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Don't give up, my friend. You were able to make it 22 days which is really fucking good and what you're going through right now is just a bump in the road. I feel like I give out the same advice all the time but it's honestly worked: just occupy yourself and get in Discord calls and shit. Maybe open up to your friends about this addiction so they know what to show around you. I also think it's a good idea to restrict access to what content you can look e.g. use a web blocker that blocks certain sites. Good luck man, don't give up because you're more capable than what you think you can do.

 

For how long do you masturbate every time you do it?

 

This shows how fast you can relapse!

Listen, @stayawayporns, you already did 22 days. That work is good, because it shows what you can do.

Sit down by yourself and remember why you did what you did. Why did you come to NoFap? What motivated you to start and to manage 22 days? What other good things will happen when you persist?

When you restart your hard reboot, think carefully about what you will do the next time someone shows you porn. I have a friend who regularly sends me dirty photos and videos. I just don't look at them. If I do happen to see it (e.g. on a TV show), I don't have to look at tits and bums and whatever. Just look elsewhere.

When your friend says, "Hey, look at this!", what will you say to him?

Here's an idea. You could say something like, "Porn actors are treated really badly. They're abused, trafficked and made addicted to drugs. So for moral reasons, I'm just not gonna support porn or even look at that shit." He can't argue with that without looking like a heartless tool!

Of course, you can tell that to yourself as well. Whenever you pick up your phone to look at porn, well, think about that! And then remind yourself of all the good things that happen when you stay away.

You should ask your phone provider to block adult sites. That will let you pause and think carefully before you relapse.

Good luck. We've all been there and know how tough it is, but if I can stop after 50 years (really!), so can you.

 

your situation is not that bad you just need a gf ?

 

Cold showers? They always get rid of my urges and I think they come with some other health benefits.

 

I'd like to see those blogs! Are you sure that they weren't written by porn producers?

They're not good for your health, especially porn. That's nonsense.

The research indicates that occasional masturbation only to relieve sexual pressure and not for stress relief doesn't hurt. But masturbation addiction and porn are both unhealthy.

Evenings and nights are always the worst!

Are you having therapy at all? Good therapy should help with this.

You can't fight bad thoughts, because they just fight back and win. Instead, you have to do these things:

• When you get a bad thought, just notice it without judgement. It's critically important not to judge ("I shouldn't think this", "I should feel different", "I'm pathetic", or whatever the bad thoughts are). This is because judging causes the bad thoughts to fight back. Instead think something like, "Oh, look, a bad thought. How about that!"
• Allow a bad through to just pass on its way, like a cloud passing in the sky. Don't force it, don't pressure it, don't pay it attention.
• Gently bring your thoughts to something constructive, so that there isn't an empty space where the bad thought was.

There are many different ways to bring your thoughts to something constructive. Here are just some ideas, but I'm sure that you can think of others.

• Do some puzzles. Puzzles interfere with the parts of your brain that cause depression.
• Read an uplifting or interesting story in a book (not on a screen), whether it's fiction or fact.
• Write down your feelings in a diary in a non-judgemental way.
• Take a walk around your neighbourhood.
• Play a board game with a friend. (Board games are underrated in today's screen-filled world.)
• Watch a comedy on TV, although probably best when not close to bedtime.
• Plan tomorrow's work.
• Do some yoga.

Good luck!