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Loss of attraction

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Deleted Account, Jan 11, 2020.

  1. My attraction and lust for girls is gone. Now whenever I see a girl I notice only her drawbacks. Also I’m a hocd sufferer and most dudes seem attractive… How do I get my old life back?
     
  2. Hi, I m in my 42 day. All the past two years I tried to achieve the 90 days challenge several times (unsuccessfully for now).

    But my attraction with the girls has increased this period. I feel more motivation for have an active sexual life, and in this moment the depression symptoms are desappeared.

    You need to be strong!! ;) I recommend you to do meditation, every day if you can. With it, you can begin to control your urges, and feel more positive things in your life.

    And write a nofap calendar with excel, and write your thinkings when relapse or when you are happy for a good streak. If you do it, you will see the detonators. And when you are tempted to relapse, you will open the excel and will read your depressed thinkings of the last relapse and possibly you will be discouraged to do it again.
     
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  3. Ty. But now whenever I see girls that I used to like I notice a lot of drawbacks about them. And most of them seem ugly.
     
  4. I understand you because the same thing happens to me, most do not seem attractive to me. But I think this also happened to me before so much porn or maybe not. The point is: they are real.

    I try to frequent places where there are very pretty girls precisely because of this (for ex: gym) If we are demanding with them it is also a good starting point to start taking care of our image a lot, and thus be at the same height as we want. I was already with a girl that I liked as a person but I had no attraction for her and it was a disaster. Now I want her to be very pretty.
     
  5. Idk I’m a hardcore porn addict and a hocd sufferer.
     
  6. Same here. i noticed this about 2 years ago. Its sad i may have lost my sexuality
     
  7. whats ur story?
     
  8. Ive been addicted for about 15 years;im 29 now
     
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  9. I have been an addict for 5 years I suppose
     
  10. If you use porn, you're training your brain to fixate on an unrealistic fantasy. This doesn't matter what it is you're watching - a particularly body type, a particular act, a particular fetish, whatever. This applies regardless of the gender of the participants.

    You'll be comparing real people to porn stars, etc, and because they aren't exactly what you're looking for/aren't doing the things you want/don't "want you" right now (that's what your brain thinks...)/etc they'll come up short. Or you'll be using real people to enable a fantasy, which can be damaging.

    This is tough, and porn does warp your secuality to a greater or lesser extent (based on content, amount consumed, time you've been consuming for, etc), so you're not alone. I've experienced this - I'm currently trying to rewire myself and hoping aspects of what I'm into online are porn induced rather than inate.

    Keep going, push through this. It's hard, but hold on tight and you'll get through!
     
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    I find myself with only a matter of days without watching porn and the weird shit that interests me holds absolutely no footing , except that I know when I get into it I'm interested again. Not initially but takes time. It indicates how porn can kind of warp , in everyday life if I've gone without for a few , I actually have to think about it. Mainly I'm apathetic towards it , and porn in general , it's mainly boredom that myt lead to it at which point I'm back chasing the dragon
     
  12. I also feel that many of the reality girls don't like me, I don't know if I should like more girls. But:

    1) Always P will be there. I am 41 y.o., If now I dont fight to get a pretty girl, when I am old if I have not found her I will have to settle with P, because I will be too old for them. Now is the time to fight to get them.
    2) The depression that porn produces is because we are telling to our brain that we are not brave enough to go for real pretty girls. I don't want to feel myself those depression feelings never more, I prefer to align 100% with my target. And I want a real girl who is like the ones I saw in P or similar... :rolleyes:. At least I will fight for it. If I want it, maybe I must improve myself maybe 500%, if it's the challenge I accept it :cool:
    3) And with this energy we still get other important things in life. I don't want more waste my life energy in this sh-t for nothing. I've already spent too many years in vices.
    4) The happiness that Nofap gives me, it makes me feel that I have a degree of self-control that never I felt it. I feel myself unbreakable. Achieve nofap for 90 days is harder than fuck with a Victoria secret girl, we all know it :D:D
     
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