fap every month or 3months as reward ?

In my experience, there are several problems with this plan:

The first is the fact that it leaves you craving for more. So, even though you may succeed at doing it only once a month, it will drain a lot of your willpower and you need the stuff for doing other more important things (not fighting your desire to binge).

Second, if you were once addicted to porn, there are chances you will relapse to it if you masturbate.

Third, you waste your semen. And since I am in the Retention part of the forum, I don't think I need to demonstrate the problem with this.


In my opinion, it would be a good idea for you to think that rewarding yourself with fapping because you abstained from fapping is similar to rewarding yourself with only a tiny amount of cocaine every month because you abstained from cocaine. So, may I suggest you choose some other natural rewards that aren't related to masturbation?

 

We forget the fact that masterbstion is highly addictive and highly accessible, and what were doing is compulsion not a concious behavior.

 

Doing the exact thing you’re trying not to do is not a reward! A reward is something fun and good for you.

 

Not really. And it’s obviously not good for you

 

There is no harm in my opinion, if you do it without any porn assistance. I think it´s totally okay, after you´ve beaten the 90 days once, to set up challenges like this and give yourself a reward like an intense masturbation session, that really satisfies you.(meaning, ejaculate as much as you want, until you really feel done)
Much better than sweating in neverending sexual frustration and regularly complaining here about "relapses" or even binging on porn.

 

Masturbation will keep you in the pmo addiction cycle. Don’t fool yourself

 

It will eventually lead back to pmo and you’ll be right back where you started

 

Having this thread in the Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation forum seems rather strange to me.
https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/what-belongs-in-this-section-and-what-doesnt.175315

IMO, the answer is no because you are a novice and have not even rebooted. After you have achieved this (for example, much later this year), you might want to ask this again. Meanwhile, remain committed to NO porn and NO masturbation.

 

Sorry to be doom & gloom but masturbation is negative. There really is no good part of it. You’re essentially fooling your body for a cheap thrill that never truly satisfies.

 

If you ask me don't do that.Masturbation is addictive and can lead to pmo.I know what you mean by saying reward yourself but that is regret.

 

Imagine your addiction is a monster inside of you. It's a stupid monster. It has no concept of time. Tell it you will feed it in 90 days time and it's immediate reaction will be to stop shouting at you to feed it(you will feel comfortable). However the monster will soon realise you have no intentions of feeding it any time soon so will start shouting louder than ever(cravings and urges).
If you tell the monster you do not want it in your life any more it will shout loud now (this is why you feel uncomfortable with the idea of stopping forever), but the longer you go without feeding it the weaker it gets until all that is left is the memories of the monster inside of you. You know you were addicted but no longer are controlled by the addiction.
Don't give your monster hope.

 

Why don't you reward yourself with something that actually improves your life rather than shallow physical pleasure which drains your body, increases aging, makes you dumb and stupid and physically weak

 

I really don't care, but the fact you are in this forum makes everyone think you're addicted so of course everyone is going to tell you to not do it. That is like going to rehabilitation and saying that you want to reward yourself doing drugs.

 

oh yeah, that is risky. If I look at this as an addiction, such as alcohol, would I reward myself once a month for not drinking by having a drink? Many people attempt this and it always fail. If you're capable enough to go 30 days, you can keep going. Of course you will want to fap. But giving it to that is what gets us in trouble to begin with.
If you've gone this long you can go longer. And you're thinking will start to change, so it won't always be so difficult.

 

I think it's not a problem if you are here just for your porn addiction. The important thing, I think, is to not do it with something you see as porn, for instance, porn video as well as nude image, or tinder, or whatever can lead your all work in a relapse. Masturbation is not bad, addictions are bad! There isn't a supreme rule, every case is different, every addiction is different, and every way to solve it is different. So masturbating is bad? I don't know, is masturbating one time in 3 months a problem for your case? think about it and choose. Or at least I think it works like that XD