OCD Help?

Deleted Account · Nov 27, 2019

so I suffer from HOCD, and it is a direct result form porn.

I know how to beat it, I know you have to avoid the thoughts. This is my second time suffering from HOCD, and it sucks straight ass. I can’t remember what I used to do the first time I beat it, but I feel the wave I’m going through right now is worse.

My biggest PMO trigger is checking gay porn to see if I would like it and then checking straight porn to make sure I like it, which I always find gay porn repulsive then when I watch straight porn I can’t stop the urge to PMO. I have never felt feelings for a man or wanted to hook up with a dude ever, but the thoughts still rip me apart.

As of right now I’m literally in the worst shape possible. I feel I guess you could say “heart broken” and suffering from HOCD at the same time. So over the last month, I have been becoming closer and closer with this girl that sits next to me, and we started to like each other. I knew she was into me and I was so into her, people around us would even recognize it and call us out on it, and she never denied anything and neither did I. As time passed, my feelings kept getting stronger so I Finally had the balls to ask her on a date, and she said yes. We went on our date 4 days ago, and I felt like it was going great, when we go into my car to go get smoothies, I started to have bad HOCD thoughts that I didn’t have feelings for this girl and I was lying to myself. This prevented me from making a move and I made it seem as if I was not attracted to her anymore. I didn’t be rude or anything, but she def noticed this. I texted her after, and she didn’t even reply, and when I saw her in class yesterday, she had no interest in speaking to me. All those questions of me having feelings for her disappeared and now I am heartbroken cause I have strong feelings for her and I feel like I fucked it up. Next week, I’m gonna talk to her after class, and apologize and tell her how I feel, but I don’t now how to say it!

My main questions are what are some ways I can deal with my OCD thoughts, what are some personal tips and strategies that you guys use?

Also what should I say to this girl? I have super strong feelings for her and I want to take her out again, I just don’t know what to say or how to say it.

NothingMoreNothingLess · Nov 27, 2019

First off, you need to relax. Take deep breaths. Listen to me man, life is just a game. Do not take these thoughts seriously. Your brain is trying to trick you into getting its fix. The non-straight or kinky porn is like cocaine or crack, so that is why you are getting these thoughts in your head. These are toxic and cause you to have these thoughts when you break the fix pattern. I would say to change up everything a take a different approach. Don't think about these thoughts or about the HOCD subject. This overthinking causes the issues you are experiencing.

Regarding the girl, there are many out there. If you want, try asking her out once more. You're not gay from other posts I've read of yours. It's just the addiction is so harmful and causes these delirious thoughts. If you are not ready to ask her out, go 90 days and see how it goes. Those OCD thoughts will die off if you do not think about it and take life easy. It's just a game and I'm giving you a cheat code. Cold showers will help too. Get good amounts of sleep. Do not stress on dumb porn stuff. Just relax, and enjoy life. Think of how Napoleon Bonaparte was a leader and full of testosterone doing the stuff he did. I really hope you take my advice.

Deleted Account · Nov 28, 2019

NothingMoreNothingLess said: ↑

First off, you need to relax. Take deep breaths. Listen to me man, life is just a game. Do not take these thoughts seriously. Your brain is trying to trick you into getting its fix. The non-straight or kinky porn is like cocaine or crack, so that is why you are getting these thoughts in your head. These are toxic and cause you to have these thoughts when you break the fix pattern. I would say to change up everything a take a different approach. Don't think about these thoughts or about the HOCD subject. This overthinking causes the issues you are experiencing.

Regarding the girl, there are many out there. If you want, try asking her out once more. You're not gay from other posts I've read of yours. It's just the addiction is so harmful and causes these delirious thoughts. If you are not ready to ask her out, go 90 days and see how it goes. Those OCD thoughts will die off if you do not think about it and take life easy. It's just a game and I'm giving you a cheat code. Cold showers will help too. Get good amounts of sleep. Do not stress on dumb porn stuff. Just relax, and enjoy life. Think of how Napoleon Bonaparte was a leader and full of testosterone doing the stuff he did. I really hope you take my advice.
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Aye man I appreciate you taking time to reply. OCD is a joke, so I have to treat as such. I have this need to check for reassurance or it feels like my world will stop, I need to change this and remove the importance.

When it comes to the girl, I have feelings for her and I know she does or at least did, I’m just going to tell her how I feel and see how she reacts, I just don’t know what to say, any advice?

