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*potential trigger* what exactly is sissy porn and how does it affect those of you who watch it?

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by LoloLaRoux, Nov 13, 2019.

  1. *Potential trigger thread, please be cautious!*

    Hey guys, SO of a PA here...I've been educating myself about PA and reading a lot about all your experiences and struggles with PA, and one thing I've noticed a lot of you seem to struggle with "sissy porn." I was wondering what it is exactly, and how it affects you in all the ways it can affect you...I'm asking out of curiosity, and also because I'm too scared to actually look it up and see for myself what it is. I hope nobody gets triggered by this thread, so please be cautious answering my questions and reading through this thread!
     
  2. I would like to know as well. But from my very limited understanding, it's when men are emasculated and put in a position of weakness. Please correct me if I'm wrong, I'm sure there are nuances I don't know about.
     
  3. I have heard it involves some kind of hypnosis?

    Never heard of it outside of nofap, but it sounds very scary as people seem to really get harmed by it.

    I used to be sligthly addicted to "normal" PMO and a weird behaviour where I would use pics of my GF, online to get attention, hearing people give "her" compliments, looking back, i dont know if it had something to do with pretending to be a girl, or if i just wanted to hear others drool after her. Its all fine now and she supports me, it was easy to quit actually.
    I believe that the sissy thing might be related to this, acting out and pretending to be a "sissy" even when youre a grown man?

    People keep saying that one shouldnt even Google it, is it THAT bad really?
     
  4. John Eses

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    As someone who was arguably addicted to sissy porn for a while, it's a good question, because like a lot of these things, when you're called to define it, you realise it covers a wide spectrum of stuff. Basically I would say sissy porn is about sexually worshipping manly men the way a woman would. There are all sorts of added dimensions to that. Some elements of humilaition, some elements of femdom, some elements of feminisation. I've seen sissy porn videos where the guys are dressed up like women, but others where they are not. Sometimes they are forced to service a man, and sometimes they do it voluntarily. Sometimes there's a woman present, like a dominatrix, and sometimes there isn't. It actually covers a whole bunch of stuff, but centres around the sissy worshipping a manly guy. There's also a strong element of the sissy having a small penis and not being able to satisfy a woman, but again, that's not essential. I don't know if that helps or makes it more confusing :)
     
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  5. Vijay5610

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    Its mainly when a boy likes to dresses as a women and want to like wife or girlfriend of other boy its sexually feels good to them correct me anyone if i am wrong
     
  6. Not necessarily outright servicing a man or gay. The fucked up shit I was on was more about worshipping and submitting to the idea of feminine beauty/superiority. I never quite escalated to the point of full on dick sucking, but I guess I got pretty close. I agree with you in that I think the label "sissy" is a pretty broad term for a lot of "genres".

    Out of that pit now at any rate, I try not to think about it because yeah - it's fucked up.
     
  7. RestlessEngineer

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    Like others said "sissy porn" is pretty broad.
    My biggest problem was that at some point I was so addicted that I was watching hypno and brainwashing videos that made me associate a lot of normal things like female clothing, shoes or the colour pink with porn and becoming "feminine".
    I was pretty far down before I finally realized what I was doing to myself and it took a lot of effort to pull out of that rabbit hole becuase of the many triggers but it was absolutely worth it.
     
  8. John Eses

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    Yeah have to agree with you. At one point I was so into sissy porn that I thought it was natural and it was what I wanted. I even started to work out how I could escape my current life. I knew deep down it was an addiction, but one of the signs of addiction is how we rationalise our bad behaviour. Ironically, actually acting out one of my fantasies was what brought me back to reality. I have never been a drug user, but I assume it's the equivalent of when you hit rock bottom where you wake up in the gutter and realise what you're doing. For me, it was when I finally acted out a fantasy with a guy. The whole dynamic, while exciting in my mind, was actually so horrific when I tried to carry it out that I felt physically sick with myself. And to be fair, the guy who I met was not a bad guy or violent or anything like that. But it was just everything coming together... How pathetic I looked (I'm a 6'5 hairy well built guy... I would never make a good woman), how desperate and haunted the guy looked (he was also obviously an addict), the realisation of how I was skulking around hiding from my family and friends, the realisation that it wasn't even enjoyable in real life (ironically because PMO had desensitised me). It was such a huge wake up call. Not that I recommend it to anyone else as a way to break out of your addiction. I think it was the first time I genuinely felt anguish and it was such a huge ego blow that I sometimes surprise myself that I came back from it.
     
  9. That One Metallica Fan

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    I am in the phase of recovering, and I really need advice. I am in the same rabbit hole you were. If I abstain from the hypno and that stuff, my brain will rewire and get back to my normal self?
     
  10. John Eses

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    I can't tell you exactly how much time it will take, but both I and others here can attest to the fact that whatever in porn you're currently addicted to, abstaining from it will slowly but surely result in you losing interest in it. It will also make you realise how conditioned you were and how insidious porn is... I'm sure at the moment you feel like watching sissy or transgendered person porn is absolutely essential. But once you get past the initial difficult period (and it will be difficult) you will have a day when you realise how stupid and pathetic your "need" to PMO was.
     
