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Should i give up ?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by I will stop221, Feb 1, 2020.

Give up ?

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  1. I will stop221

    I will stop221 Fapstronaut

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    So i wanted to know if i should just give up
    I have been attempting nofap for 3 and a half years now longest streak i got was about 24 days.
    In the second half of 2019
    The longest streak i have got was 6 days
    I have been trying to at least make it to 2 weeks but i couldn't
    I dont have any motivations i guess but i don't know what to do
    I am starting to feel like fapping is just another part of my life
    And i can't find any motivation nor anything to help me stop
    I started nofap due to religious reasons but after that i found out that it is better when i don't fap everyday
    But now i just can't stop it has been getting worse and worse i now fap every 2 days and can't stop for longer
    I don't know how to acquire new habbits and how to leave old ones behind

    So the main topic,
    Is it too late ?
    Should i give up ?
     
  2. quit@porn

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    No... Dont give up
     
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  3. Kligor

    Kligor Fapstronaut

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    No buddy don't stop!
    I know that is difficult but don't give up.You don't want to live your whole life with PMO after you started nofap,even after relapse most of us feel very bad,doing it whole life would be disaster.
    Stay strong buddy,believe in yourself and continue good way where you are now.You already did 3.5 years that is amazing,keep going.
     
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  4. quit@porn

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    It's not at all late.... It may be that your motivation / will is not up to the mark... Once you observe the side effect then only mostly people get real motivation. May be ur desire ( religious) not that strong now.

    But read problmatic sexual behavior, watch videos that educat on porn addiction like yourbrainatporn site or success stories or problematic sexual behaviors....

    This will give you required stuff for resistance. Internal resistance for porn. Then focus on your triggers and have external inhibitors like keeping social media mobile always in weak hours and others stuff.

    First and for most don't give up brother. It's not good habit.
    One book really helped me a lot see does it help you.

    Book " Power of Habits " Charks Duhigg...

    You must read it
    Best luck... I am getting well soon hope u also join me
     
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  5. quit@porn

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    You are too young brotha... That's why u are facing it hard but. It's best time to give up this sinful habit
     
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    quit@porn Fapstronaut

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    Most importantly keep small extremely small target... You said you did best for 2 days now focus only 2.5/3 daysssss
     
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  8. quit@porn

    quit@porn Fapstronaut

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    Achieve it and then automatically your strength will increase...... Small is beautiful
     
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    quit@porn Fapstronaut

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    Don't give up... Ahoooo. Hahah....
     
  11. getbetter73

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    I just want to say that 24 days is something to be proud of. Obviously the goal is to be rid of it for good, but you should feel good that you got to 24 days at one point. I think the most I've gotten in my 14ish years of this addiction was like 11 days and that was years ago. There are plenty of things to try, and maybe you can make changes to your routine to help combat it. One thing I was doing recently that seemed to help a bit (that I need to continue doing) was to try to only use my laptop at certain parts of the day (i.e. not the evening or the early morning before work, because those were times I knew I might relapse).

    Please don't give up. And if you feel you need to talk to someone, feel free to message me.
     
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  12. IGY

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    Never give up mate. But maybe you can re-consider your motivations. The link below has some suggestions about that and numerous other ideas about how to work smarter in practical ways. I recommend you pick just one thing from each section and work that list. Keep goals achievable as well. Days 1-3 are the hardest because you have just cum from seeing sex etc and your brain craves more. :oops: And, no doubt, you are a very horny boy - which is normal. :rolleyes: But you really can do this!!!

    https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/the-rebooting-toolbox-tips-and-tricks.236156
     
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  13. Beat that meat real bad one day, even if you start to feel disgusted, do it in disgust, feel miserable. Next day wake up and do exhausting things, if there is nothing, hit hard some cardio exercises until you can't walk the next day, then find chores outside and you get a headstart of a new streak.

    I am experimenting something for myself now, but I am not sure if is the right way or if it works for you, but I am still on a learning process. I will get streaks of nofap days, ideally above 1 or 2 weeks, then relapse on purpose with only masturbation and fantasies about a girl that I use to talk a lot and I know her sexual fantasies, morally its not okay but I think she will feel proud anyways that I like her that way.
    I want to be pragmatic and first remove porn from my life, my masturbation I want to be around my senses and a real girl this way porn memories will be pushed away and hopefully I can rewire my brain on more real things rather than pixels. Also I am gonna time my relapse before sleep, only one time, then a cold shower and next days should be busy so if I feel miserable I can blame on other things rather than escaping to porn, going down into chaser effect.
    I will try to do this strategy till june or so, if it works I will expand the time to 1 masturbation/30 days for the end of the year.
    Problem with going all in it seems too hard for me, and if you are not aware of how hard you are addicted, you drop like a stone straight into porn and its the least thing you want. Also counting days is counter productive, it works against the reward system, it is at least for me, I expect always something back for what I do. I just made an excel around which dates I should masturbate for next 6 months and try to stick with that, of course with no porn at all.

    Problem for me is that a girlfriend and love is an unrealistic subject for me, at least this spring. For me porn is a part of a bigger problem and I used to escape for days, but no more. Being always horny like a bull and counting days won't work for me so I will just try to take control in a different way and I am hoping other aspects of life will get improved so I can find finally a girl to love.

    Giving up is not an option for a man.
     
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  14. How much do you exercise?

    Ive started getting more cardio in
    Goina start cycling about 5-10mile a day .

    By the time I get home I'm hungry, thirsty , need a shower and let my joints and muscles relax .

    When your body is in that state , needing fuel and recovery , last thing you want to do after a feel god workout is become a degenerate cunt .

    Get your dopamine from exercise
     
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  15. I will stop221

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    Thank you guys i am really happy i posted now
    I really appreciate all the advice you gave me
    I will try everything that i can do
    I guess i really am just losing my will
    Thanks again
     
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  16. I will stop221

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  17. lolos

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    Obviously what you are doing is not working. Give up on your methods and try something else, but don't give up on nofap.
     
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  18. quit@porn

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    Ur welcome bro
     
  19. quit@porn

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    That's the spirit.......
     

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