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THE 100 DAY SPARTAN CHALLENGE (OPEN)

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by Kratos_GOW, Jun 13, 2019.

Are you a warrior.?

  1. Yes

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    63.6%
  2. No, I am loser

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  3. I want to be

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  1. the alpha project

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    Check In Day 10(6)

    Hello Spartans,

    I saw a woman in the gym today and it reminded me that I have been thinking about something recently.

    I saw the woman and I had this thought about a sexual act. And then I thought to myself, hmm. For that to happen there would need to be a lot of things to happen first. It’s not just going to happen instantly. At the very least we need to make introductions and spend some time together. And find somewhere private. It is possible for this to happen soon after meeting but not likely. At the very least it will be a couple of hours away. More likely it would be a couple of weeks after a few meetings.

    Compare with pmo. I see a woman I like. On YouTube or in person. If it is in person I am slowed down by the need to find a bathroom. But if I am already alone with my YouTube or porn site then I can just go straight to the act myself. It completely erases the need for interaction with another human being. No need to wait. No delays of any kind. It’s instant gratification.

    Lately when I see a woman I find physically attractive I hear myself wondering if I would like her as a person. And lately I have been thinking also, it would be great to enjoy my time with women as people not just as potential sex partners.

    I’m not saying I’m opposed to sex based purely on physical attraction yet. But what I’m aware of is how distorted pmo has made my brain. It’s tricked me into a kind of fantasy where sex happens almost immediately after I feel the desire. I once had sex with a young woman an hour or two after meeting her. But even then there were things to negotiate. I introduced myself. We chatted for a while. I got her interested in me. I invited her to my room. This is about as fast as I can imagine it happening honestly. And it was still an hour or two delay. Pmo erases all that. And it creates a kind of fantasy loop that cannot be matched in reality. Because in reality there is another human being involved and I have to partner with them. We have to agree to engage in certain activities together. I have to engage with the person inside the body I find attractive. It’s not just about me. It’s about another person too.

    Pmo really damaged me. It trained me to just focus on myself and my pleasure. It trained me to view women as physical attributes and to ignore their personal attributes. It made sex empty and I think it made me feel empty inside too because all I am engaged with during pmo is my sex organs. I am also erased. Who I am is irrelevant. All that is involved is a mechanical and machine like process resulting in a pathetic release of endorphins.

    Things are slowly changing for me. I can feel it. And I want to continue to feel these changes and see where they take me. So I’m continuing with this challenge Spartans. I believe there is still more freedom and glory to be earned.

    Stay Strong!
     
  2. PeterJL

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    Ha! It was busy and I'm tired.

    At some point I'd like to get some detailed journaling in.

    Day 18, checking in.
    Glory to God.
     
  3. Kratos_GOW

    Kratos_GOW Fapstronaut

    Good luck with that
     
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  4. All all

    All all Fapstronaut

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  5. Kratos_GOW

    Kratos_GOW Fapstronaut

    Good luck with the challenge but please remember to start checking in from day 0 regardless of the streak.
     
  6. Kratos_GOW

    Kratos_GOW Fapstronaut

    PMO really damaged our reward system and how we perceive women as a person. Really good insights. Thank you for the post.
     
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  7. Kratos_GOW

    Kratos_GOW Fapstronaut

    Alright this challenge can use some new members.

    100 DAYS SPARTAN CHALLENGE IS OPEN TILL 26 JANUARY.
     
  8. TheRealAwakening1996

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    Alright everyone, after failing and relapsing for probably at least 100 times (including relapsing yet again at the beginning of this new year), and constantly falling into depression and loneliness, I am back on Nofap (No PMO) again for real this time, and now I’m getting back in this challenge again. It’s good to be back here again. Gotta take this one day at a time.

    Day 0.
     
  9. Kratos_GOW

    Kratos_GOW Fapstronaut

    Good luck Warrior. Dont give up. Understand and talk to yourself about change, going back to old things was always a disaster, who knows what will happen if i actually change?
     
  10. Wolfyoufeed

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    Day 25 (33 personal)

    No matter how bad the past has been, no matter what we’ve done or has been done to us... we choose what we will do and how it will affect us from now on.

    There is always something positive, and always something to be happy about.

    Life is a miracle, I am glad to fight along side you Spartans
     
  11. Espi1971

    Espi1971 Fapstronaut

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  12. bpboy1993

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  13. Kratos_GOW

    Kratos_GOW Fapstronaut

    Good luck on your journey. If you have any kind of problem just type it here. Everyone will listen.
     
  14. Kratos_GOW

    Kratos_GOW Fapstronaut

    Big numbers there. Happy for you guys. Lets go all the way!
     
  15. Espi1971

    Espi1971 Fapstronaut

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    I love that quote! It reminds me that pursuing our goals often involves struggle but we can always keep going no matter what. We can choose to perceive struggle as a great learning experience which only makes us stronger.
     
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  16. Espi1971

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    Will do! One day at a time :)
     
  17. Espi1971

    Espi1971 Fapstronaut

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    Keep going.

    Don't quit, no matter how many times you fail.

    I think you are wise to admit your failure AND to acknowledge your progress.

    Keep checking in. When you hit that 14-Day mark you're gonna feel so good about yourself.
     
  18. Espi1971

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    Only recently is it very apparent to me that "screen addiction" is for real.

    Whenever I see inbound messages and likes, or whenever I hear my phone ring, or whenever my phone signals or vibrates, I instantly feel excited and happy.

    Part of this is a good thing, i.e. the daily support and encouragement that I receive here on the 100-Day Spartan Challenge.

    But another part of this, I suspect, stems from my deep-seeded yearning for control and acceptance.

    For example: All day yesterday I kept checking for incoming messages on an online dating site to which I recently subscribed. This is clearly an obsession for me right now. Partly because I'm excited about meeting women, but partly because I'm chasing the excitement and rush that I feel from receiving likes and emails. For me, obsessively logging onto the dating site involves emotional ups and downs, and I'm convinced that I'm addicted to all of it.

    I've reduced my use of digital devices, particularly when I'm at the gym, or when I'm out hiking and mountainbiking, but I still spend too much time checking my phone, and the thought of disciplining my use and time on my phone feels like yet another tough challenge that I must confront and work on, and it's way outside of my comfort zone right now.
     
  19. Espi1971

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    I am reminded of someone who once said, "There's no place worth going that involves a shortcut."

    For me PMO is all about instant self-gratification: the quick path; the convenient path; the cheap path.

    I realize that my most worthy endeavors are rarely, if ever, quick, convenient, or cheap.
     

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