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Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by corylife, Dec 22, 2019.

  1. blahblahblah100

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    I’d love to join in starting today. Looking for accountability partners and support. I hope you don’t mind me tracking myself daily here do you? I think I really need a daily check up.
     
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  2. corylife

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    I better see you come back everyday! a lot of people on this thread dont come back everyday like me :(...

    can you?
     
  3. that dude

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    Hey there!
    I'd like to join your journey. I'm male, 20 yo from Germany and didn't manage to have a streak longer than 2 weeks for 2 years now. I'm sick of it, sick of failing every time. Have had light signs of depression and social anxiety. Definitely have to end it. I want to check in at least once a week. Let's go! My goal is 1 year no PMO, it is day 3 for me now.
     
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  4. Darth_vader33

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    day 2 this day has been long i'm exhausted the good thing is that i completed it
     
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  5. Pathofsuccess_1

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    That’s the spirit! Get right back on the Nofap horse.

    You just saved me from relapse honestly..

    but I have a question.

    I’m on day 6 and I haven’t touched myself or looked at porn for 6 days.

    but one thing has been concerning me.

    I never edged. But I got really close to relapse today and I fantasized a little. The urges are a lot less now but this combined with an occasional glimpse when I accidentally run into something really has me kind of wondering because usually I’m in warrior mode by now (day 6 like I mentioned) but I still feel the social anxiety and brain fog alittle (stuttering, slow thinking, etc.) do you think it’s because of me looking an extra second when I accidentally run into something? Do you think I should reset?

    I feel like a lot of people on this forum when I ask these kind of questions they respond to me saying at the end of the day if you didn’t really linger for more than a few seconds and you didn’t P M or O, I should be fine. But idk what do you think? I would appreciate the help. Even if I did slow anything down, would just staying away from anything from now on allow my brain to continue rebooting? Or has the dopamine already lingered in my brain and I have to pmo to refresh my streak. That is the number one thing I relapse for a lot of the times, believe it or not. Answering this would help me tremendously!


    By the way, Congrats on 9 days! That can be super challenging when you don’t usually get there! It’s a superb achievement! Keep going!
     
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  6. blahblahblah100

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    Yes. I’m back. Today was tough. Had urges/thoughts. It’s weird to say but I find myself missing it more than I do wanting it. If that makes sense? Like an old friend? An old friend that was bad for you from the get go. Do you guys feel that sensation? I hate it. I hate that missing it feeling. The worst part is. I miss the only good moments. I never end up missing how I feel after I’ve done the deed. Anyway, once the urges started coming up I decided to cook. Don’t know if they dissipated but I think I did distract myself long enough not to notice. What about you guys?
     
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  7. thegodaltair

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    Day 4: SPAM REMOVED (spam code #001) - REPORT TO MODERATION
     
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  8. corylife

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    Done with day 2 and done with day 3. Sorry I didn't update you guys as promised. It was a very busy day. I'm taken some nootropics to help with productive work, as a result, I got a lot of shit done today. More shit to do today and tommorow, real estate exam coming up. I've definetely had some minor headaches I don't know if that was because of nofap withdrawls or because of nootropic side effects, nonetheless, a busy day will keep you from PMO'ing.

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    Thank you for congratulating me! About your question, if you didn't edge how could you of possibly got close to relapse? Just because you fantasized slightly and seeing a small glimpse? You are totally okay. Even our ancestors saw slight glimpses or fantasized back when there was no porn. You are already rebooting, and you will continue to reboot because what you saw didn't set you backwards much, if not any. The brain fog, stuttering, slow thinking could be from other external forces/reasons, or your streak is simply not long enough to notice effects.

    Okay yea, fine, These small glimpses do in fact affect us more than regular people because our brains are more wired to porn. Some people can handle alcohol responsibly, some people cannot. Some can watch porn responsibly, some people cannot (us). Nonetheless, yea, you might of got a slight dopamine hit, but trust me, its not as bad as watching porn for even 3 minutes, 5 minutes, 10 minutes, an hour. Do not PMO to refresh your streak, you gained no loss. Orgasming from masturbating by watching porn for a period of time is the worst possible outcome.

    KEEP GOING! YOU WILL SEE PROGRESS! A GLIMPSE IS NOTHING! Do not reset. !

    That's exactly what I do, just keep it busy my friend.
    Hey welcome That_Dude! You got this! Crush your social anxiety and light depression. Make sure you are coupling NoFap with other self development topics like meditating or 'how to talk' videos (Watch Charisma On Command on Youtube) and surely you will beat your problems.
     
  9. that dude

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    Corylife already answered it but I wanna add that you have to remind yourself that it is your addicted brain making you think like that. It is looking for "excuses" to pmo by rationalizing your behavior. Just remember that this is your addiction making you think "ahh I fantasized I can also relapse cause I kind of failed already anyway...". No you didn't! You got this, I agree that fantasizing a little is not relapsing. Try to stop fantasizing, but don't be too harsh on yourself for it. Also, if you fantasize, try not to think of porn scenes but of real life stuff. Of course it is better to not fantasize at all though. Keep it up!
     
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  10. Pathofsuccess_1

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    Thanks guys. This really helped me! I’m never going to let my brain trick me into pmo now. Day 7!
     
  11. blahblahblah100

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    I failed again. But I won’t give up. And more importantly I won’t stop posting here. Accountability is important. I was thinking about not posting due to the embarrassment but that’s exactly why I need to post. I hope to rid myself of this filthy behavior once and for all. Hopefully I can with all your guys’ help.
     
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  12. thegodaltair

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    Day 5: Strong urges today.
     
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  13. corylife

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    Nothing to be embarassed about :) We're all in this together. I relapsed too when I told myself I wouldn't, but I mean everyone fails at times, and I let you guys know if i do :)
     
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  14. Mus_2020

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    Day 8:
    Going to push myself all out!!
     
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  15. Darth_vader33

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    Hi,
    I want to join your accountability group. I will comment every day on this thread.
    I am sick of getting nowhere and being controlled by this addiction. Together we can do it!
    BTW I am 23 years old and from Germany.
    Have a nice and pmo free day :)
     
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  17. that dude

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    Day 4, going well so far. Urges started today, but I'm busy all day so it's fine. Usually the urges get really strong on day 5 or 6 for a few days, so the next days may get tough.
    Don't give up, bro! Keep trying, you will eventually get there!
    Welcome! On what day are you? I wish you a good start, let's go!
     
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  18. corylife

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    Done with day 4. Much better mental clarity. Honestly be only relapsing once in 2 weeks is making a big difference. That is progress. Usually in 2 weeks I relapse 7-10 times. I have much better focus and my ADD seems to be more controlled. Love it. I got a real estate exam today to become a real estate agent, wish me luck.
    It's ok. Do it again man. You'll be ok. Keep going at it.
    Welcome!
     
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  19. Action

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    Good luck on the exam! I'm sure you got this.
     
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  20. Has anyone else had issues with just spontaneously orgasming out of nowhere? It's been happening a lot to me lately for a while and I absolutely hate it. I'd rather be a lobotomized zombie with no emotions if we're being honest. Since I've started been about 4 months since I first began nofap I'm starting to become convinced I have garbage genetics instead of the benefits being real. So far I've cut out porn, masturbation, Facebook, instagram, reddit and all that garbage. I also dieted and exercise and I got no benefits. My confidence did not improve, there has been no testosterone boosts or muscle gains, anxiety is still terrible.
     
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