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35 and older accountability, Group 2

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by persona2903, Nov 13, 2019.


  1. Thank you brother it is my joy to be a part of this - I appreciate all the time you put in to this to keep things updated and brining us together and taking the leadership role.
     
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  2. Thanks bro!

    You too 60 days boom! that's 1/3rd of the way to 6 months! Really awesome
     
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  3. ANewFocus

    ANewFocus Fapstronaut

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    Guys I am struggling hard. I got a taste last week and I have used 3x since. My willpower is lacking in this and all areas of life: diet and exercise.

    One change is I had lots of holiday social activities and my wife’s birthday. Lots of food and socializing and it wears me out and also threw me off routines. Annual review at work. I have lost rhythm for this program and after seeing some porn last week, it was exciting and I find it hard to want to stop.
     
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  4. Abetterfuture

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    Thank you for the suggestions. I'm not sure really how to answer your questions. There have been times in my life when I have felt deep intense connections with God. I have had feelings that I can not turn from or deny. Why am I currently feeling so little motivation, I don't know.
     
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  5. I know the feeling bro. I get that too. I find sometimes I become so involved in the world and my mind has momentum and I really dont have the patience or time to give attention to the deeper stuff in life. Ultimately for me suffering is the trigger to bring me to spirituality. Like eckhart tolle says , dont worry about having to motivate yourself, life will do the work for you by bringing you enough suffering that you just have to transcend the limited identity.

    You are on your own sacred journey - honoring exactly how you feel and where you are is good too. also the fact that you are open and willing to talk about spiritual stuff and want to have more of it - it is already a blessing and grace pulling you - putting me - to greater freedom.
     
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  6. persona2903

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    It is true @ANewFocus , the end of the year is a very fast time, with many activity closures, a mixture of pressures, parties, celebrations, conclusions and plans for next year. It's not uncommon to get us out of our center ... But let's not give up, let's fight one hour at a time without looking forward to not feel overwhelmed.
    It just happened to me tonight, after eating a lot at a celebration with my coworkers at the end of the year, I didn't feel very well in my stomach and I had erotic dreams that made my desire for P grow again. We are very fragile, but I think writing in this group of friends is a more powerful tool than the naked eye can see. Instead of giving ourselves to browsing erotic pages or seeking sexual pleasure alone, let's continue writing here and help us overcome our weaknesses.
    I hope you find strength amid weakness and tiredness!
    Let's move forward together, step by step, to get out of this dark valley :)
     
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  7. ANewFocus

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    Thank you sir. This time is a reminder to me how far in the last two weeks I have strayed from my center and how I must live there.
     
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  8. I'm going away until january 1st 2020 - without access to the internet - going to a retreat center. See you next year and happy No Fapping ;)
     
  9. BraveBear

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    I have read the rules and would like to join this group.

    Thank you for putting this group together! I'm on Day 8 of my first 30-day challenge. @persona2903 Could you let me know if I'm added to the waiting list?

    Thanks!!
     
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  10. GamingNerd1234

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    Hey everyone I am just checking in.
    I'm still going after breaking my 6 day streak, now I'm at 7 days! I feel the urge to PMO but I am trying to find other things to do when I have a weak moment. I also find myself wanting to check for messages on the phone sex site but I deactivated my account so I cant so that's good.
    I hope you all are doing well! I believe we can do this!
     
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  11. Espi1971

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    This is great to hear! Thank you for sharing :)
     
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  12. ANewFocus

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    Care to share more on retreat center?
     
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  13. parad0x

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    Still trucking along. Life's good except I worry about my lack of libido alot.

    I had such a fullfilling sex life before I got hooked on porn :(

    I still seem to be so desensitized to real woman a lot of the time.
     
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  14. Abetterfuture

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    I met with my therapist earlier this week and we discussed finding motivation. He talked about allowing myself to take credit for the victories that I do have. He also talked about "finding the want to". Meaning when you feel unmotivated to do something that you know you should do, think about the benefits that come from doing that thing and ask yourself if you want those things. It all makes a lot of sense, hopefully I can put it in to practice.
     
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  15. ANewFocus

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    I struggle to put that into practice. I lose motivation and sulk. Been really trying to find some courage. I think I’m too comfortable in my life.
     
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  16. persona2903

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    @BraveBear hi, congrats on your 8 days! You are added to the waiting list and I think that a vacancy can open soon for you!
     
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  17. persona2903

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    Hi @krdt ! This also happens to me a little, and sometimes I wonder if it will be a consequence of my age (52) or residual effect of PMO.
    Most publications recommend patience, and we must wait between 3 and 9 months or more to leave flatline. It is also suggested to have a stable relationship where love and trust reign and a great sexual performance is not required ...
    Anyway, I prefer flatline and not a compulsion to PM that consumes all my energies!
    Here are a couple of interesting articles
    https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ybo...er/porn-recovery-and-the-mysterious-flatline-2013/
    https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/por...recover-from-porn-induced-sexual-dysfunction/
     
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  18. persona2903

    persona2903 Fapstronaut

    Hi @byker and @Arnuld , vacancies are being opened to the group, you are still interested in joining?
     
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    Hi @Arnuld , you are in! Already figures in the ranking of post #1
    You can introduce yourself to the group, so we can know something about you and give us mutual help in our challenges!
     
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