How do i become a better friend?

I need to be better about reaching out to friends. I also need to be better at socializing. A lot of times i just stand there awkwardly not knowing what to talk about, although my social skills are way improved since starting nofap, they still need a lot of work. It’s like anything though, it takes practice right?

Also i tend to always shy away from actual conversations with friends and preferring to do some activity together like sports, games, etc so that the focus is on that rather than connecting. I’m sure some guys struggle with this as well. But is this tru friendship? This just doing things together? No, i don’t think so. I think it’s necessary to really get to know them, to have deeper talks, ask them about their hopes, dreams, struggles etc

Does anyone have any advice or any books or videos on how to be a better friend?

I need to finish “how to win friends and influence people”

 

i know who i am now, but it’s hard to find like minded people. Or rather, maybe they are out there but i haven’t gotten to know them enough to know that we’re like minded

 

Good points. I would also like to add that when after you first meet someone, if you continue to see them here and then in the coming days, then say hi! Oftentimes i’m guilty of for whatever reason pretending i don’t see or know them. A friendly hello whenever i see them will eventually establish some comfort and identification of oneself as a friend rather than just a stranger

 

I have become almost 5x better at socializing recently! 6 reasons:

1: nofap +1 month
2: better self image
3: started copying and analyzing my friend who is amazing at socializing
4: started talking to more people, being more friendly
5: have done some internal work, self reflection and personal growth
6: most importantly, going with the flow (which is very hard to do when you constantly relapse, you become awkward)