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Indulged in porn again few days before a date

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Ghost79, Nov 8, 2019.

  1. Ghost79

    Ghost79 Fapstronaut

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    Sunday I have a date with a woman of my dreams, but unfortunately I could not resist and watched for 3 days straight at women who looked like her.
    But I successfully resisted the urge to fap and strangely my desire for fapping has retreated after I deleted and closed everything after 3 days. Didn't havea wet dream either. How can this be explained?

    Anyway I feel my dopamine levels has exploded after 3 days of numerous porn videos and images. How can I balance it as quickly as possible before I meet my date on Sunday?
    Right after the porn my urge finding a girlfriend had declined and I found women have to be less attractive including her. Someone please help me with advice.
     
  2. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    This may sting a little, but let's be completely honest here.... When you say you couldn't resist the urge to look for three days straight is a little far fetched. But if it is actually true, then its clear that you need to stay FAR away from any kind of exclusive dating relationship until you have made some serious progress on your addiction recovery. If this girl is truly the girl of your dreams, then with all this behavior, I don't see any way it could possibly end well for either of you. Especially you.
     
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  3. So how did things go with this girl? I hope you have stayed far away from P in the meantime. Come back and let us now how it went!
     
  4. Ghost79

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    It went well actually. My horniness wasn't as high as I had hoped for but it was enough for her to feel my desire to her.
     
  5. Interesting, why do you need horniness to show her desire?
     
  6. Ghost79

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    horniness=motivation
     
  7. I think you might want to reexamine why you feel that way. Having been able to marry the girl of my dreams, my motivations were her looks and my desire to have sex with of course, but that was only a small part of what makes her attractive to me. I wanted HER, all of her. Her smile, her humor, her wit, her intelligence. I didnt need "horniness ". In fact when I met her, I just wanted to be near her. If that meant just as friends then that would have to do. Her presence is what I craved.

    So i guess i am still confused on why you measure your motivation on "horniness ".
     
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  8. Ghost79

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    Of course I like spending time with her too. Without her I feel lonely and bored but I have had PIE so I am always concerned about my level of "horniness". When it is time for sex I don't want to have my penis sleeping because I'm in a flatline. That's some serious shit if you ever had it you would understand it.
     
  9. [QUOTE="Ghost79, post: 2335501] That's some serious shit if you ever had it you would understand it.[/QUOTE]
    I have dealt with plenty of ED. My entire first marriage was plagued with it. Maybe you should look into doing this hard mode until you are better.
     
  10. Joe1023

    Joe1023 Fapstronaut

    Pardon me for saying this, and I hope I don't come off as rude, but it really seems like you only want this girl for sex because you think she looks good. Is that the case?
     
  11. Ghost79

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    Only for sex? No absolutely not. Infact there are somethings I don't like about her visually, like her boobs are too small for my liking and she isn't tall as I would like. But yet I would like to have children with her after marriage and have her as friend to spend time with.
     

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