Maximizing No PMO

I was hoping we could create a list of attitudes and techniques to maximize the no PMO experience. Basically looking for ways to heal up faster, not just sexually, but also, mentally, spiritually and physically.

I'll start with something that has helped me tremendously. I think I would file it under spiritually.

Going out in nature and taking slow walks. I try to take the time and "notice" the small things. Listening to the wind, watching the leaves flutter on a branch or watching a leaf fall. For me, this exercise brings me into the moment and silences the chatter in my head. It's a peaceful, easy feeling. I feel the benefit of this exercise is many fold. For starters, it brings you into the moment. Which in turn gives you the feeling you are connected to everything, at least it does for me. For me it also sort of brings me into my body, it's like I'm an observer.

Another spiritual practice I am doing during no pmo is making eye contact with clerks. These often overlooked and often ignored or treated rudely group of people are an integral part of our day and should be treated as such. Simply being kind, thoughtful and giving eye contact almost always comes back to me many fold.

Please add to this list of what helps you keep the process of healing going.

Thank you!

 

Thank you FR! Really appreciate all the good advice! I most certainly will check out the Tim Johnson videos and I have already been reading a lot of your posts. Learning a lot, again, many thanks!

Did you do anything in particular to overcome social anxiety? Thanks again and be well!

 

As always, thank you FR! If I "notice." Yes, noticing "old stories" are a great way to reshape your mind and redirect to something more positive. Are you familiar with Eckhart Tolle?

 

Thank you FR! I love Wayne Dyer as well! No doubt he led me to the Tao and all its teachings. Indeed, "change your thought and change your life." You can change a thought in less than a second!

I will definitely take a look at the books you suggested.

It's funny you mention stoicism. 6 years ago for 3 years I organically stopped PMO, watching violence on TV, quit smoking etc. etc. I had a major awakening and am now realizing that no PMO was a major part of it.

During that time I would joke that I could see and atomic bomb go off and would simply observe the mushroom cloud and be like "oh how pretty!" LOL. In other words,I was super present and was not affected by anything negative or positive. Sometimes I wondered if I was becoming cold or unfeeling. But simply put, I just didn't "mind" anymore.

As I have quit pmo I am finding myself reaching this state again. No doubt there is much self-work to do. But I can see the light at the end of the tunnel even though I'm not feeling so great at the moment.

EDIT: Btw watched one of the Tim Johnson videos last night about cross-addiction. Very helpful and insightful. I will watch more. Here's one for you. As always, thank you.