First day and no hope

There is hope for recovery friend, the more you try, the stronger you will become! I believe you can do it, for a better sex life in your marriage as well. Good luck and God bless your journey

 

Good luck, man!

No hope lost as long as you realise it. That only through determination could happiness be achieved.

 

There is always hope. The best thing to do is believe in yourself and making no excuses. Every time you get a urge do some pushups, go for a walk etc. It’s like a game every time the urge goes away it takes longer to come back the first 7 days were the hardest for me. (these are the best tips i have for you, so used them. this is my first streak and I’m still going strong ) make a safety net so set a goal first do 1 day when you past day 1 and you relapsed on day 3 say I think I got this my goal is to pas day 2 and this is really affective! This tip is also so useful I call it the 5 second rule you count down for 5 to 0 and do the ting you want to do or stop M for example. It’s so you don’t make excuses

most people fail nofap thanks to excuses and not believing in yourself

tip 1: safety net is for believing in yourself so you can do it

tip 2: is so you don’t make excuses the 5 second rule.

 

There is Hope... always.
I will be honest with you. You got a long way ahead.
Many use porn to escape. Not just from their problems but also from themselves.
You have 1 life. Not 1,5 or 2. Just 1. Who knows how much time remains for any of us or even the people around us.
If you really want to be free from addiction then let me give tell you the most obvious but least recogniazed fact on NoFap.
YOU ARE 1 DECISION AWAY FROM BEING FREE.
Not 2 or 3. Just 1.
The difficult part is to be sure about it once.
Take all your strength all your emotions all your heart.
Start this ´journey with the intention to end your addiction and not just reboot over and over again.
Failure will teach you what you refuse to change and learn.
You will fail countless times.
But if you do this serious and don't beat yourself up for every failed attempt you will grow
beyond what you can imagine.

Emotions are important but they should never effect the decision between action and inaction.
Being brave doesn't mean to have no fear. It means to be afraid of something but still doing it.

 

Let me give you the very first task. CHANGE THAT PITYFUL NAME!
If you want to be great than you have to believe in yourself.
That name is not yours. It's what your addiction makes you feel like.
If Hope is what you need then become Hope!
I don't know you but if you really want to... you can have my old name but
I highly recommand you to come up with your own name. Something that
has meaning to you. Don't be afraid of who you are.
How about... Sky-guy ?
A little bit because of sky(pe) but also because (stars shine the brightest when they are surrounded by darkness).
Guy because well it sounds a little more catchy. Sky-guy!
Yeah that's what I will call you even if you don't change your name to it.

 

Welcome!

You have made the first step and the right choice. This is the strategy I used and it's been going well so far:

I believe the next step is to do some reading in this community. Get familiar with the various addictions and related issues. Participate. Tell us your story as to how you got to this point. This is an important step because it will help you practise to admit your problem to yourself, and then to others. Then you need to decide what you want to achieve. What is it that you want to eliminate? Once you have decided that then you have to take the steps to make that happen. Those Skype accounts will in all likelihood have to be deleted. Anything that you know will be a trigger (that's where admitting it to yourself comes in) will probably have to be removed. Anybody who is likely to send you images or contact you to participate in behavior that is negative will have to be told not to do so (that's where admitting it to others may come in). This will be a difficult journey, but we all have to be patient with each other and with ourselves.

Good luck and I hope to see you participating.

 

You meant experience. Failure is part of the way to success. Don't promise. Do it. Never promise things to earn trust. Do things to earn trust.
Look I know people who failed daily and they grew over time. Learning is the key to success. If you don't learn and try new perspectives you will be stuck here forever.

 

im gonna give you some tough love. grow up man. you're 35 and married for chrissake. you beating off to porn is sad and pathetic. what if your kids saw you jacking off to porn? what kind of role model would you be?

just stop now before it gets worse.

 

Stop hiding from your wife---be open about your addictions