[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

MasterPablo · Jan 29, 2020

Daily check-in

RestartGame_ · Jan 29, 2020

happy camper said: ↑

@RestartGame_ , We all slip up time and time again but that doesn't mean we aren't making progress. It is up to us to choose to celebrate the small wins, "It's a long journey but if you focus on the mini milestones along the way you will find beauty in the struggle." - Kobe Bryant

I understand its frustrating to be stuck in the same predicament year after year and feel like you're not making progress. But don't beat yourself up so much. Don't take out all your life's frustration on yourself, I used to make the mistake of doing the same thing. I would always take it out on myself and ended up hurting nobody but myself. Yes the addiction still has a grip on you but it'll fade through right action, right attitude and faith that you are better off without this destructive habit in your life. You cannot expect people to understand what you are going through, you don't owe anybody an explanation and nobody owes you anything in return. If you keep expecting it and you don't receive their support, you are going to be constantly disappointed. That's why it's important to build yourself up because sometimes we have to strengthen ourselves in the face of adversity, because only we know what we are truly going through and the negative effects of what will happen if we don't change our ways.

This is a direct result of the reward circuits in our brains being retrained over years of fapping and it will take time for the brain to heal. Everyone heals at their own pace depending on their degree of prior dependency. But by abstinence and continence, your brain and body will eventually heal and the reward circuits in your brain may respond more naturally over time. We are social beings and our reward circuits are

Don't feel so bad when people are treating you wrongly, don't take it personally. It has nothing to do with who you are as an individual. If someone is mistreating you then it is a reflection of who they are, not of you. All you can do is react to it in a way where it doesn't bother you. To do this, one can strengthen our own mind to not be affected by other's words and actions. It is the expectation that the world needs to be nice to us that creates these feelings in the first place, nobody owes you anything. If they are continually treating you wrong, then maybe they don't deserve to be in your life. It is your choice who you let in to your life and who stays. I love this quote and recite it to myself if someone said or did something that hurt me, "Your perception of me is a reflection of you. My reaction to you is an awareness of me."

These will subside if you continue on your NoFap journey with your focus on the process and not so much on the results. Just take it one day at a time and keep the faith that through a systematic plan of right action you will eventually be where you want to be.

You may also want to read the below link.
https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/7ymixp/did_you_relapse_relax_take_this_into_consideration/
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Thank you so much, your words are a blessing. I already love this community.
Much love to you. Hugs.

RestartGame_ · Jan 29, 2020

Galaxy Hitchhiker said: ↑

Always hard to go through tough times. I'm going through this aswell. I don't have many friends, girlfriend, and today I'm feeling down because I'm in the military and you have to listen to things you don't deserve sometimes.
What keeps me going is working on myself and my projects, if there's no one to hang around I work alone. Because I have hope that tomorrow it'll be better, you never know what tomorrow can bring you (watch cast away, with tom hanks). If you stop believing and working on yourself, things are never going to change.
"If you're going through hell, keep going"
Be safe, Bro. You're not alone.
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Thank you so much for your words. They are a blessing.
And I feel each time more like I am part of a community. And not alone anymore.

I am definitely going to check out that movie. it is noted.

I wish you strength and success and healing.

We gonna do this, we gonna get this addiction over with and live a life we deserve.

Godspeed.

RestartGame_ · Jan 29, 2020

Merry Terry said: ↑

Hey man, if you did M without P, that’s already huge progress. Sometimes it’s hard to see progress on a bad day, because the bad day feels like you’re back to where you started. But progress doesn’t mean no more bad days ever, it means that the bad days get less and less frequent and less bad. Try to look at it that way. And know that you’re not alone!
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Thank you for the words.

Much success and blessings for you.

Minionforgood · Jan 29, 2020

Day 38/90!

RestartGame_ · Jan 29, 2020

Fredi-the said: ↑

This is as good a place as any to vent and let off steam as there are a lot of supportive people here. I feel for your situation, bro, but also feel the need to caution you to not fall into a "victim" mentality. Everyone is out to get me type thinking will keep you stuck and reinforce unhappiness. Believe positive things will happen and act like they already are (fake it til you make it mentality) and your world will change.
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Thank you for the words. I think that's what I needed to hear.
I got all freaked out about feeling negative emotions and my positive emotions being desensitized and that the world around me would make it harder on me.
But in reality, things are just fine. They always were. It is just me freaking out.

Considering the relapse it was just M anyways so, I have to understand that it's part of the recovery process.

We are going to be victorious!

All the best and hugs!

Deleted Account · Jan 29, 2020

Failure
Rebooting
Doing exercise at every break now
Ends May 1st

Tuinuane · Jan 29, 2020

25/90

adipath · Jan 29, 2020

Day 14: Check in!

Fredi-the · Jan 29, 2020

Day 19/90 No PM (ends April 8)
Day 368 on this challenge
Day 128 weight training (M, W, F)
Day 28 No alcohol
Day 22 No desserts
Day 23 No caffeinated coffee

Luke-201222 · Jan 29, 2020

Day 30/90

Deleted Account · Jan 29, 2020

Day 1

discovery · Jan 29, 2020

Day 74 of 90 complete!

Deleted Account · Jan 29, 2020

GonTheHunter said: ↑

discovery, congratulations for reaching all these days, 72 days is so much good and not all people that come for NoFap did it, but I believe that also, anyone with effort enough can do. Congratulations, again. Stay strong and positive.

45 days already completed, the half of the Reboot, and now you reached 57 days, good job Rise, stay strong.

The most important day was completed! If you want it, talk to me, just click or tap my photo and tap or click start a conversation.

Yes, we both need to start write here everyday, good luck and congrats for completing the day one.

21 days completed! Be proud.

I'm curious, you put Cigs like "/Life" and NoFap like "/90". You will go back to masturbation or porn, or both, after reboot?

Great job bromor!

Oh, my best wishes to you, learn from that mistake.

Yeah, more than one week!

Vendidad, I was feeling miss of your posts, that was my blame I was offline of the forum itself, just focusing on my own profile. I'm back, good luck friend!

ALMOST 30 DAYS!
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You have always been kind to me. I appreciate it, bro...

Check in day 2

MasterPablo · Jan 29, 2020

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RiseToGreatness · Jan 29, 2020

59 days my brothers

in the reboot is very important to gain knowledge about the addiction. so now i´m reading "Rebooting as the best remedy". this e-book (an english translation) is a compilation of the work of an ex-porn addict who is now clean for many years. this guy is a legend in the chinese rebooting community and his work is widely praised. i start to read his work and i´m loving it so far. many thanks to the brother HMHU for the translation

here´s the original post:

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/6-years-clean-rebooting-as-the-best-remedy.135983/

and here´s the ebook:

https://www.filedropper.com/rebootingasthebestremedyseasons1-40

Deleted Account · Jan 29, 2020

Just another day another progress...hope this time it marks the end of this road of addiction which brings only destruction in my life ...day 3/90...

Deleted Account · Jan 29, 2020

Day 2/90

Titu · Jan 29, 2020

4/90 better day

Galaxy Hitchhiker · Jan 29, 2020

Day 12. Very busy lately, but I thing It helps not to watch P and M.

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