Really Struggling

I hear you man. That two week mark is a bitch and a half. That’s when the withdrawals really start to suck. Listen it’s not ingrained in you. You are addicted to your own dopamine just like the rest of us. I’ve been struggling with this problem for over 26 years. Quitting is really hard. But let’s not pretend that anyone can have the best possible life with porn being a focal point of it. You owe it to yourself to figure out what’s it going to take for you to stop. There are some great resources out there. Counselors who specialize in sex addiction, SAA meetings, accountability partners ect...you may have to dig deep to get to the root of your obsession. Because it’s never just about sexual gratification.

 

I am still to achieve 30 days mark and failed at 26th day.
But I could say I have improved and the things are getting better day by day.

When ever you have huge urge I would say, try to read as many success stories as possible and as many problematic sexual behavior and others stuffs that keep us motivated and fearfull that what could happen even more.

And finally it is up to you and your will to I. Prove bro,

No good things comes for free, there are no free lunches.

When going gets tough tougher gets going.

Hold on, don't give up, you will feel great when you cross the weakest phase ( my own psychological weak hase is 7th day)

I would only say when we know we are on the right side then why not be ready to to sacrifice?

Sacrifice your selfish urge and desire for good for now.
Don't be weak hold and mad don't give up your arms.

Tell your body that you are the master of it not other way around.

Have faith " We shall overcome"
Waiting for your post of success story on 30th day. And definitely massage me on that day...
Hopefully that will be 16th day apart from today as you have already cross 2 week mark.....

Keep fighting

 

I'm hooked on a feelin'... I'm high on believin'... that you're in love with meeee...

I'm telling you why you have a hard time to quit. It's the only reason, believe me. This...

... is not true. You don't really want to stop. Quitting something you actually don't want anymore is a piece of cake. Quitting something you want on the other hand is an internal contradiction that will make you suffer to no end. People call that "urges". When really it's your heart going "I know I want this, this is so much fun" and your brain going "No, I shouldn't tho". When you're in that space you're screwed. You're a ticking time bomb and your heart will win, because deep down you know what you really want.

I don't have time to give you a lengthy essay about free will and all that jazz. But know that you do have free will. Which means your body can't force you to do anything. When you watch porn, you want porn. Simple as that.

You need to realize what it means to quit porn and be ok with it. Like really understand down to your bones that that means you won't be seeing glorious asses and tits ever again on a screen. It's easy to say that you're fine with that, but do you mean it? Are you really ok with letting that stuff out of your life? Do you have a real life substitute for all that virtual sex? Or are you going to let your sex drive go cold turkey? Bad idea.

To start it's best to be honest with yourself. Admit that you still want porn. And that's ok. But stop playing games with yourself. That idea that you want porn because it's "ingrained" in you but really you don't want it, is pretend-play. The only thing that's really ingrained in you is your love for women. Everything else surrounding this topic is a choice of yours.

So remember this, you know that you really don't want porn anymore when it's easy not to watch it. When you don't give a shit about it. When you stop believing that none-sense that it has any power over your mind. I repeat: It's easy not to watch porn. No struggle, no urges, no mind-battles. If you have any of that, you're not battling porn, or "your addiction", you're battling your own will. And your will is under your control, so the battle is futile. Until you understand that you won't get anywhere.

 

Changes are uncomfortable, there is no way around it but stopping addiction means going through hell. There is no way around it. Accept the pain and suffering you'll endure in advance. You must want to quit so badly that you're literally willing to do anything to break out of addiction cycle. No amount of suffering should be able to turn you away from your goal. Hold on, knowing that it gets better every single day even if you can't notice it yet. Don't listen to your brain, it will try to talk you out of it. Your brain want you to stay in your comfort zone you've been in 14 years. When thoughts like "this is too difficult… just one exception,.. etc come to your mind", you have about 5 seconds to dismiss them before the game of tricking you into relapse starts. You should let your brain know that PMO is off the table for good. There is no if, maybe, I don't knows,... you're done with it for life. This way your brain will have no other option but to start seeking dopamine fix elsewhere eventually. It's your job giving it to it by developing healthy highly dopamine rewarding activities like socializing in real life (we're social animals, hardwired to feel good when in groups), meditation, pray, outdoor activities, exercise… The important thing is that the goals you set for yourself should be short term, easily achievable and give you joy. Don't start with the goal of running a "marathon", start with running around the block and build up from there.
But most importantly of all, be patient, this shit takes time. Churchill once said: "If you're going through hell, keep going". I was addicted for 25 years and needed 5-6 months to get a bit of taste what normality feels like. It doesn't feel all that great at times, but still way better than going through life like a numb walking zombie.