NothingMoreNothingLess · Nov 29, 2019

I know what you mean with that need for reassurance is. Trust me, you don't need to do check. It becomes a habit for a lot of folks and then they relapse and fall for PMO again. Cut it completely. You're a straight man. Need a little thing to take your mind off of it when you have urges? Download tetris. It helps your brain work on combinations and takes away attention from the OCD thoughts.

Just tell her the truth. Tell her you're going through some tough times and that you put it behind you. Worst she can do is say no to another date. If so, her loss since you seem like a cool dude who just needs to quit the addiction. Trust me, if you have feelings for her you are not gay nor any of that other stuff. You're a straight dude who is hungry like a wolf due to the strong libido. Just control yourself and act calm. Be loose, relax, deep breaths and be cool. It's all in your head. Get out of your comfort zone and break the reassurance habit and don't follow what you want to be in the comfort zone. Break out of it. That is what helped me with some minor OCD stuff I had in the beginning.

Deleted Account · Nov 29, 2019

NothingMoreNothingLess said: ↑

I know what you mean with that need for reassurance is. Trust me, you don't need to do check. It becomes a habit for a lot of folks and then they relapse and fall for PMO again. Cut it completely. You're a straight man. Need a little thing to take your mind off of it when you have urges? Download tetris. It helps your brain work on combinations and takes away attention from the OCD thoughts.

Just tell her the truth. Tell her you're going through some tough times and that you put it behind you. Worst she can do is say no to another date. If so, her loss since you seem like a cool dude who just needs to quit the addiction. Trust me, if you have feelings for her you are not gay nor any of that other stuff. You're a straight dude who is hungry like a wolf due to the strong libido. Just control yourself and act calm. Be loose, relax, deep breaths and be cool. It's all in your head. Get out of your comfort zone and break the reassurance habit and don't follow what you want to be in the comfort zone. Break out of it. That is what helped me with some minor OCD stuff I had in the beginning.
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Wow that’s amazing advice bro, get out of my comfort zone. I feel like you just gave me a whole new perspective, the only reason I seek reassurance is when I am out of my comfort zone, so I need to make being out my comfort zone not uncomfortable anymore, if you know what I mean.

And with the girl I’ll definitely say something similar, I’ll keep you updated man gotta wait till Monday or Wednesday, whenever my next class is.

Appreciate you brother.

fedmom · Dec 8, 2019

TreyBall said: ↑

so I suffer from HOCD, and it is a direct result form porn.

I know how to beat it, I know you have to avoid the thoughts. This is my second time suffering from HOCD, and it sucks straight ass. I can’t remember what I used to do the first time I beat it, but I feel the wave I’m going through right now is worse.

My biggest PMO trigger is checking gay porn to see if I would like it and then checking straight porn to make sure I like it, which I always find gay porn repulsive then when I watch straight porn I can’t stop the urge to PMO. I have never felt feelings for a man or wanted to hook up with a dude ever, but the thoughts still rip me apart.

As of right now I’m literally in the worst shape possible. I feel I guess you could say “heart broken” and suffering from HOCD at the same time. So over the last month, I have been becoming closer and closer with this girl that sits next to me, and we started to like each other. I knew she was into me and I was so into her, people around us would even recognize it and call us out on it, and she never denied anything and neither did I. As time passed, my feelings kept getting stronger so I Finally had the balls to ask her on a date, and she said yes. We went on our date 4 days ago, and I felt like it was going great, when we go into my car to go get smoothies, I started to have bad HOCD thoughts that I didn’t have feelings for this girl and I was lying to myself. This prevented me from making a move and I made it seem as if I was not attracted to her anymore. I didn’t be rude or anything, but she def noticed this. I texted her after, and she didn’t even reply, and when I saw her in class yesterday, she had no interest in speaking to me. All those questions of me having feelings for her disappeared and now I am heartbroken cause I have strong feelings for her and I feel like I fucked it up. Next week, I’m gonna talk to her after class, and apologize and tell her how I feel, but I don’t now how to say it!

My main questions are what are some ways I can deal with my OCD thoughts, what are some personal tips and strategies that you guys use?

Also what should I say to this girl? I have super strong feelings for her and I want to take her out again, I just don’t know what to say or how to say it.
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If you have no interest in men then it's a paraphilia and there's a thread in my profile that might work for this.

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