Please help. I don’t want to lose my wife

Stop porn and be totally honest with her.

you could start by using blockers or accountability software.

 

Did she talk to you about it ?

 

Are you addicted? Have you tried to stop in the past? Why did you use porn in the first place?

You need to decide why you want to stop. Use this as a chance to become a better husband and find the underlying cause.

 

i think you should talk to her about that. Admitting that it is a problem and you are working on it.

One advice. If your wife is on board with this and she supports you. Don’t ever lie to her. If you relapse, tell her because trust is really important if you don’t want this addiction to ruin your relationship.

 

I’m 27 and in a similar position. Unfortunately you need to understand that you betrayed your wife and she has the right to decide to leave or stay. CodeTalker is right- no more lies. I’ve been dealing with this with my wife for over two months and I still struggle with instinctive lying. I hope she stays but she has the right to make an informed decision on her future. Tell your wife everything she wants to know and look into therapy, self-help etc. Show her you’re willing to change.

 

forget the wife. what if your kids saw you watching porn? what kind of example would you be?

 

I've had 2 ladies leave me when they discovered porn. 1 I really cared for. All I will say is that if you have one that doesn't leave, she probably cares for you a lot, or believes an addict can change, or won't leave maybe because she has low self-esteem.. who knows. The ladies that dropped me both didn't mess around. One we talked a lot after (the one I really cared about) and I got the impression that she would stay, but she either lied to me or changed her mind because she up and left with all her things one weekend while I was away on business and the sad damn thing is I had been clean for 2 weeks and I had just got done telling her how much she changed me. Well after she left me, depression hit hard and I figured what's the damn point of anything - and got right back into PMOing. Now I'm on a huge streak and I'm doing it to literally save my own damn life, because it's been killing me slowly physically and mentally.
Bottom line - this addiction sucks. And what really sucks more is the damn girl that would have saved me and I would have married, lost trust in me and left.. for what reason I will never know. She wouldnt take any of my calls after she left me and I never to this day found out where she went to. Fuck PMO. It has really shifted my life negatively. Now I just look to heal and live for me. It's been a jagged, hard bumpy road of hell.

 

If you install porn blocker on all your devices, at least she will see that you are taking concrete measure to fight this addiction.
Pluckeye works really good on PC (but you need to read how it works on the website) and it's free. It blocks all images/videos unless you whitelist the site.
For android you can use spin browser that block most porn and use an app to lock your default browser.
And for iOS there is a parental control that you can use in addition with spin browser.

That's what I use. It's not perfect, but it's a start and that way she can see that you are taking it seriously.

You could also install an accountability software so that your wife can check what you are doing on your computer. There are different solutions available, but it isn't free.