When rebooted will real sex give u the same buzz as porn did.

Yes, definitely. Sex doesn't give you the emptiness of porn. Sex is connection, especially with someone you have feelings for.

Just remember that what matters is how we see things, not what they really are. Avoid craving porn, even deep down, because that can give you a lot of headache and trouble.

 

I'm 4 months clean.

I've been having sex with a porn problem and now after abstaining 4 months.

Let me tell you, the excitement, sensations and intimacy is totally better and worth it at giving that crap up.

 

Sex on PMO feels like masturbating to boring porn clips. While hooked on PMO, masturbating to new exciting porn will feel better than having sex.

Afer you have successfully rebooted (for me it happens around day 60) you have a clear understanding of porn. It's not exciting anymore. What you will want after rebooting is real contact with a real girl.

After successfully rebooting, your question if sex will give you the same kick will not bother you anymore. Because you will see that porn and sex are two very different things.

For example: good food and heroine both raise dopamine levels, but good food also nurishes your body and will give you a satisfied, warm feeling. While heroine gives a quick kick, but leaving you exhausted and depressed shortly after.

Sex is what nature planned for human beings and intense, complete satisfaction only comes from having sex. PMO or even MO can never do that because it imitates sex. It's not the real deal. Only an addict would prefer a shot of heroine over good food.

 

Does the excitement and arousal to search and look at porn and artificial sexual stimulation go away completely after you have completely rebooted though?

 

Sex is thousands times better then porn. thousands.

 

No. You will still feel aroused because the brain can't tell the difference between pixels and reality. So, you will still feel aroused as if you were walking by a pretty lady.

The thing that changes is your response to that stimulation. When you go through all the hoops and teach yourself that porn is bad and not the heaven it seems like at first, not searching/looking at porn becomes your automatic response. You won't be tempted because you are consistent to your values and choices.

 

Yes it does. As long as you have sex. If you do not have sex, urges for PMO may arise as sexual arousal gets stronger if there's no release via sex.

I advice to start dating when you feel rebooting is nearly finished because for successfully abstaining from PMO, you'll want an active sex life.

Cheers

 

Sex is so much better than porn. The difference is the connection and using your senses. Touch, taste, smell, the sounds. Porn can't do that.

 

It's night and day different. Porn use feels like some empty bodily function, like peeing but it relaxes you simultaneously and puts you to sleep.
I rebooted 2 years ago and the sex and the finish was so damn incredible that I'd feel it into the next day. I'd feel as if I'd taken a drug after I came. Especially if you're in love with the girl it's ridiculous how excited I would get before and during, and afterwards my brain would short circuit.
The further I get from porn, the more I realize what a dumb drug it is. It reminds me a lot of smoking. If it blew up before I lost my virginity, I probably would've never even used it.

 

I’ve never gotten the huge Adrenaline spikes in real sex that I got from pornography. Maybe I need better looking partners, maybe I need to learn how to do threesomes (I already know these are attainable, Ive met 2 different women who claim to have had them.) but I know there’s a solution out there

 

@parad0x, could you or other guys who noticed improvement explain what you noticed while having sex after abstaining from porn? I have had sex with previous girlfriends but I think I was still deep into porn addiction that I didn't find it that exciting overall (although erection and orgasm was still present). Do you feel more excitement, heart racing, or physical sensations (like in the gut), or tingling nerves? I know this sounds dumb but because I had used porn too much even during my times with my gfs I think I lacked the same arousal experience people had, so I am a bit clueless as to what the mental side of things feel like. I read another 5-6 months abstainer's post where he almost orgasmed simply by seeing his partner undress and I wonder if I will return to that sensitivity

 

There’s definitely an emotional component to real sex that isn’t there with porn. But i don’t remember my heart racing for most of it.

 

I can only speak for myself- not completely but the volume gets turned way way down on those thoughts and desires. To the point where you can handle them.

 

Yep much the same for me. In the depth of my porn use. I found sex a chore and I mostly did it to make sure I didn't lose my gf or have her think I was less of a man.

My libido came back in ebbs and flows about 70 days in then more recently it came back pretty strong. I feel as though as I abstained my excitement threshold was reset meaning I was more and more sensitive to the femine ways of my new current gf.

I didn't start on porn until I was older (late 20s). But I feel as though now I feel similar to I did when I was a teen getting my first kisses, holding hands etc it send a nice electric sensation through my body since I have avoided porn.

Not 100% on par but getting very close at least anyway.

It's a good sign and my motivation to stay the course of nofap.

Hope that helps

 

Porn is fake intimacy. The real thing is much better