Am I? Bi/gay thread

I recently admitted to myself and to my wife that I was bisexual. I never went as far as sleeping with or even going out with a man but over the years I've had fantasies and MO'd to gay P. I tried to convince myself that it was induced by the P and that I could just ignore it and it wouldn't be an issue.

What I've realised is that it doesn't matter. Maybe the P did influence my sexuality but it doesn't change who I am. Sexuality is a spectrum and whilst I'm primarily attracted to women I can't deny I that I've had thoughts about men. That makes me bi. You've had relationships with both men and women, that makes you bi.

You've said it yourself that you are in a committed relationship with a woman and not worried about cheating. That's all you need to know. Own it and don't be ashamed about it. It doesn't make you any less of a man. It doesn't mean that you are more likely to cheat.

One final thing to say is to talk to your partner about it. My wife suspected I was bi and I denied it and lied about watching gay P. In the end she's actually been very supportive of it and by talking to her about I feel a lot more comfortable. Obviously your partner might not deal with it well but they deserve to know who they are in a relationship with and you don't have to lie yourself.

Good luck with your reboot! Hope everything else is going well.

 

I've never been with a guy, but I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual too.

Watch as much or more gay porn than straight porn and swing back and forwards between them. Can't remember exactly when it started, but I've always been attracted to both guys and girls.

I see hot women and my jaw hits the floor and I see hot guys and think DAMN!

Am married and like you would never cheat, but if I ever became single again I would definitely not rule out hooking up with a guy. I'm defo not out of the closet, but have accepted who I am and what I like.

Have never discussed it with my wife, but suspect she suspects...so to speak.

Relax man, you're attracted to who you're attracted to. What does it matter?

 

It is not a case of "what you are" it is a case of "who you identify as". It is a choice what you call yourself. Only you know how you feel inside, and it is up to you to choose if you express that feeling as a label on the outside.

 

I’m wondering if watching gay porn specifically has something to do with it. I never ever watched gay porn and never had HOCD or thought I was attracted to a man. It’s not so the fact that I wasn’t curious but more a strict rule I set to myself (I probably watched transgendered person only once in my life, then I put the same rule).

i got into many other weird stuff but for those it always started with curiosity. I watched it without realizing what it really was, not feeling especially aroused but then I would come back to it and get a new fetish.
Something make me think that if I allowed myself to watch gay porn in the first place, I could be into it (or maybe not, just a theory). Not gonna check that though.