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Are women who engage in findom/femdom bad people?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by skaterdrew, Jan 10, 2020.

  1. Jan 10, 2020 #1
    skaterdrew

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    There could be four reasons why men are suffering from these fetishes.

    1. They are addicted to porn
    2. They have mental health problems
    3. They have very low self esteem
    4. They are very lonely.

    Or the man could have all of these.

    I don't think it's good that there is a lot of women that pray on men like this.

    The ironic thing is some of these women would act and think they support mental health causes.

    I mean how many guys are just willingly doing this being happy doing it? In my opinion something has to be seriously going wrong in their life for them to want to do this stuff.

    I have had issues with these fetishes before. Mainly just watching videos of it online and checking out what women are doing online on social media who engage in it, the things they post and things like that.

    But thankfully I am getting away from it, and don't enjoy it anywhere near as much as I used to because of nofap and ponfree.

    But some of these women come across like they care about people with mental health issues. But I have seen other women literally writing things like they're happy to rip these guys lives apart, to ruin their life, they want them to relapse on it, they want them to have issues with their mental health or an addiction so they end up engaging in that stuff.

    It's just very ruthless on these women's part I think.

    The reality is they're praying on men who have some sort of issue or multiple issues just so they can make easy money.

    I just think it's ruthless.

    Some people might argue it's a kink, it's a fetish. But it's an unnatural fetish that has been developed, most likely through porn or what ever has been seen online.

    Some people might argue that these men want this. But in reality they have been conditioned in to it. They also could suffer with other issues like I mentioned.

    So then what happens is these men actually become seriously addicted to all this stuff.

    It's dangerous, and I don't like how a lot of the women who engage in it pray on men like this.
     
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  2. Jan 10, 2020 #2
    ClenchedFist

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    Findom is just another form of prostitution. You might argue it's worse than e.g. escorting, but the premise is the same, you pay someone to help you reach O. Whether findom or prostitution in general should be legal or not is another story.

    The rest is just advertising. Try calling out a findom lady and see how quickly her shtick will crumble.
     
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  3. Jan 10, 2020 #3
    Cyber6

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    For my luck, i am dominant and not submissive, so i would have no fun with findom. But yes, you can ask about the ethics behind. If a girl just plays dom for you, it is just a fetish. But with findom, she maybe more knowing that she use your sexual addiction for getting money. Of course usual prostitutes and camgirls do the same, but findom is another level. So i would not agree 100% with you, but mainly i would agree. Finding a guy doing Findom must be like finding gold for that girl, because it means much less work for much money.
     
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  4. Jan 10, 2020 #4
    fedmom

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    Of course they're bad people and it disgusts me that it's even legal. Some of the fetishes can make you suicidal after.
     
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  5. Jan 10, 2020 #5
    skaterdrew

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    In the past there has been times when I have been jacking off to femdom stuff where It's put me in this sort of extreme horny ecstacy like state, and that is no word of a lie. So yeah I think there seems to be something extra dangerous about it compared other types of porn.
     
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  6. Jan 10, 2020 #6
    +TenPercent

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    Yes . . . if they are doing it for money. (which would include all women who engage in findom)

    But some women are naturally dominant, some men are naturally submissive and some men are really attracted to dominant women. I don't see anything wrong with that.

    If two (or more) consenting adults want to engage in those activities (in real life!) in the bedroom, or even to have a female led relationship, I don't see anything wrong with that.
     
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  7. Jan 10, 2020 #7
    CS1

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    No they are not but they are a nasty and dirty
     
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    Yes they are
     
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  9. Jan 10, 2020 #9
    red gyarados

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    Yes and if they were men you wouldn’t be asking that.
     
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  10. Jan 10, 2020 #10
    Cyber6

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    agree 100 %
     
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  11. Jan 10, 2020 #11
    skaterdrew

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    I think it depends on how it's happening. If the men are completely in control of them selves and just like it then yeah that's fine. But I honestly think some men who are so addicted to femdom/findom can reach a stage they lose control to such an extent they can't make rational decisions.
     
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  12. Jan 11, 2020 #12
    fedmom

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    Femdom fetishes are paraphilic which isn't the same as being sexually submissive. The only men that can be submissive are homosexual or trans men although I'm not sure about the science behind it and I don't even think it's genetic afaik.
     
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  13. Feb 8, 2021 #13
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    Well, yeah, I guess. They're "bad" in the sense that they use people's addiction to extract money from them. But then the same could be said about tobacco companies, the liquor industry, casinos, the lottery etc. I guess the main difference I see is that porn is not regulated in any way. Age restriction is not enforced. You can access it wherever. There's no mandatory sticker that says "excessive porn use may lead to erectile dysfunction".

    Maybe it's a bit trickier to regulate it because of how vague it is. Anything that arouses you can be porn, and if you're anything like me - anything can arouse you.

    I think the bottom line is that we all have to learn to regulate ourselves, regardless of whether those who aim to take advantage of us are "good" or "evil".
     
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