Any cure for gayness?

I've read a published paper regarding unusual case of young man who aquired severve HOCD after having sex with his cousin. It was so difficult for him that he couldnt work or study. Medications and therapy were applied and after few months the same man was in happy relationship with a woman.

I would say its very difficult to say. I would still go with hard 90 reboot.

 

Yes, I agree.

 

I think fantasies, often extremely explicit fantasies that can even disturb us, are part and parcel of dealing with porn addiction and, as counter productive as this may sound, a decent course of action may be to try and disconnect yourself from the fantasy and thus stop allowing it to disturb you. This is easier said than done, I struggle with it and honestly, probably always will to some extent, but its better imo than spending all the time ruminating on it and wondering what it means. All the time you spend letting it drive you insane can be spent doing something more productive instead.

 

A few big things that have helped me:

1) Fitness & Finance: By becoming the type of guy I’m attracted to, I’m less likely to envy other men in an unhealthy way which usually led to sexual desires.

2) Don’t let “triggers” make you abnormal: A big part of ssa for me was a feeling of not fitting in with other guys. Obsessively avoiding “triggering” stuff which shouldn’t be triggering just reinforced in me the idea that I’m different / don’t belong, which increased the intensity of the ssa.

3) Bro Bonding: Men need other men to bond with in healthy and robust ways. We need to be able to share our struggles and victories, to joke and build each other up, and to challenge each other. Lacking these things results in similar feelings of alienation from other men, which intensifies ssa.

So.. get serious about working out and becoming the kind of stud you’re attracted to, push past the triggers to overcome them, and find some bros to get real with.

 

try to avoid the fantasies. thoughts will turn to actions eventually. so stop them at thought level itself.

 

i wouldnt advise you to watch gay porn. or any kind of porn for that matter. let reboot work itself. give yourself 90 days or more without pmo. that should help you clear your mind.

 

that's good, but i have a rather horrible and repenting experience. the intense n frequent gay porn made me want to experiment n i've done some stuff i'll regret for life. cause i felt filthy after that.

watching different kinds of porn just to make sure of ones orientation isnt the right way imo.

i dont think one has to confront ones fears all the time. i'm scared of centipedes. that doesnt mean i should lie in a box full of them. i'd rather be with people i like than think about overcoming fears.

watching gay porn may make one want to try. it made me want to. i was like i want to have as much fun as this guy is having. but turns out i didnt have any fun n only felt disgust at my actions.

i'd say thoughts turn to actions n soon that turns to habit. try to avoid fantasy as much as you can for 90 days.

 

Lol man i don't think there's one.

 

Definitely NO! as gayness isn't an illness.

Almost every male fears he is gay during puberty, that is just hormones messing with your mind.
But if it is a fetish, developed behaviour, follow the advice given here by others. Read up on it.
Hard reboot.
Small note: never post this kind of question without a lot of background information.

If you are gay, except yourself, and love yourself even if your society doesn't and you have to hide it.

 

Use hypnosis and reprogram your mind. Everything is programming anyway. Find subliminals or hypnosis programs and wipe that gay away

 

Yes, become stranded on a deserted island with a beautiful woman.

 

now i can say gay fantasies majority of times dont entice me much. gay porn appears boring. trust me i do not say this out of any pride. there was a time when i couldnt live without it n have seen hardcore stuff. i'd sit at the bus seat n read gay sex stories. my laptop background image was a gay porn pic. so yeah i was a super addict.

at times i still get fantasies. got one yesterday, but i dont crave them as much as i used to earlier. therapy helped me. it can help you too. what didnt work for me was acting out. it only made matters worse.

 

Men having sex with men aren‘t necessarily gay. A gay man is not per se fixed on sex. Let me ask you how do you define a straight man? How does he know he is straight? Does he know by being fixed on c*nts, p*ssies, tits? Li*k & f*ck?

(Straight guys don‘t think of women in terms of vaginas (I hope) or tits unless they are sex and/or porn addicts.)

 

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