We cannot stop compulsiveness due to PORN!!!!

I strongly believe it's only because of porn ,we are fapping frequently.Just imagine if there was no porn,there would not be any pmo addiction,no more guilts.

The main problem with watching porn is the brain rewires itself.With every masturbation session,the grooves in the brain are made deeper.Basically imagine you are watering a plant and it is growing everyday and continues to grow for many years.Imagine how difficult it would be to pull out or cut that tree.That is what every session of porn and masturbation does to our mind.
Why can't we stop it?
Because our reward centers are fucked.Thry have realised that in order to feel good,porn is enough so we don't feel any excitement in other areas of our life whether it is our career or social or personal life.

But once we stop using porn,over a course of time,usually within weeks ,our reward system starts to heal.We start appreciating and enjoying various aspects life has to offer.

But this freedom comes at a huge cost.For people who have been addicted to masturbation since years,this freedom will come only after a big sacrifice.And this sacrifice is extremely practical in nature.I am talking about all the digital devices you see around you.Your whole reward system is fucked because of these devices.Our entire psychological stability has been lost.Our smartphones,our laptops,our pcs have made us highly numb.

So for those people who want serious change and want to see immediate output,I request you guys please give up your smartphones.I am not against any technology.But we need to understand that we have to sacrifice otherwise change would be very difficult.Please install blockers or give up these smartphone for a flip phone.I have been advocating the use of filters and flip phones in every post that I see where people are suffering because it has worked for me.I experienced true happiness when I went for 24 days nofap.It was only possible because I gave up my smartphone.It was one of the best experiences of my life.So try it and let everyone here know how giving up smartphones has improved your life.

Cheers

 

Any form of porn which arouses you and gets you to feel good will become addictive if you keep watching it and masturbate and slowly hours turn to days,days turn to months and months to years and after a few years we realise that pmo has become an integral part of ourselves.This is the basic nature of every addiction.The addiction becomes so severe that when we take away the triggers,the person experience s withdrawal symptoms.

Unfortunately due to availability of free porn,even if we want to change,the brain brings us right back on the cycle.

Cutting off the triggers(smartphone) is equivalent to stopping the watering of the tree which had grown over the years.

 

Regarding the first point,if the addiction was a matter of choice then most people would not be posting on this site. Saying addiction is a choice is like saying that when you place cocaine infront of a heavily cocaine addicted person and expect them to not take it. Chances are ,if they are a heavy user and have not gone even a week without cocaine ,they would definitely use it.

Regarding the second point,I totally agree that we cannot give up smartphones but we can definitely use filters which would help us immensely.The use of filters may be temporary or permanent depending on the level and severity of addiction. But I would highly recommend a minimum 21 days period of filtering of content. For those people who can afford to give up their smartphones,I would say go ahead and get one of those button phones.

I totally agree with the third point. Seeing positivity in every challenge is a must.

A lot of people don't experience the level of freedom that you are talking about. Their brains have been so much addicted to porn that before bed, automatically the tabs are opened and porn is viewed which then propels them to masturbate.Very few people are capable of breaking this cycle only through willpower.For others,I would highly recommend the use of filters provided replacing the pmo session with new habits is not working.

 

The addiction varies from people to people. For you like you said,when you read the detremental effects of porn,you stopped it.But for some people,even when they read all the negative effects,they are unable to stop.That is why you see so many relapse posts.Even when people know the negatives,they still use it ,not because they want to,but because their brains cannot handle going without porn.The grooves in the brain are very deep.

For those people in the tech world,I would recommend a little use of filters. Surely you can find ways to work and won't need to give up any device with the help of filters.

 

Let me give you details on the filters which I found best.Where there's a will,there is a way.

For computer ,whether it's windows or iOS,I would advice Kaspersky parental control.It is one of the best filters I have come across.

For smartphones,qustodio,Kaspersky safe kids,eset parental control,google family link are some of the best ones.Spin safe browser can be used and you can block other browsers.

You might be right about the pmo addiction stemming from a deep rooted problem but remember most people are ashamed of their addiction and might not want to seek professional help.Mayne they are afraid because of their religious principles.So the best alternative is to take away the cause of their problems,i.e porn.Filters are one of the best ways of doing that.

 

I agree that only setting up filters and sitting idle is not a solution.We need to form new habits.I think filters provide us a mental security that we cannot access porn any way and the brain starts focussing on other areas of life and slowly these new routines turn into new habits and after a month or two,our habit system has completely changed.

Porn is like a stimuli.Cutting off the stimuli won't heal the damage.But knowing that there is no more stimuli,we can work towards healing ourselves.I am saying this because the filters have worked for me.But I guess it varies from person to person.Whatever works for you,you go with that.