Paying women

You have get a sense of power by giving some online women your money? The ones that have the real power are them over you. Taking the pictures is free, you're the one who lost 1000 dollars.

 

Yep they are controlling your life. Is not sense of power, is stupidity (sorry). And the fact you recognize your addiction mean something.

 

Yeah, I know, when you buy a new iPhone you control Apple

 

Spend them on your wife.
Buy her the sexist lingerie you can find and fuck her silly.

That's where your money should be going. She's made you her husband, my dude. She's not gonna go for anyone else in the world except you and you alone.

That is power. You see that woman bare it all when the whole world can't. That's what I call power.

 

This is a way of cheating on your wife. I do not think you understand the severity of your actions.

 

They're probably laughing at you man.

 

Best bit of advice you will hear all day! You have a wife that loves you at least fight for her if nothing else! give her your time and affection dont fall for the same mistake I did.

 

If you honestly believe that then you are destined to lose both your wife and your money.

The power here is with the women you are paying money to, they are doing you a service they are charging you for something that they make available to anyone who is willing to pay for it. What's worse is that the picture you are getting are no different to what is freely available all over the internet - you just think your getting something for your money.

I wish you good luck, but you'd be much better off investing your money and more importantly your time in your relationship.

 

I understand your sense of power, sometimes to go back to reality I go to certain places and pay women for real contact and I also feel this sense of power ... but in the end we are chickens to pluck ...
Unfortunately in my life I have no opportunity to meet women and attend certain environments is my last beach, beyond the satisfaction from supermarket meat ... they are always existed situations but with a squalid value ...
You are lucky to have a wife ... if she is frigid try to spur her ... maybe you can be the one to block her ... but in any case concentrate on her ...
you should try to understand your need for a sense of power where it comes from ...

 

I understand the OP’s feeling of ‘power’. I have similar issues in relapsing any paying women for pics, phone sex or even real life encounters.

I find that there is a thrill in just being in contact and receiving messages from a woman. Then as I am the customer I can say what I would like them to do. Sometimes they offer to do certain things. It all gets very exciting and intoxicating to the point I become totally obsessed and can think of nothing else until the act has been completed, at which point the dopamine seems to evaporate almost immediately and I’m left thinking “seriously dude, WTF was that all about. You’ve just wasted xx hours and xxx pounds on THAT!?!???”

I need help to find ways to replace the dopamine rush. I’ve taken a lot of steps recently to ensure I can’t start to get hooked back into something. It is worth unpicking the events that led to your last relapse and go back a long way as there is normally something really innocuous (like just popping on Instagram, which then leads to clicking through on profiles owned by women, then the searching....blah blah blah trapped again in the next relapse). I’ve gotta identity those early warning signs and stop myself there and then.

 

I felt in power too when paying for sex and eventually the addiction was in power over me. Yes, identify early warnings and most important: Go through withdrawal. Unfortunately there is no way around.

 

BEAST COMMENT THO

or if u such a giver, give the homeless people some money, u will found that giving to homeless give you a better feed back than giving to woman online (and who know's that isnt a woman, i mean so many beautifull man with photoshop skill right know)

 

I will say this one thing.
You are weak if you do this.
Your need abstain from PM (consider this P).
If wife isnt enough, find a lover and make pics yourself.

 

If you’re paying them they’re the ones with the power.

 

Wtf! Some of the recommendations by individuals on these forums are outrageous!

 

Elaborate.
This forums was supposed to stop addiction to porn and hand fucking last I heard.

 

You are recommending that he cheats on the wife he loves. That^ is what is outrageous!