I'm starting to become ashamed of this community

Thanks for asking about this. Even though I said it wasn’t about political correctness, the widely accepted way to refer to them these days is ‘sex worker’. But honestly that’s besides the point. The point was the manner in which they were talking about her in general. Basically like she was a thing and not a person.

 

Not by everyone: https://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2014/12/why-we-shouldnt-rebrand-prostitution-sex-work

 

But wait, who said sex workers would always be women and people buying their services men? Besides for a sex worker sex is labour so idk what's wrong with that.

 

Don’t want to take away from this thread’s focus—- but when the female author (Sarah) is assuming all prostitutes have pimps or ponces—- I don’t know if that’s true in the uk, but it is not true worldwide.

Consequently I dare say This opinion is not very widely shared ; I doubt many prostitutes read or concur with the ideas expressed in the statesmen.

[There’s overflowing irony in just saying the title of the magazine...]

As for why prostitute is a slur, it’s not necessarily a slur but it can be made into one. That’s what the other thread was.

Just like the term “boy” is not a slur but when said to a black man by a younger white man, it becomes one. Just like any other number of slurs.

 

What does boy being or not being a slur have to do with skin colour? As far as I see it the word has nothing to do with persons race.

 

@Castielle you want this site moderated like it’s a forum on better homes and gardens or ESPN The Magizine.

It’s actually basically an online support group for beating porn addictions.

Your judgment on what is sexist is inconsistent at best, but you seem sure your judgment is sound and self evident.

My biggest complaint with your approach has never been answered. You seem concerned with creating more acceptable posts on a forum, not helping posters on a forum become better people with a healthier view on life.

 

Misogyny does not give people a healthier view on life.

 

I never said it did. But kindly suggesting a healthier view in a thread helps. Ranting in here and speaking with a broad brush doesn’t.

Some of you are too sensitive as well. Hit report and if nothing happens it’s probably not the issue you think it is.

 

What you really want to do is to stop sexism... posting your opinion in a private forum where people come and go.
Ha! good luck with that.

Don't waste your time, just accept it and attack it with other approach and strategy. Go and create and lead a campaign about gender self-empowerment. Teach other women that they are more than they believe, help them take actions that gives them more protagonism in our society: Teach them that they can study hard sciences as well as men. Teach them to do sports more often and compete in major leagues, teach them that they should not follow the concepts of "women" that the media intend to write on our mindsets, teach them than men are not their enemy, and that women should not try to demand acceptance from them, but to apport to our society so everyone can see how important and valuable you are.

Oh wait... you do not want to do that? You dont have time for that... oh well... keep whining then.

 

Ohhh okay, I thought it was meant as some kind of a "there can't be slurs against white people" -thingy. But yeah, now I totally get it.

 

You know, actually you have all the reasons to be mad. I'm not arguing with you, sorry if I gave that impression.

I just say: don't waste your time with that, I mean... you are right and all, but try to make others understand my point of view and actually convince them with fervor, again, it's seem like a waste of time.

Why? Because of the nature of this site:
- The main idea of this web is to give all the wackers out there a place to encourage between them to stop wacking around. This is not a web about political correctness...
- The admins of this site are people that have the commitment to help wackers to stop wacking around. (haha) Not to teach them about how wrong is misoginy.

If you really have the need to change the mind of all these people one post at a time... well... good luck, sincerely. But for me, it's just a waste of time. Sorry if I'm too impertinent with your thread.

(Just for the record: no, I'm not being sarcastic)

 

Why are you doing this to yourself? That is the question I asked myself at the beginning of this year. You may recall, I have had issues going back some time with the way moderation is practiced on this site. I also used to spend a lot of time in the off topic section. I have not abandoned it, but I do not get embroiled with arguments, disputes or flame-wars (select whatever one feels right). My experience of the site has been enhanced greatly since reducing drastically the time I used to spend discussing things that were unrelated to porn and masturbation and were even detrimental to my recovery.

You may also remember that things got so damaging to my mental wellbeing that I left the site temporarily more than once. I always did so with regret and after cooling off from the kind of frustration and anger you are experiencing, I was able to return with a more balanced outlook. I suggest you consider something similar. For example, you could return in the new year and may do so refreshed. But to stay here feeling as you do is counterintuitive. please look after yourself.

Best wishes, IGY

 

You are welcome and I am pleased to hear this. Take care.