best to always snap away from these thoughts as fast as possible since our subconscious mind can take control when we least expect it.
I see and understand what you mean. If one gets precum from minimal fantasy, can it be considered a relapse or is even that amount too much damage done by that point?
From what I have read and gathered from other articles is that fantasizing lights up the same neurological pathways that porn does. So it is in our best interest to train our brains to stop. For the reset that is for you to decide as the counter is just a number and really not much more. Many people have the view that if i make it 90 days hard mode all of my problems will be gone. This is an unrealistic expectation. a 90 day reboot is a good start but not the whole journey.
I recommend reading this article it has brought me much insight on rebooting. (PDF) Rebooting as the Best Remedy (Season 1-40 | Kelvin Perez - Academia.edu