At what point do you consider your marriage sexless?

There was no physical attraction from day one. We each needed a roommate that was financially responsible when we were in our early 20s. We had known eachother from middle school, she was attracted to me, I liked her as a friend. That was 20 years ago. By the time we got married we had lived together 10 years. It was already very much uninteresting. We have an 8 month old, twins on the way, a big mortgage and medical professional careers. Financially it is good, and we are good friends.

 

Also novelty is needed, testosterone production kicks in with dopemine, dopemine comes from novelty. Monogamy goes against ancient mammalian wiring. If you're religious, I suppose you can act as if it's a good thing. But it really just leads to the death of your masculinity.

 

So why did you marry then?

She must really yearn for some mammalian novelty at this point, poor woman.

 

Because she wanted to get married, I didn't, she knew that. I do not pity her, as she has made all her decisions, well informed about how I feel. Including not having attraction for her. She stayed when I wanted to break up. She pushed marriage when I told her I wasn't interested.

 

The 8 month old was planned, the twins, was an oops. But I can't complain. We make beautiful babies. My daughter is a magazine baby. We can't go anywhere without people stopping us to admire her, and I suspect my twins will be the same. We all know how important being attractive is. It's pretty much everything.

 

I’ll be 71 in March. I can say this my wife would love for us to have a sexless marriage. She longs to be hugged and touched but sex is painful and uncomfortable. ( there are medical issues) So I have to settle for non vaginal releases. I miss it terribly. To me the penetration makes me feel connected to her and my most intense feeling of love for her. (46 1/2 years married.)

 

Wow! I'm 34, and my wife is 31...can't comprehend what sex is like at that age! I hope I still have a sex drive then, that's good going!

What is sex drive, erections, etc like at that age?

 

Certainly less immediate and less frequent. You go slower but still works. Once you get going it’s just as good. Still have wet dreams but not as often, once a week or so. Less morning wood but also still happens. It’s about the only thing that doesn’t shrink. Full on only about 45degrees when erect not quite as hard. Wife takes more work to get going. Still worth the effort. Urges are less frequent but still have to restrain from M or you might not be ready if called to duty. The weirdest thing is you look in the mirror and you don’t recognize who your looking at. No longer the strong young man you were. Just some old man.

 

Thanks for sharing! Good to know it even works at that age, well done!! Gives me motivation to stay in good shape!

 

If I am lucky enough to live to your age, I wholly intend to get on test and HGH, illegally if necessary. When they bury me, they'll have to put me in a double wide, my lats and chest will be so big