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Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Tertullian, Nov 30, 2019.

  1. Tertullian

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    I have a long struggle with constantly wanting to wear them. It usually happens on the weekends when I know I don't have work for a few days. My question is if anyone has gone through these same urges and conquered them. I mean is there real hope of overcoming this fetish? What are the strategies used? What about hobbies to replace the bad habit with? Does it get easier?
     
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  2. This may or may not be helpful:
    I went from a daily panty habit (so yes, wearing them to work even . . . every day, all the time) to actually throwing away every pair that I own. In that sense, it is possibly, though I still feel strong urges to wear (and/or buy) them on occasion.
    One thing that I think helped was getting really into men's underwear. There is a lot of sexy men's underwear out there! In fact, some are just as sexy or more sexy than women's underwear, and even if it's pink, or flowery or satiny, I still feel less shame from wearing them because they are in fact, men's underwear. One potential downside of this is that much of this underwear is marketed towards gay men and I often had to look at lots of very attractive and well-hung models, online, which can make things confusing. Still, I think it was a stepping stone in the right direction, and over time I have mostly weaned myself off of that kind of underwear and mostly wear boxers and boxer briefs now.
    Another in-between option is that there are now several companies that offer unisex underwear. It seems that this is mostly marketed towards queer, female bodied women so it is essentially women's underwear, but with more masculine styling (i.e. thick waistbands, mostly cotton, and no lace) in solid colours or prints that tend to be more fun than girly.

    What matters most is probably the question of Why you are wearing them. Men's underwear would often trigger me because it was too roomy in the "pouch". Women's underwear fit me better and was more comfortable. But the fear and shame around getting caught was what made it so addictive. Now, when I really crave to wear women's underwear, I have the unisex underwear as an option, but mostly I have gotten used to wearing plain old men's underwear.
     
  3. Demodectic

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    I think to wear the panties and walk around in society is taking it a step too far. Its one thing at home during a masturbation session to put on a bra and panties and jerk off but then after you orgasm you should put that stuff in a drawer and then put on your normal mens clothing.

    This is the distinction between fantasy and reality. You keep wearing panties and next thing you know you may start wearing lipstick, a wig, dress and turn into an actual cross-dresser. So dont even take things that far because that is HOW IT STARTS. So you are early on and can still "pull yourself back". I mean unless you want to become a transgendered person and deal with mainstream society's disapproval and scorning.
     
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  4. I used to wear women’s undies quite often in order to heighten my sexual stimulation. Then I’d feel shame and throw them away only to buy more.

    Setting solid financial goals helped me to stop. That was the biggest factor in helping me quit. I got tired of wasting so much money on women’s undies.

    I also got tired of the shame and isolation that came from acting out they way.

    I’ve stopped doing it.
     
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    bro you have to look inside yourself realise that you are a strong men and decide who you want to be the rest of your life if your married and have parents think about the respinsibilities you have and this will change you in time and consult a sexologist he will help you heal
     
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  7. Demodectic

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    they used to sell dirty used womans underwear on eBay and now it is prohibited. i wonder why they prohibited it? whats the problem? its an honest transaction. woman makes a profit and man gets the smells he is looking for
     
  8. NeverTooLate

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  9. fedmom

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    It's sexual masochism and there's a thread in my profile with a method that might work. See the "information" section then "find all threads".
     
  10. I have the fetish of smelling womans underwear, so i think its a bit different. but i can share a funny story:

    i was in college games, and we were going to a big party that need fantasy. i dont have any, so i got a girl pantie and went to the party(lol). i entered there, but then i got very embarassed for doing that and i took it off. immediatly about 5 bodyguards came to kick me off from the party. i think that the guys laugh until this day...
     
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  11. F3lstyz

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    I really like the girly undies, when I use it I feel sexy Haha

    Right now I don't use it, but I like to live alone just to can have my collection and use it daily. I'm trying to quit that desire, but its inside of me and activates always I see that kind of clothes.
     
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  12. Sounds like you know 100% how I feel.

    It’s so tempting to go back to doing it. I enjoyed wearing them.

    But I need to change my ways.
     
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  13. F3lstyz

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    Yeah, is so difficult cuz it's not something you could say to close friends or to your family and not be judged.
     
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  14. Exactly! It's something I wouldn't even share at my Sex Addicts Anonymous meetings. I'd be too embarrassed.
     
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  15. I feel you. People share a lot in those meetings (I go to SLAA, mostly) but it's usually about more "common" issues like infidelity, porn, masturbation etc.

    I haven't even told my sponsor about my panty fetish, or my
    cuckold, sexual denial and small penis humiliation
    fetishes :oops:
     
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  16. I have a sort of similar issue, I dont like to dress up in womens underwear but I do have a little fetish for smelling womens underwear. I also love the feel of them in my hands. I feel so embarassed now. But I'm glad Im not alone
     
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  17. AndyShyGuy78

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    Same here...have had this fetish for years...kind of comes and goes. At one point it escalated to me wearing used panties arou d the house, then wearing an entire womans outfit around the house.

    I think this is just yet another example of an escalation from vanilla porn use.
     
  18. I can understand why its more common than one would think, its a scent that hits us at a deep primal level. I notice that when I would engage in it. I would have a really intense experience. More than just looking at pictures or video
     
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  19. I can understand that too, I mean the material just has a certain texture too it. A soft silky texture.
     
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  20. Gratitudeiskey83

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    This has always been a fetish of mine. I remember being very young and getting aroused by panties and underwear in general. It escalated, along with my obsession over my sister in law. I would steal her dirty and clean panties. Would wear them, masturbate with them, smell, lick, chew on them. It was really bad. This was the closest I could get to having sex with her. The thought that the panties touched her, it was like I was touching her through them. Same thing happened when I was a teenager. We had 3 foreign exchange students (women) living with us.

    I had about 9 pairs of them. I stole some from other women but they didnt do it for me. How I stopped, I threw them all away. My obsession with my sister in law has ended but I still enjoy looking at panty ads. It's still a major turn on for me. Even some of the men underwear I wear sometimes turns me on.
     
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