19 years old still a VIRGIN please help me

I'm also a 19 years old virgin, though i'm religious so it's expected.

It sometimes wears me down to be completely detached from the opposite gender, but i'm somehow getting used to it. I mean even if i get laid, i would probably feel good for a bit of time and then snap back to reality where lots of fucked shit is happening. I guess the reason most people nowadays are obsessed with sex more than ever is because most people's live are garbage because of this shit-tier society forced down our throat, so they use sex, fapping, etc, as a form of escapism and coping mechanism.

 

Apparently 60% of Americans are virgins at your age. A guy had details about it in another thread I read tonight. Puts you in the majority

 

Spot on brother! You are very smart for your age. You will eventually find someone to have sex with in a relationship but most people on here you will here that they stop fapping only to have sex with their girlfriend the same amount of time they were blowing loads with their hands. Most guys on here still do not have the right idea about NoFap. The idea is you need to stop fapping and learn how to live a fulfilling life without sex three times a week. Most people cover up their unhappiness in life with that, and most use drugs and alcohol as well to do that. Once your blissful few minutes are over you are back to reality again but now you have no energy and motivation to do anything about what you want to accomplish. The reason why there are older men that have held onto their wealth and a lot of new billionaires are not being born is because sex, nude women, porn, drugs and alcohol is pushed to the younger generations. The older elite want the wealth to be maintained by a certain few people. They make sure there is not an uprising of self able bodies men and women to take over when they leave.

 

Thank you for your replay, i appreciate it.

I think you're absolutely right about how people think about Nofap and how the elite try to control people by exploiting their sexual desires. The brainwashing got to the point where parents nowadays encourage their kids to have sex after puberty more than encouraging them to try to have a fulfilling, balanced life. Sex is only a part of life, it's necessary and important for well being and happiness, but life doesn't revolve around it. It also shouldn't be used as a cope, but rather as a way of expressing life and strengthening the bond between two people and of course as a way of reproduction.

Many people attribute the oversexualization of society by saying that it's only done because "sex sells", but i disagree that it's the only intent behind it. I mean people would still watch the movie or play the video game even if it didn't have that sex scene in it, i find sex nowadays to be overused in society to the point where it's borderline obsessive and unhealthy.

I don't think i'll ever have sex until i have my life figured out and my life is decent without sex and then sex will have much more meaning in my life than if i did it now. It's actually one of the main reasons of me doing Nofap that i want to control my sexual desire and energy and use them for my benefit rather than being a slave to them.

 

not beating your dick is not going to make you better at talking to girls. A chick is not going to come up to you and be like "damn you havent fapped in 70 days lets fuck". you gotta put in the effort

 

It’s better to be a virgin than have regrets.

When I was 15 years old I had sex with a girl because I just wanted to lose my virginity.
Ive always regretted it and wish I waited to lose it to someone I really loved.
Don’t view your virginity as a negative, view it as a positive that when you do meet the right person they will be the first

 

You need to face your fears and talk with some girls. Go do volunteer work, or some sport project in your city, it helps a lot in finding people to talk, talk is the second step!

 

I’m going to give you an excellent piece of advice you can use this when thinking about going after anything you want in life-

If you have nothing and you want something and you go after it and fail you still just have nothing. If you go after something and you succeed now you have something. So if you want something you might as well try. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

 

Think yourself lucky that your generation us the knowledge out their the damage porn can do. Most of us millennials have gotten deep into our 20's and early 30's with thinking porn was harmless.

As for the confidence issues theres no easy fix, but the number one thing you can do to start improving it slowly over time is join a gym and start working out.
There's an old chinese saying that translates to "A healthy mind cannout reside in a unhealthy body".

 

Didn't know it was that bad to be a virgin at 19 years old. I'm 18 and I'm handsome too and despite that, I'm still virgin, and I'll probably stay that way for a few more years. Why? Well, I'm focusing on my goals for now and there is another reason I don't want to reveal because it's really too weird. Anyway, don't put yourself down just because you're still virgin man. Society and all is putting too much pressure on this aspect in my opinion. You must take your time, don't be in a hurry for such an important thing like having sex for the first time. I would rather be a virgin at 23 years old and having a great first time with a girl I truly love rather than losing my virginity at 15 with a lot of regrets just because "I had to do it".

The difference between you and me is that I'm already very confident with girls and people in general. So try to improve your social skills and your overall confidence and it will become easier to date girls. And like I said, don't put too much pressure on yourself, it's not worth it.

 

What do you mean by figuring out your life?

 

1) Find out what interests you in life - doesn't matter what as long as it's not ultimately destructive
2) Imagine what it would be like to pursue it with passion
3) Describe that goal to yourself in writing. "At the end of 2020 I will be doing x, y, and z, and will have become a person with x, y, and z characteristics"
4) Start taking little steps toward your goal

Now, if you still feel anxiety/shyness talking to women, you need to ask yourself what it is they are "withholding" from you. Why are you giving them the POWER to define if you're a good/deserving person simply by their behavior around you. You can still respect women without basing your value on whether they pay attention to you. Find girls who are attractive AND worth being friends with, because then you're not one-pointed in your reasons for hanging out with them.

 

The more i grow older, the more i realize that life is not easy at all. There're too many problems and most people are busy with their lives, so no one really cares that much about each others. Also, the current climate of the world whether politically, economically, socially, etc, isn't promising at all and society could collapse at any second. I know that i may sound pessimistic and negative, but you have to always expect the worst so you could be prepared.

So, by figuring my life out is by getting stronger so i can deal with the harshness of life and the world no matter what happens, not by making my life easier since there'll always be circumstances beyond my control that might make my life a living hell. Unless you're strong enough to deal with your life at it's current state, accept it and improve it as much as you can, then you'll never make it in life.

So, basically figuring out life is adapting to it no matter how hard it's. It's either that, or you have to accept death since there's no other way.

 

I'm 18 years old and I feel you. We share the same thoughts and this is very interesting. I agree with you about the probability for our society to collapse and this isn't a negative fact at all, it's true actually and it's gonna happen but the question is: when?

Anyway, I agree with you. Nobody gives a shit about you except your family and for some very unlucky people, their family too don't give a damn about them. Life is hard and I already know it at a young age, just like you. I'm virgin too, and having sex with a girl is the very least of my actual problems. So for now, I'm focusing on myself. Girls can wait.