Nofap + HOCD

Nah, not really

 

Good, then get that work started. Are you ready?

 

Sure

 

Good 24 hours not indulging in hocd but observing and recognizing, acknowledging thoughts and label them: hocd/not true.

 

Idk, what’s wrong with me. Growing up I was girls crazy. Never considered being gay. I have had only girl crushes plus dudes don’t turn me on. But lately it’s been feeling like I’m gay

 

Don't start that record again. Do the work. 24 hours not indulging in hocd but observing and recognizing, acknowledging thoughts and label them: hocd/not true.
Don't indulge in sef-pity, don't be sloppy. Work and free yourself. Don't whine, work.

 

then freaking fight that obsession bruh. Be an alpha male, not some weird beta that are weak and follows every step other people take

 

It’s not as easy as it may seem

 

@TheSmokeCriminal I have already spoken with you and I have already told you what to do.

You must of as the other guy said, stop seeking reassurance and start labeling thoughts as HOCD, the HOCD thoughts are the ones that cause you stress and make you want to look for reassurance.

As scary as it seems, the only way to beat HOCD is just to accept the possibility that you could be gay or bi, and it will seem real for awhile and it will bother you so much at first, but after awhile you will see that these “attractions” you are feeling are just mere thoughts that have no meaning to them, you are giving it power by looking for reassurance.

Stop posting on NoFap, you are seeking reassurance, don’t look anything up related to HOCD and don’t ask anyone about it, just act like it doesn’t matter, act like it doesn’t matter if you are gay or not, and the fear won’t be there.

After some time you will realize how you aren’t gay or bi, you attraction for women will return, ive been there bro, I’ve struggled with it and I’ve beaten it once.

 

Dude, I don’t care anymore . If I’m gay then I’m gay. I don’t get anxious or disgusted by the thoughts so

 

A new level of obsessions? What do you mean?

 

What up bro, you seem to not completely understand how HOCD works, and these guys are doing a terrible job at helping you to understand their situation.

So HOCD is just a form of ocd, evolved around the idea of one becoming or always being a homosexual and not knowing it. Their brain obsessed about it, no matter what they can’t stop thinking about it. Everything that happens is somehow connected to them being gay, every guy they see their brain will tell them they think they are attractive, and also they will have intrusive thoughts and feel like they want to act it out, even though they feel no arousal.

This is coupled with very strong anxiety spikes, which causes them to believe the thoughts even more, which leads to them doing checking behaviors which can be imagining gay sex, checking guys out to see if they are aroused by them, looking at gay porn vs straight porn to see what turns them on.

HOCD In it’s purest form where one is not even connected to homosexuality at all, is a rare case and also very hard to beat, as it’s all mental and will always be there.

HOCD that is porn induced, which is becoming very common now, is a lot easier to beat since really the biggest fuel is the pmo addiction, so once you quit you’ll realize your attractions to girls coming back while gay stuff becomes repulsive. This is really caused by people who escalate in porn genres and find themselves in homosexual genres such as gay, transgendered person, etc.

You said it yourself, the only way to beat it is basically to stop giving it attention, you must stop avoiding things and occupy yourself with things you enjoy doing. Now don’t get me wrong, with HOCD this is hard as fuck lol, but if you put in the work, then the thoughts will eventually weaken and your certainty of being straight will return.

 

Thanks, I see you've been there ... and found your way out. Good for you. Bet it is hard as fuck and not easy to stop, as is any addiction or compulsive behavior. So, I can relate. What I find interesting is that you use the word repulsive when it comes to gay stuff ... and for me that is where I see its rooots. From fear of being gay to full blown out homophobia, subtle or obvious. And homophobia can be as hidden in a person as is any belief that is harmful and destructive. That's what makes it hard, too. Anyway, thanks a lot for taking your time to write things out so detailed. I appreciate.

 

My hocd isn’t porn induces! Great!

 

Yeah, homophobia and denial are too very big words that cause a lot of anxiety.

During my worst HOCD stages, I would accuse myself everyday of being homophobic and also of being in denial, and I made myself believe once I accept being gay then I’ll start to enjoy gay stuff.... which is far from the case.

When I say repulsive, I mean in a sexual way, not repulsed by gay people. I’m not homophobic at all. Obviously straight people will find sex with a man or sucking a penis to be repulsive, you feel me?

@TheSmokeCriminal, you seem to have the natural HOCD, which is hard as it’s all in your head. I recommend you speak with a therapist, tell your parents bro. I struggled with this at 14, and didn’t tell my parents till I was 16, I spent 2 years in mental agony, I lost everything. First get a diagnosis and then they will recommend you to a therapist who knows HOCD, just be completely honest about your situation and you’ll be on your way to freedom very soon.

 

I have talked to my parents numerous times, they don’t give a cr@p. Idk, what’s happening with me, about a year ago I was a completely different person and now I’m feeling gay… My attraction to women is gone due to my porn addiction mainly, also I get a lot of false attractions… What is more, I don’t get any anxiety or distress from the thoughts anymore.

 

I completely understand you man. I’m 18, I’m basically your age, and I’m dealing with HOCD again, just this time I know what it is and I’m once again addicted to porn, and just like you I don’t get aroused by gay porn or anything gay either. What day are you on with no PMO?

 

Day 0, the addiction is really bad

 

I’m on day 2, we are not far. We got this, you must have the mental strength to say no to the urge, and also resist looking for reassurance through porn.