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Woman seeking advice

Discussion in 'Partner Support' started by Tamerra, Jan 26, 2020.

  1. Jan 26, 2020 #1
    Tamerra

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    I am looking for advice. I have currently been with my partner for 1 year. We decided it was best to get to know each other before we ever decided to make our relationship a sexual one. We waited 6 months before we decided we were ready to have sex. We are both in our late 20s. My partner told me pretty early on that he used to be addicted to porn and was on a reboot/rewiring journey for 4 months hard mode. So when finally decided to be sexually intimate. The first few times he was able to get an erection and climax. I could tell we were both relieved and excited. But lately, he can not get a full erection or climax during sex. It’s really eating me up inside and killing my confidence because I don’t know what to do? Is it normal for progress to go backwards ? What can I do to help him in addition to supporting him? Any advice is greatly appreciated.
     
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  2. Jan 28, 2020 #2
    anewhope

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    I have been there. There is a good chance that he has relapsed. Nearly all addicts do. (I have seen a figure of 95% but don't have the data to back it up.) It seems like the two of you have an adult, mature, mutually supportive relationship. If you talk about it and he admits he has slipped back then the two of you can work on ways to help him try again and succeed. (And find plenty of advice here about how to do it). It will be very difficult for him to admit it because he will feel shame and that he has let you and himself down. There is a chance that there is another reason for his performance issues but if he is a healthy man in his twenties who has been an addict, that's where the smart money lies.

    I hope this helps.
    ANH
     
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  3. Jan 28, 2020 #3
    Tamerra

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    Thank you so much ❤️
     
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  4. Jan 28, 2020 #4
    +TenPercent

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    This is certainly possible, but not guaranteed.
    I was on hard mode for months before I got into my current relationship and the first few times we had sex were really amazing!! But, since then, I occasionally had trouble with getting full erections / lack of arousal / premature ejaculation . . . there are many factors that may be at play. It could just be stress in other parts of his life.
    I am hopeful that you will work things out with your partner as it sounds like you are very supportive and just trying to see how you can be more supportive. Hopefully that helps!
     
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