Got a boner after seeing my friend's dick

First of, this is probably just a Pavlovian response. You associate dicks with sex, so you get aroused by the scenario, not by his junk in itself.

Secondly, you might want to ponder what friendship means to you. I know if my friends showed their private parts to me, telling me they wanted to fuck me, I would have to think very thoroughly about continuing to be friends with them (and the answer would ultimately be no).

 

That's gay

 

Hi buddy,first of all you know best what you want the most you know yourself better than anyone else.
If you feel yourself triggered,feel shamed,not feeling comfortable or feel that is not right decision to continue be friend with him then you should block him,everyone is different so rely on your will and do what you think is right,we can just give you advice,you are the one who made decision
My opinion is to stay far away from him,there is nothing good can happen if you continue to be friend with him.

 

That is not a friend, that is a sexual predator. Cut contact with him and tell him to fuck off and suck his own dick. You are straight but pmo messed you up, that is all.

 

Can PMO really make you change from being straight to gay?

 

Yes. "Regular" porn is not straight but bisexual because you are aroused and see another man and penis and jerking off is inherently homosexual because you are stroking a penis to get and stay aroused. All in all, pmo is like 80% gay and 20% straight.

 

All.

 

There’s no easy answer. Did you meet this friend on Nofap? When I first started Nofap I friended a couple guys with the same issue.(married with SSA) two I had to break off contact because after going down the rabbit hole I realized they had no intention of trying to heal from the P addiction. One though I am still friends with. Although it started with some sexing we both realized it was part of the addiction but we wanted healing. Now for the last 6-7 months we have become support for each other as we know each other’s desire to get better. Outside of him I have no real person to discuss these issues with. So decide if they genuinely want to be a friend or are they just another part of the Porn addiction. Good luck.

 

I have found when I felt strong and secure enough to lay that boundary down with myself first (the hardest) then with the other person is really helped. I encourage you to in a respectable manner talk to the guy about why you have to end the friendship. Otherwise, it's no different than white knuckle approach to stopping stuff, it will not last because you don't believe it yourself. I've acted out solely SSA for my whole life but never had attachment with guys, only girls. I still fight the urge but once you start gaining some understand if why and most importantly what core emotions are beneath the acting out you will take over the power. Keep at it and PM if anyone wants to talk about it.

 

I'm on board with this^^

 

Number one, I don't consider it gay to be aroused by some homesexual stimulus every now and then, if the result is because of PMO addiction. TO me, I consider sexuality to be based on who you'd want a long lasting sexual/romantic relationship with, not who you'd want to have sex with a few times for experiment.
Yes I agree, it tends to be more the situation that turns you on, not the dick/vagina itself most the time. Like if you masturbate a lot, then you see a dick, it will remind you of masturbating and thus the feeling turns you on.
After we've been addicted to PMO/MO for a long time, our body will naturally want stronger and stronger stimulus to get off on. Even if it includes things we were once repulsed by. Also we tend to become aroused by once we had a sexual experience with.