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Why do I keep doing it?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by skullbush, Jan 9, 2020.

  1. Jan 9, 2020 #1
    skullbush

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    I can't figure out why I keep pmo'ing. I'll do some time abstaining and see great results with my erections very quickly, I'll really feel my wife and the chemistry when we have sex. I'll feel great then I'll relapse and my erections aren't so good then I start to worry about Ed.

    I love my wife so much, we have a great sex life. I just can't understand why I keep pmo'ing.
     
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  2. Jan 9, 2020 #2
    JamesTheSquirrel

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    I'd suggest that you ask yourself a few questions about it:

    When are the times that you PMO? Is it because you are bored or stressed? Do you have any triggers? What is PMO actually giving you?

    At the end of the day you are the one who knows most about why you relapse.

    The thing that you need to remember is to not be complacent. You have to actively want to quit and not look back. The times that you think about relapsing you need to keep in mind how bad it feels when you do. You are in control of your actions and it's up to you to make positive choices and not make excuses.
     
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  3. Jan 9, 2020 #3
    skullbush

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    I guess I do it whenever I can because I can get away with it and enjoy the feelings, sometimes it's for stress relief, mostly just enjoyment and habit. It's not giving me anything, just a few minutes enjoyment. Other times it's to see can I get fully erect, although I think that's a silly excuse I just tell myself.

    Thank you, you have given me a lot to think about.
     
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  4. Jan 10, 2020 #4
    Joe1023

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    You keep doing it because its an addiction. Its not simply a bad habit that we maybe shouldn't be doing, it is an absolute addiction that grabs onto every part of us and makes every fiber of our being want to act out in the addiction. That's why there is a 12 step program devoted to helping people stop with sponsors and accountability partners! That's why there are books, videos, podcasts, workbooks, lectures, CSAT therapists, smart phone, tablet and computer firewall software, and seminars all devoted to sex and porn addiction!

    But usually porn and sex addiction is not the root problem, its actually a result of something else. I'm in therapy and I know what my cause is, I'm just working to deal with it now.

    I wish you the best of luck!
     
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