Stop counting days!

I used to believe that if I could spend 21 days without pmo I would be cured forever. So I would be really disappointed by myself whenever I relapsed. Having the counter back in day zero made me believe that all progress was gone and that I had to start all over again if I wanted to reach the 3 weeks and start having super powers and stuff. But in this last few months, after having some bad streaks I realized that I was wrong. Let me explain:
The opposite of addiction is connection. If you were actively participating in your environment you would probably have no chance to relapse because you would be compromised and engaged with things and people around you. You wouldn't have many chances to do pmo because it is a shameful thing, and it makes you wanna hide and be invisible for your peers. I wonder how many times I told myself "nah, I shouldn't talk to her. I relapsed yesterday and proly my social skills are at their lowest. I should wait until I have a better streak ".
Well guess what. That mindest is GARBAGE . It's simply an excuse for not taking action and keep on repeating the same cycle that is making you suffer in vain. And unfortunately I see there's plenty of us who fall into this, to avoid frustration, negative emotion or whatever. But the thing is that our time is not infinite and life is too short to be an espectator for ever. We all reach a point in which inaction is no longer an option and risking to come off as awkward or whatever is FAR less harmful than letting opportunities pass by.
Guess what, I relapsed yesterday. I still fell bad about it but I won't let that stop me. Today I'll meet some family friends and I'll do my best to have a good time even if there's still that annoying voice in my head telling me to hide away and give in to bad habits. But you know, that ***** is not my counselor anymore. And that's what I want for my 2020. It's time for me to reach out to people that I have hurt with my selfishness, to participate in class and get better, to start the creative projects I have always wanted but never dared, and God only knows what else. And I hope the same for you all guys reading this because we are a community and we are together in this fight

In conclusion:
* The most harmful thing is not relapse itself but using it as excuse for inaction.
* If you relapse don't binge. That's what cowards do and that ain't you(?). Go out and do things
* STOP COUNTING DAYS. Start doing things and streaks will come naturally

 

"Life is what happens while you are busy making excuses"
Thanks for sharing man. We are not alone on this

 

That's great man. Relapsing may "ruin" a streak but by no means it ruin all the progess you made. Keep up those numbers!

 

Nice post man. I'm on that process of discovering what matters to me. I also find incredible the amount of obstacles one has to face in that journey. Not only porn but the media, advertising, etc make all of us focus on completley pointless things..

 

Absolutely man!