  11. RestlessEngineer

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    Yes, it might take a lot of time depending on how long you have been watching those videos but eventually you will be free of the effects. As long as you completely abstain from PMO for long enough and don't go peeking at it you will be fine.
    Stay strong mate and you will recover.
     
  12. John Eses

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    Yes, like any drug, porn will addict you, and in order to fuel that addiction, you will seek more and more, and you will move to riskier and more dangerous activities. And what is insidious is that, just like the nofap community, many niche porn genres have their own community in which people find commonality and a feeling of security. The sissy community includes other sissies who trade tips, make content, meet up together, etc., and also people who claim to be "friendly" to sissies... The guys who want to have sex with sissies, woman who are usually professional domanatixes, etc. Some of them come across as sympathetic and supportive, but remember that they are making money or getting something else out of their involvement (fulfilling some emotional or psychological need, like they are sadists, or they hate men, etc.) it is fairly common knowledge, for example, that many (not all) dominatrixes are lesbians, or have some issue with men, so there is some sort of "therapy" involved in their activities, in that the act of degrading a man fulfils some sort of twisted need. It's basically mentally ill people feeding their illness with other mentally ill people. I'm not saying that all people into sissy porn, bdsm, etc., are inherently evil, but they do become evil by virtue of becoming part of the "system". I think this is an angle we are always reluctant to talk about nowadays. I'm not a bible thumping fundamentalist... I don't think porn and sex for money is always inherently evil, but I do think it quickly becomes evil because it's at some level exploitative of someone. It reflects the fact that someone wants something intimate and is using any means to get it. It made me realise that whether you are the person "selling" the sex or the person buying it, you are both being exploited and degraded, just in different ways.
     
  13. This is the crux of the issue for me . . . well, actually the deeper issue is that my mother had issues with male sexuality and taught me that all men are pigs - and being male bodied, I think I found that being emasculated was one way out of this conundrum. My fantasies centered around being less of a man but it all had to be in some sort of sexual sense for me to experience sexual arousal for me. Mostly I fantasied about being rejected sexually.

    "sissy porn" just made for a nice catch all phrase to cover my specific quirks even though I rarely fantasized about dressing up (to the point of dresses and makeup anyway) or servicing men directly.

    Hopefully that helps!
     
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  14. DavidMD

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    I feel the above replys have given a pretty good description of what sissy porn is. I can say that alot of men get into it after the girl next door videos just don't cut it anymore.
    I do know that porn needs to become stronger over time for one to get the same satisfaction he once got.
    I personally started out with usual stuff and for a few years that was more than ok. I went from niche to niche - black women then to older women then to latex etc. I cannot even say how I crossed to trans porn. Initially I considered it absolutely disgusting and disturbing but here I was. Pretty soon I started watching sissy porn. When I consumed I generally saw myself as the dominant in the sissy/trans porn.
    My biggest battle now is that I had a routine to PMO every morning just after waking up. I can attest that not only does it leave me feeling dirty and disgusting, I spend the whole day thinking someone will find me out.
    I don't understand why we entertain porn so much while it causes us such anguish. But I guess that's how an addiction works.
    I'm 9 days sober and I see a light at the of the tunnel.
     
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  15. In short, yes. While not a direct response, taking a lonnnnnng break from porn, masturbation and orgasm (and edging and fantasy) was HUGE in helping me to break the destructive patterns and heal.

    Other parts are more about self-talk and inner-dialogue. It involved some screaming and A LOT of crying. I need to forgive myself for buying into my mother's fears and I needed to tell myself that, even though I had promised her that I wouldn't be like other men when I was four years old . . . I can take those words back. I don't have to be bound by that promise for the rest of my life. And I have to remind myself of the truth: some men may do some things that are bad, but they are not pigs. Far from it. Men are beautiful - they are loving and compassionate, kind and helpful. Just look at all the amazing men on NoFap!!

    I have faced the pain and the need to use porn has disappeared. I am relieved of that obsession, but as they say in AA, it is contingent upon the maintenance of my spiritual condition. Those patterns run DEEP in my brain and I can oh-so-easily fall back into that trap. A little porn or masturbation could very easily send me down that slippery slope. And some of my old triggers are still very, very triggering.
     
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  16. im_alive

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    Well done on coming back from it.

    I actually am grateful for my addiction now. I feel above the clouds a little bit, out of the fog and trying to understand why I do the things I do.

    And everyone here can give themselves a massive pat on the back for trying to sort their addictions issues out.
     
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  17. John Eses

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    Yeah, I agree. The silver lining of an addiction is that, if you pull yourself out of it, you end up having a much more nuanced and self aware existence. Now that I know myself better, I feel much more peaceful but simultaneously more focused and driven.
     
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