No empathy or love towards others?

Brother, I know exactly what you are going through. While I don't know the exact nature of your circumstances, for me, I have had a lot of pain related to people because of the harm caused to me by my family, coworkers, classmates, etc. It has been difficult for me to heal and open my heart again. I have come to the realization that when we remain in this state, the only person suffering is us.

The healing starts within you. Learning to treat yourself better and love yourself regardless of people on the outside. Once you come off the PMO, it gives us a chance to heal these things that the addiction has been covering.

I will be making a video soon on this topic, check back later once my signature is updated.

 

I understand. I was always the kid who sat by himself in the cafeteria of 500 kids. But you are not alone. We are different, but different is not bad. I accept you for who you are. Your healing starts when you begin to accept yourself, regardless of what the world thinks.

 

I've been there as well. Your emotions are currently numbed by porn use (and any other habit that you use to suppress uncomfortable feelings / emotions). The solution is to give up porn and allow yourself to deal with the issues that you have, probably unconsciously, been avoiding.. For me that process has involved learning about forgiveness, acceptance etc, while also dealing with anger, stress etc.

You can definitely recover, and emotions will return

 

I know what I'm going to say sounds glib and new agey, so I suggest you read it, go away and think about it, and only do it when you start to understand the significance of it.

Firstly, you need to forgive your parents. If they're still alive, that means sitting down with each one of them, and telling them you forgive them for all the bad things they've done to you. You need to say "you did x y z to me, and for a long time I was resentful about that, but now I realise you didn't know what you were doing and I forgive you for what you did". Don't apologise for anything you think you did, whether they accuse you or not. Also, don't get caught up in an argument with them about who did what. It doesn't matter whether they attack you, guilt trip you, play the victim, have a fit, or anything else. You are not responsible for their reaction. Even if they throw you out of the house, don't take it back or beg for forgiveness, etc. And only do it if you are genuine about forgiving them. Once you do it, you need to be prepared to let go of any resentment.

You will be amazed at how forgiving your parents will make you feel free. It will let you start dealing with all the other problems in your life.

I know this is NoFap's forum, but nofap is just the first step to fixing your life. A lot of us who end up with a porn addiction ended up becoming addicted because we were running away from problems in our lives. Nofap will give you the energy to tackle your problems, but it won't magically fix your problems, it just removes the brain fog, shame, and other pathologies that you've built up and have made it almost impossible to deal with your problems.