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Nofap is an excuse for people with low confidence.

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by HornyChang, Dec 10, 2019.

  1. HornyChang

    HornyChang Fapstronaut

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    I been reading about the law of attraction and how you can essentially have anything you want in life. A thing I read about is people who do nofap. What the post said is people who believe in nofap are putting a limit on themselves when they do nofap/relapse. I use to be a heavy believer in nofap and now im starting to question it. I use to think if I do nofap my life will change, i will get girls because of the super powers, etc. But what im doing is trying to wait for 90 days. Hoping something will eventually happen and change will happen as long as im on nofap. If i relapsed i would get depressed, not be social, and not want to do anything.

    So I tried an experiment, every time I fap, i said im the greatest, im sexy, my life is good. I actually felt it and felt good. Girl would still be giving me the eye even though i just jerked it 3 times in a row. I started feeling confident and good about myself then at work, a customer mentioned to a server about how cute I was. This is the first time it has ever happened. She wanted my number but I wasnt that interested to pursue.

    Im still learning about how to create my reality but I feel good because i want to feel good. You create the reality with your mind. The reason you are still stuck in the sitiation you dont want to be in is because you subconsciously choose to stay in it. So stop being held back by limitiing beliefs. Learn about law of attraction and create your reality.

    I feel like this is why some people get deeply affected and others dont because they have higher positive belief in themselves.

    I would like to hear you guy's thoughts on the matter.
     
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  2. Metis07

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    I also don’t believe in ‘superpowers’ of nofap, it is not a magic pill that will turn you life around, but I believe that it gives you more energy, more free time (you don’t do it several times a day), improves your prefrontal cortex (you can say no), more self confidence and self love (you achieve smth - staying away from pmo), improves your physical and mental health, makes you more independent from women...
    I forget smth?
     
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  3. King777

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    This has been always going through my mind and I've been thinking just like you amigo.

    Getting the benefits of nofap is all about you.

    If you believe that nofap will bring you superpower, it does. But at the same time if you put yourself into a limited situation; like you don't believe nothing good is gonna happen in your life until you reach the 90day goal, you automatically reject the opportunities life can bring to you in that 90 days.

    But I gotta tell you;

    I'm still a believer in nofap, more with the semen retention approach.

    I'm a bodybuilder and not jerking of definitely has an effect on my performance, however it's a different story about having sex. I found out that having a good quality sex (having an intercourse with a woman that you really find sexy, not only oral sex) also increased my performance and testosterone levels. My body truly responds in a positive way every time after I have passionate sex. Yet ejaculating without woman drains my energy.

    I'm taking the nofap path not only because it brings you benefits but it also helps me training my mind and willpower which I need the most in what I do in life. I provides me discipline and the self esteem that comes with nofap is not from the magical stick of the nofap fairy but the fact that you know that you can even master your own mind, which is the hardest thing in life.
     
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  4. Nofap is simply about improving your life and becoming the best version of you, the "superpowers", are simply the things that pmo took away from you being restored to you, its true many people on here have false expectations but nofap certainly does work, it is what you make of it honestly. Many people on here are not willing to change, they refuse to take responsibility for themselves with things such as healthy eating, exercise, cold showers, meditation, they think simply rebooting will make them a new person, sorry but does not work that way, only you can make changes NoFap simply helps you achieve what it is you want to work towards, you get out what you put in honestly.
     
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  5. johnmicormick

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    I used to believe in the super powers, but now I just think that shits nasty. I now set it up as a reinforcement system, I don’t get to orgasm unless it’s into a pussy.
     
  6. LavaMe

    LavaMe Fapstronaut

    That is simplistic and wrong. Life doesn’t work like that. You can’t just think things into beings. That said, certainly how we look at things influences what we do and how others interact with us.

    It may be that the superpowers are overstated. But it may also be that we tend to not appreciation the progress we have made and have unreasonable expectations given our specific situation. If you have had a really bad PMO problem for let’s say a decade then nofap for three months probably won’t cure all your problems.
     
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  7. super powers are simply you getting back what porn took, like your brains grey matter, your confidence, less stress, etc.
     
  8. HornyChang

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    Its cause a lot of people dont understand how to make the law of attraction work. It also sounds crazy i know lol. But i manifested things that made me believe there is some truth to it. Im still trying to figure it out as well but I had this one manifestion that cant be just coincidence.

