on it, OP. But in the grand scheme of things, replacing porn with prostitutes is either a step backwards or sideways. It's rather like a drug addict swapping heroin or crack cocaine with alcohol.
     
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  18. 7K%>Da$A\#g\8t-%

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    Only my opinion but from my point of view, if you think paying for sex is better than watching porn, you’ve completely missed the point and you should take a step back and reflect on what you really want in life and what this journey is about.

    I’m not saying it’s worse than watching porn alone but like the guy above said, it’s a step sideways at best.
     
  19. fredisthebes

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    of course it is possible. Not everyone in the world is a porn addict (although it can feel like it sometimes).

    Sorry I missed that it is legal where the op is. It's illegal where I am, and I guess for a lot of people here, so that is definitely something some of us have to bear in mind.

    Could travel elsewhere, of course, but that only adds to the financial burden. I know that I have an addictive personality, especially when it comes to sexual things, so it is definitely not for me. But if it works for you, great. No judgement here! Especially not with hook up sites, willing girls and no money exchanging hands, sounds great.
     
  20. No, I don't know why anyone with a functioning brain would even consider asking that. You're getting the same effect, with more financial and moral burden, and you're undirectly supporting sex traficking.
    ''Stop smoking, do something healthier like drinking''
     

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