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Homosexual curiosity and thoughts

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by NeedingHelp, Nov 16, 2019.

  1. NothingMoreNothingLess

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    Will power is something you can achieve. It requires persistence and patience. Set up a routine, follow through it. Look at folks like LeBron James and Kobe Bryant. They work out every single day, with their own routine. People have the mindset that a routine makes them weak. No it doesn't. I have a routine, and it helped me. Wake up every day, thinking it's your last day. Make the best of your time. What are the benefits of online pixelated people doing inappropriate stuff? Nothing! It harms you and your mental strength. Beat the addiction. Trust me man! Better yourself mentally, physically, and socially! I really think you can do this. God bless!
     
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  2. NeedingHelp

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    Thank you for the tips, man. Will do. I have already loved before, and probably I am also needing a girl, but to truly love her, I'm certainly gonna need to quit porn and control masturbation.
     
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  3. NeedingHelp

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    I read about HOCD, do you guys think it might be my case?
     
  4. fedmom

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    If you feel regret after cumming then it would be a paraphilia, not bi-sexuality. There's a thread in my profile that might help.
     
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  5. NeedingHelp

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    Well, I didn't cum. I didn't like it at all, if you're talking about the anal self-stimulation.
     
  6. fedmom

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    Sorry my bad. I've just noticed you said you didn't cum to it. If you get a "sinking" feeling in the stomach from the fantasy then I think it could be paraphilic, not gender fluidity.
     
  7. NeedingHelp

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    Greetings guys. I am starting to quit my porn addiction. But I still have a doubt: if I masturbate without porn, just by the force of thought, and control it, is it going to help? Or should I start quitting masturbation as well?
     
  8. NothingMoreNothingLess

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    Quit it all together. Trust me. No PMO will help you.
     
  9. electronicactivity3

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    Cut out both. Cut out fantasy. Just focus on healthy activities and relationships. Sex (speaking about all sexual activity or thought) should be about emotion and connection with someone you love, not about release or distraction to cope with life or satisfy natural or addictive urges. Seek to be in control rather than controlled by it.
     
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  10. cdp5089

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    Cut out both. Give yourself a break from PMO.
     
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  11. NeedingHelp

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    Alright. I have started a streak yesterday. I'm not anxious all the time, but sometimes still have gay thoughts out of nowhere (way less than before), I always say to my brain "fuck off you liar!" and they go away.

    Also, I'm praying a lot more and trying to distract myself.

    Wish me strength.
     
  12. Breadman

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    Quick question. Where you ever used/abused sexually by a guy? That can really throw your sexual identity in a tailspin. I’m an old man and I know the conflict it does to your sexual formation.
    Imagine your life at 40. Do you see living, living, trusting a woman caring for her having children with her confiding in her? Now imaging it with a man. Which makes you feel most happy.
    stop porn. First and foremost. Back off the M as much as you can, you don’t want to get to the point where you have erectile disfunction or get to the point where you only M because real sex doesn’t do it for you. Praying for you here buddy.
     
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  13. NeedingHelp

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    Fortunately, I have never been abused by a man. Yes, the idea of a family with a woman I love seems and feels nice, but the idea of a being married to another man makes me kinda uncomfortable.

    I'm stopping porn and backing off masturbation. The last one is not being easy, but I'm managing to do some smaller streaks I wasn't able to do before.

    I'm almost not feeling gay thoughts anymore, only some rare occasions, which I make go away. I am being able to tell I'm straight with more confidence.
     
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  14. its 99% hocd, if u were gay/bi u wouldn't feel disgusted dont listen to people who tell u that u are gay
     
  15. So you think there's nothing warped or twisted about it? My wife was up for it, but has since changed her mind.
     
  16. Well, its fully up to u, I just like the idea of pleasuring a women this way, but in reality its highly unlikely that I will do it. Also do u consider yourself as straight ?
     
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  17. mfm straight sex seemed hot to me cuz girls there seem to be more emotional and have better orgasms. idk bruh I started by watching straight porn then gangbangs then mfm povs
     
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  18. Yea, for the most part I think I'm straight...my wife found it a turn on at first,
    she said she wanted to see me suck off another guy.

    I just like the idea/look of DVP, it is very taboo & perverse, but it did turn me on towards the end of my last PMO binge/relapse. My wife would put on a DVP video whilst I was fucking her.
     
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  19. what is dvp?
     
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  20. Yeah, true!
    Some of the female orgasms I saw in those videos seemed incredible - definitely not fake! One of the DVP videos, the woman has two men inside her and is passionately kissing them both as she orgasms.
     
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