    So one of the ways you can manifest is to generate that feeling of what you want as if it was real then you let it go and forget about it. This is a really brief description but thats essentially what it is. The thing i wanted to manifest was to get a hug from a old coworker. She quit the job and i havent seen her in like 6 months. I generated the feeling of hugging her, feeling her body, her hair, the warmness you get from a hug. I felt it and then i let it go.

    Well one day, i was working and I hear my name called i turn around and it was her! i got a hug from her. I swear it felt exactly the same in every way on how i generated that feeling when i was trying to manifest. I havent seen her in like 6 months, i never hugged her once until then, the new company she worked for planned a party on the exact day and time I worked, im barely scheduled that day to work as well. Its just not coincidence.

    Like I said not a lot of people know how to make it work consistently. This is the most "no way that just happened" moments that I got to work because it was exactly the same feeling i was generating to manifest and it actually happened.
     
  9. Infrasapiens

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    If you actually believe in superpowers and jizz magic then you have worse problems than low confidence.

    Also, Santa Claus isn't real.
     
  10. HornyChang

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    Hol up
     
  11. I mean the meme is real. It's unfortunate that the hype of the NoFap community has basically made it sort of a meme in the public's eye.

    You know ever since I joined NoFap, I have been questioning whether or not if putting so much mental focus into pornography and not watching it only gives it more power. I mean it's not like meth or cocaine or coffee, which have real, chemically-induced, addictive properties.

    And I still call bullshit that not nutting suddenly makes you into that dude from Limitless who takes a pill that basically turns him into James Bond, allows him to use 100% of his brain, has ultra instincts (no DBZ reference intended) and can read what anybody wants and can bang any chick he wants.
    I still say it's...What's that fancy term? When you try to do thing 1, but you also do thing 2, thing 3, and thing 4, while doing thing 1, and you feel better about yourself, so you think it MUST be because you're doing thing 1, when in fact, it's things 2, 3, and 4.

    I think the MO part of no PMO is just that. Except thing 1 is masturbating, and thing 2, 3, and 4 is like, getting proper amounts of sleep, exercising on a regular basis, and eating healthier. Because that's what most people do when they do nofap to fill the void of pornography and masturbation.

    That said, I still think that NoFap is a good place for people who have genuine pornography addiction and sexual dysfunctions that they are afraid of talking about, or even have an addiction to masturbation.

    I just wonder if for most people, time would be better spent fixing one's life in general, instead of focusing so much on NOT consuming porn. At least for me, it seems like it tends to be easier to not watch porn when I have some prospects and hope in life, some freedom and independence, and put some proper restrictions and structure on myself.

    Also that law of attraction thing sounds like witchcraft!
     
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  12. It doesn't work because you've been spelling it wrong. Its jizz magik.
     
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  13. Jizz Magick? Isn't one spelling Skyrim and the other Final Fantasy?
     
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  14. I know that the power is in how you spell it. What is the rune for jizz?
     
  15. [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG]

    That's the closest I could find but I'm not hurling Thor's lightning bolts yet.
     
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  16. Let me consult the stones.....

    Yes it is spelled Magik. The true jizz magik can only be wielded by the pure bloods and those who exclusively game on PS4. The gods have spoken.
     
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  17. LavaMe

    LavaMe Fapstronaut

    I think there is some truth in what you say. Obsessing about a problem can give it more strength. But I do think addictions to things like porn can be pretty darn strong.
     
  18. Staystrong2020

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    Then let me ask this... why i cant get erect to real life sex, reason because im still a virgin, but i can to porn? If PMO is not the reason, then what can it be? many people talk about social anxiety, insecurities or just a too big expectation about real sex, but i m pretty sure that porn and fapping are a huge problem.
     
  19. HornyChang

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    Based on the things I read you create your reality. So your problems stems from the negative thoughts and feelings in your life. Negativity manifests into health problems, accidents, and other things you dont like. All you anxieties, insecurities and expectations are created in your mind. If you learn to be positive, always feeling good. Only good things will happen. The thing is we naturally gravitate towards negativity. Think about how powerful are minds are. A good example is the placebo effect when a sugar pill can heal us from an illness. The reason people are affected from pmo is cause people are more inclined to add negativity to there lives. Its hard to feel positive when you use up all your dopamine/nut 3 times a day. That is why some people get affected more significantly and others dont. Its how positive your are in life or your vibrations.
     
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