How to tell a girl that i like to pleasure her ?

She must be your girlfriend or at least, fwb. Otherwise, you can't "pleasure" her. Because oral s. is still s. And doing only oral looks to me kind of submissive behavior.

 

Maybe you could give her a cake with it written in icing. Either that or a painting.

 

Maybe if you brag about how amazing you are at giving oral, she’ll get a little curious and let you give it a go.

 

I sorta get where I think you're coming from about the oral sex, I too really enjoy giving oral to my wife. I don't consider it submissive (or not negatively anyway), I actually find it a huge turn on for me that she can feel more empowered. I think there's a subtle difference there.

They say Leaders build people up to make themselves better, not put people down to feel better. The analogy kind of applies; I don't consider it putting myself down (being submissive to her), I see it as enabling her to grow. Anyways.. I digress.


How to tell her...? Well, I think she does kinda need to be in a different category other than "friend". Gf, partner, fwb etc all would allow you to have an honest and open conversation about your desire and see how she feels about it. But as a friend, I dint think it's something you can immediately jump too.

 

Have you had sex with this girl yet? Is there attraction? NMI

 

I think you didn't understand me. I mean asking to give her oral s. and not pretending on intercourse after oral is kind of submissive. "I just want to lick your v. and make you pleasure this way and don't want anything more" - this looks submissive, isn't it ?

 

Hi.. in my opinion, nope that's not submissive if it's as part of a relationship. I've done it with my wife because it makes her feel good and sometimes it's enough to just do that. I feel good by doing it.